****** QOTD 9/22/09 ********

Good morning girlies. Here's a wedding related QOTD - it's two-fold.

1. What is it about FH that makes you think he is 'the one'? What is so different about him from your ex-boyfriends/partners that makes you want to marry him?

2. Do you believe in fate? That you and FH were destined to be together?


For me:

1. FH is definitely the one. We've been together for 3/12 years and I have never questioned being with him. We just click in every way. I honestly just sit there sometimes and just wonder what I did in life to deserve/find someone like him.

What makes him different from my ex-boyfriend (only had 1 - we dated for 5 1/2 years) is that my FH lets me be independent, loves me for me, is supportive and always there for me. He makes me laugh and is so laid back and just appreciates life. I can picture him being the father of my kids and know he will be a great dad, which is just the icing on the cake.

2. Once I met FH, I realized that fate/destiny does exist. It's just the way we met that makes me feel that we were meant to be. I honestly believe that we were supposed to be there that night and run into each other. We talk about this all the time. What can I say - can't imagine my life without him.

i don't have any exs. FH was my first boyfriend. we have been together 9 1/2 years already & there is no one else i would ever want to be with. within the first 6 months of dating i knew that he was 'the one.'

one of FHs friends says it best:
only Christine can deal with Chris & only Chris can deal with Christine. it is so true.

1. He 'gets' me. He just understands who I am and loves me for it, regardless of how crazy I can be at times. He makes me laugh and refuses to let me be angry, no matter how much I want to. And finally, but most importantly, we trust each other completely. I never trusted my ex's the way I trust FH. I know he would never do anything to hurt me and vice versa. I can go out with my girlfriends with an eased mind knowing that he's not out doing anything stupid. He stuck with me for the 4 years that I was away at college and never once batted an eye at another girl. He could've easily ended things then and said he couldn't take a long distance relationship......but he didn't. He spent every night on the phone with me waiting for me to come home.

2. I don't know if it's fate or destiny, but I know I wouldn't have it any other way

FH and I have been together for almost 6 years (anniv coming up on 10/10!!!!) and as soon as we met, I had a gut feeling that he was the one, just by how different he was. He is sincere and honest and I love the way he makes me feel. I can be myself around him and not have to hide or act a certain way. The way he looks at me, kisses me, etc......I can laugh, cry, fight, etc with him and I know he will always be there for me no matter what. He is so good with kids and so close to his family and mine that that is a huge deal to me as far as a quality I wanted in marrying someone. We have complete trust in each other and know that we would both never do anything to hurt the other one. I can't imagine NOT marrying him! We truly are best friends and can't wait to start our lives together. It has been a hard road with the long distance factor but we know that it is love that made us get through it all. Of course we have our arguments and our moments but in the end, we both realize how silly those arguments are and we get over it.

I do believe in fate/destiny because of how we happened to run into each other that night and how we met. I believe that things happen for a reason and that reason was for us to be together and get married! I can't imagine my life WITHOUT him!

fh takes me for who and what i am.
he has never tried to change me
thats why he is the one!!!

as for fate....dont believe in it

1. What is it about FH that makes you think he is 'the one'? What is so different about him from your ex-boyfriends/partners that makes you want to marry him?

this one is easy. I am an overly anxious person on my own and with my past ex's they actually made me more anxious. With FH instead it's the opposite and even others have noticed. I'm just at ease.

2. Do you believe in fate? That you and FH were destined to be together?

I would like to think that there was something serendipidous about our meeting but who knows...I guess to some extent it was perfect timing on many levels....maybe fate did have something to do with it. ;)

1. he is the one b/c I have never loved anyone as much as I love him. to me he is the most beautiful, smartest, funniest and craziest. cant be without him. and this is how it was since the beginning.
cant compare him to other bf's cause I never had one before. but comparing to other guys I went out with and liked I would say he is different b/c he really listens to me, he remembers all that I tell him about myself and loves me for me, no matter how ugly I may look in the morning. most important he totally GETS me. never have I had this kind of connection with anyone else, thus no prior bf's.

2. I think it is fate that brought us together. I didnt want to move to US 4 yrs prior to meeting FH, but my parents made me. He didnt wanted to move back to NY but his ex made him. bad and very unpleasant stuff happened in order for us to find such amazing happiness together.

Good question!!

Get ready for a cheese-fest. I'm feeling today!

FH is the 'one' because he makes me a better person, he brings out the best in me. He makes me more fun, more responsible, happier. I don't ever feel jealous or suspicious or anything like that. It always makes me think of this quote that my mom gave to me after ending a particularly toxic relationship.

'Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves.'
-- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

As for fate, I'm not so sure. I've never really liked the idea of predestination, it means I have no control over my life. I don't believe in soul mates and I kind of think fate & soul mates go hand in hand. I believe there is more than one 'perfect person' out there for everyone and you might make a decision that changes the entire course of your life and makes your 'perfect person' a little different than what they would've been if you had taken a different path. I don't know if this makes any sense, but I hope it does! If not, it's still early.

FH and I have been through the worst thing we ever could be. He has stuck by me no matter what. We have known each other for so long. We know how to communicate effectively with each other. We understand how we work together and as individuals. He loves me unconditionally.

