Tuesdays are my least favorite day of the week. Blah. My question is going to reflect that…
Is there anyone you are being forced to invite to your wedding or feel obligated to? If so, do you think you are going to stand up for yourself and not invite them?
My mom is making me invite a bunch of relatives from her side of the family that I haven’t seen in about 20 years. They are a rough bunch and since I don't even know any of them I never even thought about inviting them but unfortunately I think I am going to wind up giving in for my mom. It just kills me to spend so much money on the 12 of them and bump 12 people I would rather invite.
FutureMrsGTL
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OMG yes! I'm inviting my step aunt and cousin even though I really do not want too..
and then theres FH side.. now granted im inviting more people than him (my family is HUGE, his is not) but hes seriously inviting people that he doesnt even know their first name hes claiming they are 'like family' .... im sorry maybe im a total biiootcch but if they were really like family you would know these peoples first name.. he also cannot remember the last time he saw them.. its possibly 15 years... o yea thats really just like family.
sorry this turned into a mini vent.. but it was actually just a mini arguement we had last night.
ETA - This only annoys me because I cut people based on us agreeing that we wouldn't invite anyone we didn't know as a couple to keep numbers and cost down... clearly that agreement went out the window lol
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We are inviting my two aunts (my mom's sisters) that we or anyone else from the family don't takl to anymore because of a big stupid fight a few years back. It makes me sad that we don't talk to them anymore because I had good relationships with both before the fight. But I'd rather not invite them to the wedding, because if they come, they are the type to stir up drama and I do NOT want that at my wedding.
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I am inviting my grandfather's brother and his kids. It is not that I do not like them. The few times I have seen them they have been lovely but I really would rather cut the list by 8 (or invite 8 other friends or coworkers).
I am inviting them because I feel like it is the right thing to do. I am inviting my grandfather's sister and her children. I am very close with them so there is no problem there so how can I not invite the brother and his kids. (And when I say kids they are in their 40s and 50s)
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YES!!! Only 1 and I don't even know if it's definite.
I used to work with FMIL, that's how I met FH. FMIL has been at that job for like 15 yrs or more. One woman she associates with was not nice to me at all when I worked there. She was actually very mean. I can almost guarantee she will be invited. That bothers me alot! Not sure if there is anything I can do about that. FH says its no big deal let it go! YUCK!
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Yes my FH's brother and I don't get along. I don't want him there, but I'm not putting a fight about it at all. I understand its his family. I'm just worried that his brother will get too drunk and cause problems, but I'm going to make sure someone watches him. Other than that both our parents are telling us to invite whoever we want since its our day.
Jill52787
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Yes! A few family members that either me or FH has not seen in years!
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JRT5412
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In my case i'm not inviting anyone that I dont' want to invite. My problem is that I know for a fact my dad's side of the family are not going to come but I still have to waste invitations to give to them eventho I know they are not coming but it's just the 'right' thing to do.
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Not really...i alrdy told my parents we are paying so we are choosing who comes. there are a few that i cld do w/o LOL but i stil think they shld be there so they will be. i think if there was someone my parents rly wanted though i wld let them so that they're happy :)
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For right now, there is no one thats on the list that I don't like. Granted, our list isn't that big, so I'm just hoping to meet our minimum
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No. I'm paying for the whole thing from soup to nuts so I'm mostly incharge of the guest list. Don't know who's on the guest list for FH's family but that is his choice but I made my cut off known to them
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No not at all... This is the ONE day that I get to ENJOY and be selfish with!!! I'm running with the idea and not letting myself be forced to invite anyone I don't really care for, regardless of what others think especially since FH and I are the ones paying for everything!
aef3333
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There actually isn't anyone we are inviting that I am weary about!! Surprisingly lol
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midnight26
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I don't think i'm inviting anyone that I wouldn't want to......that's a good thing i guess! :)
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On my side I had 2 aunts that I wasn't that keen on inviting.....one my grandpa said I didnt have to invite (yay--its his kid!) the other one i have to invite.
On FH's side, they are not close with their fam at all and there are all these cousins and aunts that i have NEVER met....or maybe met 1x at FBIL's wedding....plus FMIL's friend from elementary school (also met 1x.) BUt she handed me a typed list of who she invited to her son's wedding so she basically stated that i had no choice.
Since it's our bank account paying-- I fought for none of the kids of the people on the list. I didn't really get to fight on anyone else bc FH is a wimp when it comes to his mom.
SeptemberBride2012
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Right now it is someone that I am working with - everyday I am up in the air with whether I want them there or not but other than that everyone else are people that we are really close with.
Bride in 2012
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My parents are inviting a lot of their friends but they're paying for the wedding so they can do whatever they want.
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We haven't exactly received a completed guest list from FH's parents but I am sure when we do there will be a few people. The good thing is that we make the final decision since we are paying for everything, so yes we will stand up for ourselves.
