First I want to thank Gina again for passing me her tiara! I hope I can fulfill my bridely duties as well as all of the brides that have gone before me!
Here goes... My first QOTD...
When was your 'ah ha' moment, the moment that you realized that you truly wanted to spend the rest of your life with FH?
Mine was about 2 years ago, I was facing the decision between being laid off or taking a demotion. My position was being eliminated. I had been with the company for 12 years and was petrified, I had no idea what to do. On one hand, I wanted to tell my company to p*ss off and take the job and shove it but on the other hand I had no idea if I was going to be able to find another job. I would be given 12 weeks severance plus be paid out my 5 weeks vacation time, but what if I couldn't find a job before the money ran out? How would I pay my bills? In any case, I remember coming home that night and FH pouring me a glass of wine and asking me what I wanted to do. I told him basically what I stated above and he said F*ck them! Quit and take the severance, I said, but what if I can't find another job by the time the $ runs out and he said, I don't care if I have to work 3 jobs, I don't want you to let them treat you like that. They know that you will stay for the benefits and the guaranteed paycheck and they are taking advantage. I'd rather you stay at home and let me work 24 hours a day then work for them! So... ultimately, I left and took the severance and ended up finding another job, for a better company, making almost double what I was making working for them! In any case, my 'ah ha' moment was knowing that FH would do anything he could to protect and provide for me. That he would never let anyone walk all over me and that he would stand by me no matter what the issue. I always knew I loved him and he loved me but it took all this to happen to realize that he would love me through it all.
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I think it was AFTER we got back from Hawaii in October 2007. We had just spent 16 days together and I realized the first day back at work that I missed being with him. Never before with any boyfriend had that happened. Usually I needed a 'break' from them. That's when I knew he was a keeper.
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FH and I dated for a few months and then broke up... basically because we were both being too stubborn and immature for a serious relationship.. so we both ended it. I thought it was the best thing but as time went on I missed him more and more.. not less and less like I should have. A few months later he called me and said that he was missing me as well.. We started to talk more and hang out and then we both realized we wanted to be together.. on new years eve he told me he wanted me back and that he would never ever hurt me or let me down. I knew that day if we got back together it was for good.. and i was right
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Posted by geegee827
I think it was AFTER we got back from Hawaii in October 2007. We had just spent 16 days together and I realized the first day back at work that I missed being with him. Never before with any boyfriend had that happened. Usually I needed a 'break' from them. That's when I knew he was a keeper.
I know the feeling, the first 'boyfriend' that I went on vacation with I couldn't wait to get some 'free' time away from him, lol!!!
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Posted by JennyAPH
FH and I dated for a few months and then broke up... basically because we were both being too stubborn and immature for a serious relationship.. so we both ended it. I thought it was the best thing but as time went on I missed him more and more.. not less and less like I should have. A few months later he called me and said that he was missing me as well.. We started to talk more and hang out and then we both realized we wanted to be together.. on new years eve he told me he wanted me back and that he would never ever hurt me or let me down. I knew that day if we got back together it was for good.. and i was right
Awww, that's sweet! I'm glad that you both found your forever!
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I had been dating him for about 3 weeks. We just were great together.
I was on a plane going to San Bernardino California for a 2 month trial and ALL I could think about on the plane was him and the knowt that was in my stomache.
I finally got to the hotel, and he had flowers delivered and waiting for me in the room.
The knot was one thing (The thing that said this is for real) but the flowers told me I had a good man.
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the second we went from friends to more than friends...fh was my best friend for years and he kept trying to be more an i kept sayng no cause i didnt want to ruin the friendship..it finally hit when when i realized how much he wanted this to happen and how he was right al along about how good we would be togther..it just hit me
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I didn't really have an a ha moment...I don't want to say it was love at first sight exactly, but we just became best friends and I couldn't remember a time that we weren't together, and I had to really make a conscious effort to remember that he wasn't my high school sweetheart, he didn't take me to prom, we didn't grow up next door playing together...because I did feel like we just always knew each other. So once I had those feelings, I knew then that I would never go back to not having them.
