QOTD 5/9

FutureMrsC614 Posted: May 09, 2009 12:19 PM

QOTD 5/9

good morning girls!! Hope the weather is nice today: I am stuck in the ER dungeon again :O)

So the question today is:
Do you feel like your friendships with your friends will change after you get married, especially your single friends?

gina409 Posted: May 09, 2009 01:20 PM

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well as sad as i am to say it..yes....itsnot even bout getting married..things just change as u get older...u dont ee each other a much..i have a good friend who is looking for houses in long iland right now so i def wont see her as much and everyone has thier own thing going on..but its ok..it may not be like we were when we were kids but its not like we will stop being frinds

coldasice217 Posted: May 09, 2009 01:33 PM

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I don't really have many friends. I can count on one hand my friends, and have some fingers left over

So that being said, I don't think much will change, because I really don't see my friends now. My one friend lives in Brooklyn now, so I barely see her, my other friend works opposite hours from me, so more nights and weekends, so that's hard, and my other two friends I don't really see or keep as close in touch with anymore. It s/ucks.

Amberrenee6705 Posted: May 09, 2009 01:35 PM

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I think they do slightly. I myself dont have many single friends, but after I had my son, they definitly did. With a husband or child, your just not as free to do things anymore as you werre before.

MrsGRod09 Posted: May 09, 2009 01:41 PM

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I think so they have already changed since i started dating FH so i'm sure it will change even more.

caligirl87 Posted: May 09, 2009 01:44 PM

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Unfortunately all of my friends have moved away and I'm the very last one where I live. The last one moved away in Feburary. We are moving when we get married (actually quite a bit), so I hope to gain a lot of married friends. The good news is that once we finally get to NY in Jan. I already know one good friend who will be there and she's getting married 2 weeks before us.

MLAngelo Posted: May 09, 2009 03:37 PM

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No I don't think so. Most of my friendships haven't changed as my friends get married. A few have and I am sure a few will , but I suspect for the most part they won't.

Kids however, kids are rapidly changing friendships.

fiore76 Posted: May 09, 2009 03:43 PM

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I don't think so

Summertimegal424 Posted: May 09, 2009 04:28 PM

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no i hope not. i think they will stay the way they are now, FH and I are basically married.... it feels like it anyway ha ha ha

elysemichelle Posted: May 10, 2009 12:14 AM

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as i am seeing alrready with my BP, YES.

Celeste617 Posted: May 10, 2009 08:37 AM

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No. I've been with FH for 10 years so I can't imagine anything changing. I barely see them as it is now since we are all so busy.

TaraVinny Posted: May 10, 2009 08:45 AM

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things have already changed a little bit. my fh and i hang out a lot with our couple's friends. we just have a more in common.

mlcvln129 Posted: May 10, 2009 09:03 AM

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I have some friends who have already changed a bit since the engagement. Some college friends have really surprised me. Over time, things like this happen, and I'm sure that as old friendships fade, new ones will pop up in their place.

chicky724 Posted: May 10, 2009 09:22 AM

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I don't think so. I have an amazing group of friends from college and we've been friends for over 10 years and not much has changed. Two couples are already married, and me and another couple are getting married this year.

I def think it WILL change after we all start having kids though!

VeggieBride Posted: May 10, 2009 09:24 AM

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i think i will see them all more actually. Most of my single friends are technically in serious relationships ( i consider you single if youre not married or engaged) and they all live on LI for the most part so i dont see them a lot now bc i work and live in the city. After we get married we're buying a house on LI so i KNOW i will see everyone more which makes me so happy.

Cassie15 Posted: May 10, 2009 12:25 PM

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It most certainly will and it has from personal experience. This particularly true if you have friends who are single/unattached relationships. Although they will occasionally call you to hang out, it will be limited to happy hour, coffee breaks, shopping, etc. This is because they noticed your lifestyle changes after you get married due to a preconceived image (to be a good housewife) that your friends may project of you. So when you have a ladies night, they have to make sure it's a lounge/bar type not a nightclub, they want to avoid confrontation btwn you and your FH for dragging you out to a club. Another big thing is you can never tell them your countless or endless stories about your married life. Truth is they will get bored to tears and get tired of hearing about the same stories--how wonderful/exciting or how crazy marriage drives you. It's great that we're experiencing this new life with our FH but unfortunately for the single gals, it will only make them feel depressed. I guess it's important to have friends that are single as well as married so you see and understand with both angles.