QOTD Tues 7/5

linda_art Posted: Jul 05, 2011 07:42 AM

QOTD Tues 7/5

Good Morning Sunshines!

Great News: Its Tuesday & its a short work week.

Gonna get right to it today...

How involved is FH with the wedding planning? Is there one thing he cares more about? Is he completely sitting back & gave you a budget that you have to stick to? Would you like him to more involved or less involved than he already is?

My FH is involved with every aspect. My mom died 7yrs ago and 2.5 yrs later my step mom died. I don't have much family around to help. I've actually been dreading wedding planning for years. If he wasn't involved I'd prob get nothing done. I think the fact that we are paying for everything ourselves also plays a huge role in him being involved so much. If someone else was paying and I had this huge budget, maybe I'd want him less involved bc he wouldn't like me spending a ton on all the little extras I'd want to add. Right now with the way things are, I'm perfectly happy with his involvement!

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 08:07 AM

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FH isn't involved that much at all. I speak with him before doing anything but he really wants me to do whatever I want. I love it! If he had a say in everything, I don't think this process would be going as smooth as it is. Honestly what does he care what the invitations look like or the color of the bridesmaids dresses!

Happy wife, Happy life

barbeik005 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 08:09 AM

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FH isn't very involved in the research option of picking the vendors, but he wants to go see all of them with me. Ultimately the decisions are up to me, but he wants to be part of everything (with the exception of the dress that is!!) Recently I've been kinda overwhelmed by everything so he's gotten more involved look at DJs which was nice

Shamrock212 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 08:19 AM

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FH is totally involved-he kept saying how he didn't really want to be but for every vendor we've booked- he had a say which im glad

kjzimpel Posted: Jul 05, 2011 08:28 AM

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My FH has been very involved. I kid with him and call him Groomzilla, but he is not 'overly' involved just more involved that I was expecting a guy to be, but I love it!!!

Kuklitsa143 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 08:29 AM

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FH was involved with all appts and giving he input on the vendors. Now we have everything booked and I am working on details, he not involved. He does tried to say no I don't want that and I reply we talk about it and you told me yes before (mind you we didn't talk about it) LOL

bride2be2012 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 09:09 AM

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FH was very involved with picking the place and he likes to be involved in the final decisions - he is really good at bouncing ideas off of and I am so glad that I have him to talk to!

SoontobeLT Posted: Jul 05, 2011 09:17 AM

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He wants to be involved with everything during the planning process. He's said again and again the end decision will be mine, he wants it to be all about me and my dream. He'll go to all the meetings with vendors and we'll make our decisions together. The research and small details are pretty much all me. I keep him in the loop with everything, even though I know he doesn't care about centerpieces or any of the little details.

AlexandMike2012 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 09:41 AM

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Posted by kjzimpel

My FH has been very involved. I kid with him and call him Groomzilla, but he is not 'overly' involved just more involved that I was expecting a guy to be, but I love it!!!

this EXACTLY lol

nilla24 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 09:45 AM

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Posted by AlexandMike2012

Posted by kjzimpel

My FH has been very involved. I kid with him and call him Groomzilla, but he is not 'overly' involved just more involved that I was expecting a guy to be, but I love it!!!

this EXACTLY lol

ditto for me on this!! But I think it's cute and I actually kinda like it. :)

EmilyandPeter Posted: Jul 05, 2011 09:49 AM

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FH is involved in every aspect of the wedding (except the dress). He has been most helpful with getting the price down, since I am paying for the wedding. I am glad he is involved as much as he is. It is as much his day as it is mine.

Bride in 2012 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:01 AM

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FH is very involved with wedding planning. In the beginning he had a little too much to say about everything but he really has helped me out with things so I can't complaing. I just started a new job about a month ago so I can't be on the phone to call and make appts, so FH has been doing that. He even drove to the limo company last week to drop our deposit off. I just wish that he'd take initiative to do things himself rather than have me ask him but I can't be too picky lol

Rivera2be Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:05 AM

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FH is pretty involved. We go together to all vendor apointments and make the decisions together regarding booking. He doesn't seem interested in the small details and leaves that to me though. He's very interested in how much everything is though....LOL

leelou48 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:08 AM

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Fh is mostly involved. He doesnt do any of the pre-research unless I make him, therefore I make him call to set up the appointments. He does go to meetings with me. Other times I mention stuff and he gets all cranky, like why do we need that? its too much money wahhh wahh wahh....I just keep pushing and pushing until he sees the error of his ways

JRT5412 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:15 AM

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My FH is very involved in the wedding process and at first I hated it b/c there were certain things we didn't really agree on but in the end came to an agreement on every vendor we have booked thus far! At the end of the day he wants me to be happy and do whatever I want but he also wants to show that he is very much interested in this process and not just me by myself. I love that b/c it shows he cares about this wedding just as much as I do.

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:42 AM

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FH is involved somewhat he comes to every appointment with me and give his opinion but he does none of the research or setting appointments. Sometimes I get upset that he doesnt help more but most of the time I dont mind

pixietina Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:44 AM

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FH is as involved as I want him to be. He never brings up anything wedding related. I always just ask him and he gives me his input. I try to make all the decisions 50/50 running everything by him first.

mjm2012 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 10:49 AM

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FH has been fairly involved in the planning process and I make sure to get his opinions on things. His big thing is making sure that we have great music but has been more involved than I thought.

foodgirl785 Posted: Jul 05, 2011 11:40 AM

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Originally, I don't think FH saw himself getting involved in the wedding planning process. I did most of the research myself and it wasn't until we met with the photographer we chose that he realized how important it was to be as selective as I was being. Since then he's been more involved. He likes sitting down with vendors since he trusts their judgement and it's helping him develop of vision in his mind what our day is going to look like. He gets excited like a little kid and calls his mom up to tell her everything. It's really cute.

But i agree with the other poster about him not caring about invites, flowers, dresses, etc. I'm making all those decisions with the help of my mom.