*QOTD 7/21***

Original post by Soon2bShea

Jul 21, 2009 07:09 AM

Good Morning Everyone!!

Today's QOTD is inspired by an ongoing issue FH and I have, and are still trying to figure out....

Once married, how will you and FH split the major holidays between your families?

FH's parents are divorced and he is not really close with his mom, but he is close with his dad. So he spends Christmas with his mom and Thanksgiving with his dad. FH was also born and raised down here in FL. Since I am a LI girl, I have always spent EVERY holiday on LI with my family. Even after I moved to FL, I still fly up to NY and spend every holiday up there.

So once we are married, I definitely want to continue going to NY for Christmas...with FH. I told FH I would do Thanksgiving with his family. His family doesn't do alot of traditions, and my family is huge on traditions, so giving up any holiday for me will be very hard, but if I had to choose one it would be Thanksgiving. FH and I haven't come to an agreement yet

iquel Posted: Jul 21, 2009 11:57 AM

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Well since we been dating we switch it up one year my family for New Year and next year his. For Thanksgiving we actually went to both families. We just balance it out. But when we finally get married and start living together we will be planning New Years, Christmas and Thankgiving, etc. every so often so our families to get together. This is something I am looking forward too.

MikesBride2B Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:08 PM

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One good thing about an interfaith relationship...this isn't really a problem!!

Thanksgiving we do my parents...my family has a huuuuuge thing every year and his family is small and in Ohio so it'd be silly to not do it at my parents.

Christmas we will fly to Ohio every year

All Jewish holidays will be with my parents, obv.

If we can afford to fly again, I guess we'll spend Easter in Ohio as well, if not then we'll probably just do something very low key here or I'll find a friend who will invite us to something hehe

jlt2010 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:08 PM

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FH is really close with his family so we spend the holidays with them. They usually invite my mom over so that we're all together.

AdriandSteve Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:12 PM

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I have noooooo clue!!!

For Easter and Christmas Eve it looks like we just started the tradition of going out to eat as one big fam (my mom, his mom, his sister).

For mothers day we will continue to go our separate ways

Thanksgiving .. i dunno

Christmas Day ... i think we might still go w/my mom to my Aunts in Jersey

I THINK i'd like to host Thanksgiving dinner for everyone. (<- This coming from the girl who can't cook, burns toast and then blames it on the toaster )

Alexandra17 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:13 PM

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The way we have been doing it has been xmas eve-his house or family, xmas day-my house, easter, whatever we want..thanksgiving we have alternated..I think we might try hosting xmas eve..yikes

asg450 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:17 PM

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Right now, I spend time at my family's and FH picks me up and we go to his family's. But I think once we're married we will have our own get togethers where both sides can come to us. And then at other times we will either do my family or his and alternate every other year.

StellaStar13 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:40 PM

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A few years ago my father & step mom moved out of state so even though I miss them, they actually made the holiday situation easier for FH & I.

Thanksgiving is usually w/his family

We do X-mas Eve @ his parents & my SIL's house (this year my dad & step mom are going to be in town so i'm sure they will spend it @ my sister-in-laws & so will we.....FMIL will love that !!!!)

X-mas is usually at family friends BUT the first x-mas we have our house we will start having it @ our house.

Easter has been spent at his cousin's house the past few years but we ended that as of this past easter. Prob in the future it will at my father's cousins house.

Lsorrent Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:42 PM

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We've been living together for almost 3 years now, so we've already managed to split holidays.

Easter: church and brunch with FIL's, dinner with my dad and sister's, dessert at FH's aunt's house

Thanksgiving: always at FIL's

Christmas Eve: dinner and church with my mom
Christmas morning: breakfast with FIL's
Christmas day:dinner with my dad and my sisters
Christmas evening: dessert with FIL's at FH's aunt's house

Mother's Day: bbq at our house for both mothers

Father's Day: bbq at FH's aunt's house, then dessert at my sister's

iHeartMoogle Posted: Jul 21, 2009 12:51 PM

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He literally has 3 family members, so that makes life easier. We're going to host Thanksgiving and we're going to celebrate the other holidays by having his family come to my family's house!

Ivansgirl Posted: Jul 21, 2009 01:28 PM

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thanksgiving will most likely be with FH fam and dessert with my fam

xmas eve my fam
xmas his fam

Easter I hosted it last yer just my fam cause his is huge

kimmaymb20 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 01:35 PM

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We already have to split and its harder for us being right now FH lives with the FIL's in CT.

Thanksgiving we try to alternate but his family is def smaller then mine .

Xmas depends on what his family does but right nwo we spend it mostly with mine.

It will be alot easier when my parents move to FL we would alternate I guess having holidays by us and maybe going to my parents.

JenBill61210 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 02:37 PM

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not sure because as we are getting older and people in my family getting married things will change... right now t-day is at my aunts but in the future it may be at my sisters house. xmas eve is with my family and xmas day is with his.

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 02:51 PM

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Same as we always do, first half of the day with my fam, then his, then back to mine

StaceYums81 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 09:04 PM

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His family is in terrible shape so we spend them all with my family. Except Christmas Eve his awesome cousin Jahn has a party every year that we go to...

meganbrandon Posted: Jul 21, 2009 09:13 PM

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yeah, we havent figured that one out yet! This year he wants me to do christmas with his family in Kansas and i'm like NO WAY... first of all, IF i can even get out of work (cuz thats my holiday to work) then i'm going to NY to see my family!! haha
But seriously, we're gonna probably alternate Christmas/Easter/Thanksgiving -depending on which ones I can get off cuz i work at a hospital so someones gotta be here :(

GR2010 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 09:13 PM

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I want to make everyone come to us. I hate having to travel on the holidays... with thr FILs in PA it makes it a giant pain.

Kiki1103 Posted: Jul 21, 2009 09:15 PM

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We will probably alternate Thanksgivings, do XMAS eve at my family since thats the day we celebrate, and Christmas at his family. It works out pretty well.