QOTD: In what way have you changed most since meeting/FI, becoming engaged?
DebMaher
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QOTD: In what way have you changed most since meeting/FI, becoming engaged?
May leave this one for a couple of days -- since late now....
Well, since we met, I am more mellow, and he has put me in touch with a part of me that had laid dormant for a while, the non career-obsessed, take the time to smell the roses side. He made me appreciate surprises, big and small. Since engagement, I am much more accepting and thrilled, in fact, about becoming a new family. I had been so protective of my own identity and my career that it has been truly eye opening to envision how much better life can be when shared with someone amazing.
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He's given me soooo much confidence, I was in an awful relationship for 2 1/2 years before him with his best friend, and it was a tumultuous relationship to say the least, and I was always second guessing myself. I am the most confident person right now with him, ppl don't recognize me!! Since getting engaged, I have become more appreciative of my parents and see just how much they truly love me
Happybride2005
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When we had our engagement party, one of my aunts told my mother that she never has seen me as happy as I was at the party. My fh shows me so much love. Its just so easy to love him.
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Before my FH, I always thought that life was what it was and that was basically it. I never knew how empty I was and the kind of world I could have with him. I have become happier with myself, more fulfilled, less career obsessed definitely (DebMaher), less conscious of negativity, and just more excited about my future. I feel calm with him, a peace, and like I always have a fan by my side and in my corner. It's the most amazing feeling in the world, and because of him I know truly how to love someone unconditionally. I guess all in all I am a better and happier person for loving him.
February05
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these are such awesome responses!!
i'm mad at FH right now,,, so i'll answer this later... or tomorrow
DebMaher
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Posted by RVCBride
Before my FH, I always thought that life was what it was and that was basically it. I never knew how empty I was and the kind of world I could have with him. I have become happier with myself, more fulfilled, less career obsessed definitely (DebMaher), less conscious of negativity, and just more excited about my future. I feel calm with him, a peace, and like I always have a fan by my side and in my corner. It's the most amazing feeling in the world, and because of him I know truly how to love someone unconditionally. I guess all in all I am a better and happier person for loving him.
I like you without knowing you, just because of this answer.
LadyPrincess
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FH brought out the REAL me - i enjoy life much more being with him
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Posted by neeniebean86
these are such awesome responses!!
i'm mad at FH right now,,, so i'll answer this later... or tomorrow
..or the day after...
dm24angel
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The honest answer- I drink less...lol FH has helped me put my partying ways behind me( most of them anyway!)
BUT..he has also taught me about compromise..I was used to getting my own way a lot and now I think I'm VERY good at compromise..
princess5
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i ams so much more secure in our relationship. i wasn't sure if it really would happen and now it is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and i am so excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am not in a rush for the wedding to take place but i can't wait until the big day!!! i just feel so much more relieved!!! and i feel that we have become so much closer, i know we have to work things out and it is such a different mid set. before i was always like, well we might break up one day so i didn't care as much as i do today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
d&d05
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I was in a long, not so good relationship before FH.
Being with FH made me realize how I should be treated and that I can be happy. With him I can be myself. We have such a great time together. We can also be independent with our own interests AND share our lives. I love the way he makes me laugh! (which I didn't do as much before)
randella
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I saw this post before-- and it took me some time to think about it..
Ok, I am definitely a happier person. I appreciate the smaller things in life. I see a future that is very real now-- as opposed to it just being fantasies and dreams. I feel a love that is so great, warm and unconditional. I feel so completely special.
Other stuff- I care more about working late, meaning, I don't want to. I still have drive and ambition, but, it's different now.
I think in terms of 'we' instead of 'me'. Overall, it is really just such a comfort to always have someone by my side.
As far as calming me-- NEVER-- I am a stressed out crazy person-- that will never change
ckgmwedding
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Posted by DebMaher
May leave this one for a couple of days -- since late now....
Well, since we met, I am more mellow, and he has put me in touch with a part of me that had laid dormant for a while, the non career-obsessed, take the time to smell the roses side. He made me appreciate surprises, big and small. Since engagement, I am much more accepting and thrilled, in fact, about becoming a new family. I had been so protective of my own identity and my career that it has been truly eye opening to envision how much better life can be when shared with someone amazing.
You so eloquently put into words exactly how I feel so I just had to quote you. My friends say he defiantely has mellowed me out and made me a better person.
Dooodles
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I have always kept a protective bubble around me not wanting to let many others in (still working on that but nowhere near as bad as it was). To have someone love you for who you are INSIDE is the most wonderful feeling in the world. FI keeps me grounded, reasonable and less on the defensive. I guess when you are in love and happy, it shows in every other aspect of life.
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I've become an optimist. I dont know that I was ever a total pessimist - but I was a cynic before I met FH . . don't get me wrong, I have wonderful friends and a fantastic family who has always supported me, but there's something about knowing that someone is on your side no matter what - that you're part of a team and you dont have to face challenges and tough times by yourself that is really comforting. . . it gives me more confidence to face new challenges and try new things, knowing that there's someone rooting for me pretty loudly.
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He's made me realize that i can fully trust someone besides my mom to be there no matter what... He's mellowed me a lot and has made me feel really comfortable in my own skin.
Great questions Deb!
lolita4life
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i changed so much. but i'd say it happened more like 6 months after living with one another/engaged... i used to be very spoiled and when we first moved in with each other he just spoiled me MORE.. which was very very bad, because then i startred to excpect it... but now im much more 'grown uP' and appreciative when he actually DOES do something for me! I'm happier because i finally feel like i can just be myself and i feel very lucky yo have that. i only had one other serious relationship and i couldnt really be myself.... so i guess thats my answer....?
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I have started 'nesting' I can't wait to start a family and have a house and all that. Also before FH there was a relationship where I let someone walk all over me for several years.. and few similar mini relationships after that. I became cynical and bitter and thought Fh's affection was just an act to get close to me.. like he was over the top affectionate just to win me over.
Stephen taught me what it was like to let someone treat you like a lady, respect you and do anything in the world to make you happy. I liked it at first, then it really freaked me out ( I considered breaking up with him if he didn't become mean or something- crazy!!) , now I demand it from everyone I encounter and drive FH crazy being a princess. I am starting to realize that guys can be sensitve and not macho. and that is okay. He is changing too... realizing that at times the sensitive, gentile act needs to take a walk so he can be protective, strong and well a jerk when needed (umm we are buying a house as we speak and he learned this lesson very quickly this weekend when the mortgage guy was condesending to me )
I think we have both grown together and changed together to become better people and a better couple. I was very bitter towards men and had such a hard time accepting affection from him.. he was trying too hard to be pleasing and letting people walk all over him. I am now softer and he is getting a little harder. We both talked last week about how since we got engagd, if we screw up in our personal lives it affects the both of us. That is a good feeling.
Does this make sense?
CubanBride
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I'm a lot more tired. LOL!
Sweetpea130000
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He has definitely made me a happier person that is willing to try new and different things. I am slowly learning to appreciate cooking, and I mean slowly. He also makes me laugh all the time. We are like children around each other, in a good way, and I love that!