I believe in fate. We dated once before and it didn't work out we were young and still had alot of things to figure out. Something brought us back together 6 years later and everything was PERFECT. We both believe fate brought us back together.

Fh was my only love, we have been together for 10 years we broke up for awhile when I was 23 and after 8 mths we knew we where to be together forever!
I do believe in fate and that Fh and are destined to be together I have always know in my heart that he will be with me forever!!!!!!!

We have been together for a little over 6 years now. He gets me 100% and we trust each other completely. I love the fact that we don't have to say anything and we already know what the other is thinking. He can put a smile on my face and make me laugh when I need it the most. He supported my idea of going back to school to become a nurse and quiting my full time job so I could do so, it was a challenge but supported me the entire time. He has seen me at my best and at my worst and still loves me for who I am unconditionally. I can't picture my life without him, he is my best friend.
I had one other serious relationship prior to him, and dated others but never got that 'click' or feeling I do with him.

I would start off saying there was a year break in the beginning. We dated a little over year, broke it off for about a year and have been together ever since for over the past 5 years. We both had some growing up to do, but I told him we would end up back together again, maybe not in a few weeks, maybe not in a few months but we will because we were meant for one another. And sure enough a year later we both ended up at a Yankee game and that was it. I knew in my heart that even in that first year of dating that we would get married.

FH is the one because I just knew within 3 weeks of dating. He just is. I love everything about him. It's our connection that makes him the one, not one particular quality. He is different from fellas in the past because I am comfortable around him 100% and we have that special connection.

I don't know if I believe in 'fate' per say. What I do believe is this: I don't think that there is anyone in the world who lacks something or someone out there. I think everyone has something they are meant to do, or someone they are meant to be with or both. But I don't think that comes from predestination, I think that comes from us. I have a very spiritual, interpretative, hippyish view of the idea of 'fate'.

I do believe!!
I met my fiance through a guy that my friend and I met while we were away in orlando.
Whats the chances of going to a diff state and meeting someone from a town over and then him seeing me up with fh??

Fh puts up with me and all of my crap. He has been through h e l l and back with me through the last 5yrs. He understands me and always supports me even when he wants to strangle me.

It took me a long time to realize he was the one and no I don't believe it was fate. not really sure if I believe in fate.

FH puts up with me - that's a lot to say. We have had our problems in the 3 years we have been together but we get through them and love each other more in the end.

When I see him and our daughter together I couldnt imagine a day of my life without the two of them... that's how I know.

1) FH is THE one because he loves me like nobody has ever loved me before. I feel like I am a precious gift to him, and he treats me like gold. I know he would do anything for me...he is so wonderful. I could never do any better than him (and I continually tell him that he is way too good for me and that I don't deserve him...and he loves me so much he tells me HE is the lucky one!)

2) I'm not going to say that FH is the only one in the world for me...I'm sure that if I had never met him I could have found someone, married them and been very happy. At the same time I often use the word fate when it comes to FH and I....it just feels kismet.

1. He is the most patient Man I know... I can be a tough cookie and he just doesn't let it phase him. He is good to me and always tries to make me happy. I have done more for him than anyother guy I have ever dated. And I think he is the only one who would have ever appreciated it.

2. how is he different? Basically he is honest. Every other guy I have dated was a liar, or a cheat, or both. He is the first guy ever to put me first, and in return I want to put him first.

3. I dont know if I believe in fate... I mean FH and I met 3 different times before we dated. He hit on me 3 times in 3 different summers. The final time we obviously ended up dating and that was the first summer of all three I wasn't going back to school.... so a part of me says yes, and another part says no....

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Posted by JAAMS

I don't know if I believe in 'fate' per say. What I do believe is this: I don't think that there is anyone in the world who lacks something or someone out there. I think everyone has something they are meant to do, or someone they are meant to be with or both. But I don't think that comes from predestination, I think that comes from us. I have a very spiritual, interpretative, hippyish view of the idea of 'fate'.

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That sounds like a really cute way of putting it.

FH was my very best friend for a few years before we began dating. All of my boyfriends before him were jerks... I was honestly really good to them and they would take me for granted and just walk all over me and not give me as much as I gave them. FH saw this and pretty much waited patiently for me to realize that I need to stop putting their happiness before mine. Before we started seeing each other, he promised me that he would always take care of me and make me happy, and that he would never give up on me. Almost 3 years later, it still amazes me that he truly kept his promises. We're still best friends before anything else, and it's so refreshing to be in a relationship that is actually equal and so loving and fun. I figure if I'm going to marry anyone in this world, it should be my best friend.

As for fate, I'm truly undecided. I think for us, it's more of the fact that we know we could have other people and be in happy relationships, but nothing would compare to what we have when we're together. I just don't laugh as much with anybody else as I do with him. We like knowing that although there are most definitely others out there that we could be with, we choose to be with each other.

1. He loves me for me. Me and my younger sister are very close in age and all my guy friends always used to say how hot my sister was. He always makes me feel like I am the pretty one and that she doesnt compare to me at all. He gets that I can be a moody b*itch and still loves me!!!

2. YESSSS i def. believe in fate!!! FH have been friends since we were kids (his aunt and uncle are my parents best friends and we used to across the street from them) and even though i hated him as a kid I always knew we would end up together... I just had this feeling that one day I would marry him!!!!!