I just want to thank Jenny (MrsFazz2B) for nominating me for BOTW! I also want to commend her for being an amazing BOTW. She gave us thoughtful questions and great ideas to chat about!
I've heard that there's no such thing as the perfect relationship - every couple goes through tough times. That being said, how do you and FH resolve your disagreements/issues? Do you talk things out? Do you argue for a while and eventually forget about it? Do you both know how to apologize and admit when you're wrong? All in all, how do you and FH 'smooth things over'?
Im a Pepper
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a lot of times, FH and I let it be for a little while (we don't talk about anything). If it's something small, it sort of dissipates; if it's something large it comes back again with even more strength! Sometimes we talk things out (which I have to coax him to do, because he'd rather stay quiet until the problem 'goes away').
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KristiAnn923
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Wow good question! It really depends on what the argument is about. Sometimes we just argue until we either agree to disagree or one of us stops. Sometimes we talk things out. And other times we go with the really mature silent treatment
Ivyqueenz
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FH and I usually try to talk things out. It takes a lot for FH to get mad so it is usually me who is mad. He had learned to give me time before trying to talk cause I can get snippy with him. So I guess it is usally a combination of silent treatment and then talking
JnA823
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We mainly talk things through.... sometimes we need time to just cool off if it is a big argument but eventually we talk about it.
PrincessBride09
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Same here! Usually, FH and I will argue and then be silent for maybe 20 mins. at most (like in the car yesterday...haha). Then, one of us will budge and start trying to talk it out.
Summertimegal424
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most of the time we talk things outs but the volume tends to be a lil raised and its more like yelling, we never go to bed angry...so i guess we always resolve everything!
beram63
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we spent years trying to find a compromise between what each of us needs to resolve an argument--he needs time to cool off and i can't stand to ruminate on things. after 4 1/2 years, i think we've finally nailed it. our mantra is basically to stay honest and fight like 2 people who love each other, if that makes sense to anybody else.
longislandlibrarian
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FH and I ALWAYS talk things out.. it's something that we live by... the old saying 'never go to bed angry' we live by that and we will talk and talk and talk until we are happy with the outcome
meli722
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usually we try to talk it out, if its something im really mad about or hes really mad about we usually give each other space, since we live together, and then when were both calm, talk it out.
cammolax23
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i have to say that I have the worst italian temper.. i am so used to yelling at argueing and having someone fight back, but he just takes it and just lets me rant and rave and then says ' are you done yet?'
usually if we fight, we just go away from each other for a while, cool down and things are back to normal.. he just needs to learn that I am ALWAYS right... ialways have been, i always will be!
novia26
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We talk it out...if we are wrong we apologize.
Danyell48
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We pretty much talk it out. it just works for us. We both know how to admit when we're wrong. although it isn't fun lol. But sometimes i just need to slam doors or throw things just to get some frustration out lol.
PoppedInASnap
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Bonnie, you deserve it. Plus with the foot surgery recovery, I knew you needed something else to look forward to!!! You will be a great BOTW!!!!
Fh and I hardly fight. Our arguments are talking discussions...and people call us the brady bunch. But, that is how fh was raised. You do not raise your voice, and you relax because 99% of the time, both of you see the argument in a different way and are arguing for different reasons... which, in our case is 100% of the time!!! lol
little34
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I think a little of everything...sometimes we do argue, sometimes we talk it out, but I have to say we almost never just not talk about it.... we have good communication between us so we always talk it out.
tye85
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WE are pretty immature , we just yell at each other until some1 cries!
dazies1011
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Posted by cammolax23
i have to say that I have the worst italian temper.. i am so used to yelling at argueing and having someone fight back, but he just takes it and just lets me rant and rave and then says ' are you done yet?'
usually if we fight, we just go away from each other for a while, cool down and things are back to normal.. he just needs to learn that I am ALWAYS right... ialways have been, i always will be!
That is like FH, he has an Italian temper, except I am the one always right,LOL. We have alittle of everything. We can yell and then go and clam down, then talk with eachother. Other times we can just talk it over and be done with it.
lizzzie35
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It's usually me who starts the fights and that's because I am very very stubborn. And usually the way the fight ends is with FH doing something nice or we just let it fade away after awhile. It's awful and I don't mean for it to be like that... It's just hard to change. I've been better since we got engaged. I'm not as mean as I was before
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Posted by Future Pepper
Good morning girls!
I just want to thank Jenny (MrsFazz2B) for nominating me for BOTW! I also want to commend her for being an amazing BOTW. She gave us thoughtful questions and great ideas to chat about!
I've heard that there's no such thing as the perfect relationship - every couple goes through tough times. That being said, how do you and FH resolve your disagreements/issues? Do you talk things out? Do you argue for a while and eventually forget about it? Do you both know how to apologize and admit when you're wrong? All in all, how do you and FH 'smooth things over'?
We usually take a little time to cool off, then talk it out and go for coffee or something like that. We can get a little hot headed, and we know better than to try and work it out while still pissy with each other. We both know how to admit when we are wrong, we just may not like admiting we are wrong lol, but when its necessary, we will
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yayy Bonnie! Congrats! Fh and i tend to sleep on it, and wake up not mad. Problem is, we are still arguing about the same stuff all the time!
