Today's question is about FH... how involved has he been in the planning? Has he been a help or a pain? Were there things he cared about that kind of surprised you or did he kind of just say 'yes dear' to everything?
FH for me has been a huge help. He is much more practical and grounded than I am so when I start freaking out about details he puts it all in perspective for me. He definitely has an opinion... he put his foot down at a few halls because of things like 'the smell' or 'the acoustics' at the Vanderbilt. Food was a HUGE deal to him as he is my little food snob and he also took a huge interest in the hotel block but I think that is because all of his guests are OOT. But for the most part he takes a back seat, he'll come along to every vendor but in the end lets me make the call when he knows it is something that is very important to me. I don't think the planning would be as easy as it is for me if I didn't have him helping me along or being as supportive as he is.
MarjorieFrank
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FH is really involved with the planning, and I love that. He loves being included haha. We have made every decision together, and I feel like all we ever talk about lately is wedding planning. Sometimes he is involved TOO much, like with the color scheme.... he should not be part of this decision! All he does is complain about the amount of pink haha.
chrisandletizia
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ohhh I heart FH!
FH has been involved in every step of the way. Now it all depends on HOW YOU DEFINE involved. For example he came with me to the first florist appointment and sat through the whole thing. He was involved in the sense that he was present but spent most of the time looking around or fiddiling with his blackberry...which is totally fine...I understand if it's not a rose he has no idea what it is!
but he was TOTALLY involved in finding the wedding location and picking up some of the food on the menu. He likes to know what's going on with every bit of the planning but is open in leaving most decisions to me.
As we continue planning he is being very involved in choosing our band and our honeymoon and the band attire! Which honestly doesn't surprise me....
however, he can be a pain. For example last night he told me that the groomsmen were going to wear fishnet shirts, leather vests, and champs. YEAH OK...NOT FUNNY!
Lsorrent
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Not much at all. He came to all of the appointments with me, but didn't really give much of an input unless he REALLY likes or REALLY didn't like something. He's leaving most of it up to me.
However, he did lick the envelopes for the STD's last night......that was a huge help
Alfysbaby
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With FH it can be weird one min he wants to be involved then the next hes like whatever it drives me nuts!
paprika023
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most of the time he's a pain bc he'll seem like he has something to say then i'll ask him and he'll go 'whatever you want dear' drivvvves me nuts!!!
deanna225
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fh was so involved in the planning, but now he has givin up alittle. i like it this way more.
depoc1011
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fh was very involved with the selection of the rh and band...everything else i ask for his input but he is really leaving a lot up to me....and he is very helpful when i need him to be!
mariedsgn
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My FH is very involved we picked out the RH, photographer and band together! He also helped with a lot of the engagement party stuff, We DYIed a bunch of things including tissue paper flowers for the CPs (yes he was making flowers) - he is so cute he emails me wedding cakes that he likes - I love him so much!!!!!!
jussie82
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FH really only cared about the dj and the rh..i think he will also care about the officiant...other than that he really lets me do what I want...he doesnt care about colors or decor or any other small details...the other day I was playing potential first dance songs and his response was either no or 'that ones fine'...my response was 'this is OUR wedding song how is 'FINE' okay...lol
Mrs Z To Be
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FH is only a pain about how much I spend.
Otherwise, he seems to say 'whatever you want' a LOT.
I'd say he was pretty involved with the big things - DJ, RH, Photo - but all the smaller details are pretty much my call...
kris_gets_hitched
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He was very involved with the RH search, but I made the appointments with places and did the research beforehand. Showed him the websites of places willing to do vegetarian weddings that worked with our budget and we decided on which to look at.
He's going to be very involved with the DJ search and the photographer we pick.
Flowers are my call; he doesn't care much.
He actually seems to care a bit about the cake, which is cool. Color theme too.
We're going to be working towards incorporating touches of Irish and Bengali culture into our wedding as well.
Any DIY stuff will probably be my deal since I'll be making them.
I like that we're collaborating in this. He keeps saying this like 'it's YOUR day' to me but I don't believe that. If it was MY day, I'd throw a party for myself, thankyouverymuch.
jlt2010
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FH is strange in the things he wanted to be a part of. He wouldn't budge about his favorite RH and wanted to join in my search for BM dresses. He's also very precise about the type of cake we're getting but that I figured cuz he's a pastry chef. Strangely he doesn't care about music, but I'm not complaining. I get to make all decisions about that.
iquel
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FH has been very involved and continues to be. He wants everything to come out perfect. He tells me all the time his doing it for me, which I he is definitely a sweet heart. He of course leaves the little things to me such as invitation, flowers, color scheme, etc.
But he does not fully trust me when deciding on our big vendors such as the DJ, pics, limo etc. So we been doing everything together basically, which I personally LOVE his my best friend so I enjoy doing it with him.
little j
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he is involved...but he doesnt have a lot of free time...so it makes the planning go sloweerrrrr.
i am happy he is involved though. i think i would be super bummed if he wasnt, cuz gosh knows my mom and others have not shown too much of an interest in planning. so im thankful my FH wants to be involved.
im sure at times he thinks im a PITA tho cuz i keep tryin to make appointments with vendors and move this process along....lol
lilpiggy742
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i'm doing just about everything. I may ask him a question here and there but he could care less about flowers and colors so i show him a pic and he says fine. If he was planning it there would be a keg and it would be ny giants themed
beebs341
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FH is barely and rarely involved in the planning. But thats the way I like it!
oktropical
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FH wants input on everything lol sometimes it's good and other times I feel like I need to do a sales pitch to him lol
jayepyt
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very little as he cares is how much is it costing us
