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mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 07:57 AM

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So, has anyone made any comments about the fact that you're having a big wedding?

One of our best men keeps making comments, because he and his wife eloped and bought a house and thinks we should do the same. Not that it doesn't sound somewhat appealing, but its like, you did your thing and let us do ours, KWIM? He means well, but his wife is a BM and is less than helpful/interested and I think she's a little jealous that we're having the wedding.

Bride825 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:02 AM

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i find that many people that we arent close to encourage us to elope....but our family and friends are supportive and excited about our big wedding

Lsorrent Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:05 AM

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My father used to tell me I should just take the money and buy a house and have a small wedding. But I beat him to it and already bought the house, lol.

Generally, no we don't get any comments about having such a large wedding. My big Italian family kind of expects it......we don't do 'simple' in my family And FH's family is also pretty big. It actually would've been near impossible for us to have a smaller wedding. Last night I was actually talking to my mom about this and we were discussing how big my guest list got........the problem is, with the exception of the 30-something people on my B-list, I can't cut anyone.................

KatieG2010 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:05 AM

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Yes yes yes!!! They constantly ask where we are getting all this money from. Its NOTFB!!! Fh and I wirk hard and save almost every penny so we will spend it as we see fit! That means if we want to get the best of everything we will at our own expense.

stinenandy2010 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:10 AM

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FH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He keep telling me to cut the guest list to save money.....he even told me to cut all his cousins!

marinai7 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:21 AM

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No, nobody really. Everyone is really supportive and happy that are getting married and don't care if we have a small or big wedding.

christine2010 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:31 AM

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we get the opposite. so many people ask us why we are having such a small wedding. we guaranteed 110 people.

but i have a very simple answer for them, when the wedding planning began FH & I agreed that we would not be meeting anyone for the very first time at our wedding.
at any given moment i want to be able to sit down & write out our guest list. & i have many times been able to write out our guest list from just off the top of my head. i have impressed many people with that ability.

GiannisWifey Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:49 AM

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Nobody from my family has mentioned cutting because there is no possible way to cut any of our guest list, from my side or FH. He has a huge Italian family and I have a big Greek family......our immediate cousins are about 95 so there really isn't anywhere for us to really cut. Some friends have made comments like....'why are you having so many people'....once they realize the size of our families, they usually drop it.

regy_k Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:54 AM

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nobody is saying anything against us having a big wedding, more comments on why we're having a wedding at all and dont just go to City Hall and buy an apt.
I am not upset about these comments anymore, I just nod my head and yes yes yes them.
a lot of times tho I do want to say 'cause we feel like it '

MarjorieFrank Posted: Aug 27, 2009 08:58 AM

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I think both of our families expect to have a 'big' wedding. A lot of people are surprised it is on a Saturday night.
We have gotten rude comments about how we have money, etc. etc. meanwhile we work so hard, don't go on vacations, don't go out to eat, etc. etc. and save so much. That annoys me more than anything. Mind your own business, my savings account is none of your business!

MarjorieFrank Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:00 AM

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Posted by KatieG2010

Yes yes yes!!! They constantly ask where we are getting all this money from. Its NOTFB!!! Fh and I wirk hard and save almost every penny so we will spend it as we see fit! That means if we want to get the best of everything we will at our own expense.

I get this too.

Clover23 Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:00 AM

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hahaha... actually it's just my boss that says something. our wedding isn't even THAT big, and I constantly get from him 'just remember, 2 years from now this won't mean a thing and no one will remember'

I HATE WHEN HE SAYS THAT!!!!

Soon2bShea Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:03 AM

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My brother is the only one saying we should have a small wedding. But then again my brother always needs to say something negative so his opinions get disregarded .

Soon2bShea Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:06 AM

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Posted by Clover23

hahaha... actually it's just my boss that says something. our wedding isn't even THAT big, and I constantly get from him 'just remember, 2 years from now this won't mean a thing and no one will remember'

I HATE WHEN HE SAYS THAT!!!!

wooooowww thats mean!!! (and btw everyone will remember it )

bigsal Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:14 AM

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Posted by Clover23

hahaha... actually it's just my boss that says something. our wedding isn't even THAT big, and I constantly get from him 'just remember, 2 years from now this won't mean a thing and no one will remember'

I HATE WHEN HE SAYS THAT!!!!
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OMG!!! do we have the same boss? I hate when he says this!

JAAMS Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:17 AM

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Yes one of my BMs said 'Omg but that could be a down payment for a house'

and my EX friends are gossiping about how big of a bridal party I'm having, jealous that I am close w/ lots of people I suppose

RitasEngaged Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:18 AM

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The only time we get comments is the amount of guest we are inviting

mariedsgn Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:20 AM

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one person that I work said 'don't waste your money on a big wedding, save it for a house - we had our wedding in the church basement and it was great'

I did not say a word

M_Berk-Glenn Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:21 AM

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NO! My Dad is like the BIGGER the BETTER

We have been fighting bcuz I told him FH & I would do city hall and use the money for a home and my Dad got so angry

So as the biggest financial contributor he gets his wish....

jcreilly Posted: Aug 27, 2009 09:25 AM

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Just Fh he wanted all the wedding money to got towards a house lol He would have eloped noway , I think my mother would have cried na dmy sister would have hurt him lol and his mother is excited about it her other son says he will never get married ( he may just be say that) So this maybe her only wedding!!!!!!!! but he kinda wants it as well!