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About three weeks with FH. We spent an evening at the Promenade in Brooklyn Heights, sitting on a bench and just talking for hours. And I remember thinking that I always wanted to talk to him. I just knew right then that I wanted to tell him everything always, and I wanted to hear everything about him always. We just fit together, easy peasy like that!
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Posted by Sarahgetsmarried
I had been dating him for about 3 weeks. We just were great together.
I was on a plane going to San Bernardino California for a 2 month trial and ALL I could think about on the plane was him and the knowt that was in my stomache.
I finally got to the hotel, and he had flowers delivered and waiting for me in the room.
The knot was one thing (The thing that said this is for real) but the flowers told me I had a good man.
So thoughtful of him!
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Posted by gina409
the second we went from friends to more than friends...fh was my best friend for years and he kept trying to be more an i kept sayng no cause i didnt want to ruin the friendship..it finally hit when when i realized how much he wanted this to happen and how he was right al along about how good we would be togther..it just hit me
Isn't it the best when you're friends first! I remember when FH and I were just friends and he knew I had never dated anyone with kids before and he was trying to get me prepared for that so he set me up with this guy he knew that had a son (he knew that I would NEVER end up with this guy, but also that I would at least date him a couple of times). He did it so that by the time he was ready to make his move, I wouldn't have any objections to the fact that he has a son.
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Posted by coldasice217
I didn't really have an a ha moment...I don't want to say it was love at first sight exactly, but we just became best friends and I couldn't remember a time that we weren't together, and I had to really make a conscious effort to remember that he wasn't my high school sweetheart, he didn't take me to prom, we didn't grow up next door playing together...because I did feel like we just always knew each other. So once I had those feelings, I knew then that I would never go back to not having them.
That's so nice, sounds like a very comforting feeling :)
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Posted by julesrbf
About three weeks with FH. We spent an evening at the Promenade in Brooklyn Heights, sitting on a bench and just talking for hours. And I remember thinking that I always wanted to talk to him. I just knew right then that I wanted to tell him everything always, and I wanted to hear everything about him always. We just fit together, easy peasy like that!
Very sweet, I love that comfortable feeling with FH, we used to spend HOURS on the phone every night!
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A month and a half into dating and we were still spending time together, a lot of time though we hadn't even made it official. I traveled a lot and he was busy and I didn't want to get into a relationship at the time. Yeah... I was big about not spending the night and yet I'd always fall asleep on his couch and he'd never wake me up. He's always just cover me and drive me home in the morning. One night I woke up in horrible pain because of a dermoid cyst on one of my ovaries and I thought it was my appendix. I don't remember much but he insisted I go to the hospital and I asked to be taken home. I remember he walked me to the door and he had his car backed up to the front door on the front lawn! He didn't drive me home he just asked if I had a hospital preference. I remember that he stayed with me despite my protesting and was a nervous wreck. That everyone thought we were married from how he treated me. I remember they kept pumping me with pain meds on an empty stomach thinking I was going into surgery and I was repeatedly sick to my stomach (AND MORTIFIED) and he just wouldn't leave. Each time I'd wake up there would be magazines for me and ice water and stuff.
After he sat with me for over a day of that and refused to leave I decided he was a keeper. Months later when he got a new phone I saw that he took a photo of me sleeping in the hospital bed that day and I asked why and he said he was really scared that day and I realized he loved me even then.
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hmm I'm not sure there was ever one specific moment. I honestly kind of always knew he was the one. We've known each other our whole lives (our families are friends) and once we started dating it just seemed that we were destined to be together forever. Cheesy I know but it's the truth!
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When we moved into our first apartment together right after we graduated from college. Through all of our ups and downs, I realized we had always stayed strong and triumph it together. My final 'ah ha' moment was when he told me why he loved me so much (despite our moments and us driving ourselves crazy ;) )because he could see a future together with me. And that I had always been his one true love. In the same retrospect, I've always known he'll be the one and only man that I'll always love and want to be spend the rest of my life with close by my side. Corny but true :)!
