I wonder if anyone knows the answer to this. My mom is currently seeking an annulment. Her and my Dad have been legally divorced for about 7 years now and she is remarried. But she wants to get re-married by the Catholic church so she is trying to get their marriage annulled.
So I have a few questions based on things that I've heard:
1 - Does that make the children of the marriage (ie, me) illegitimate? And what does that even mean really?
2 - Are both parties granted the annulment? Meaning, if it is approved, does that mean that both parties can remarry by the church? Because I heard somewhere that only one party is ever granted the annulment.
cocoa
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that's a good question. when my mom and stepdad got married, my stepdad got an annulment and i think one of my stepsisters was really bothered by it b/c she felt that she would suddenly be illegitimate. i don't have an answer though. i don't think it affects kids though.
beautyq115
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I think it means that the children that you had are illegitimate...now not sure what the means.
My parents are divorced and my mom isn't planning on re-marrying but I asked her if she was getting an annulment and she said the whole thing about me and my brothers then being considered illegitmate!
dm24angel
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A typical 'anulment' is not valid in the Churchs eyes, they or she would need to get a 'relgious anulment' issued by the church, not the state. A Relgious anulment is whats needed by one or both parties to get re-married in a Roman Catholic Church....
'A religious annulment has no legal authority, and is not legally binding on either person. A couple seeking a religious annulment must also seek either a legal (civil) annulment or a divorce in order to end the marriage legally. Religious annulments apply only to the sacred or sacramental aspect of marriage. A religious denomination may issue its annulment of marriage, or Decree of Nullity, if the marriage was sanctified within the church. For example, the Roman Catholic Church holds the exchange of consent between the spouses to be the indispensable element that 'makes the marriage.' If a church tribunal finds that consent was lacking then there is no marriage, and may issue a Decree of Nullity. People seeking more information on religious annulments should consult a member of the clergy of the religious denomination which sanctified the marriage. '
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Well, apparently it doesn't (my mom started the process at one point) but the way it's worded makes it really sounds like like it... I think that's why my mom stopped going through with it...
Also, I believe that both parties will be able to get married in the church in the future. Hope that helps!
kdelace
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i am actually going through this right now. i am getting an annulment through the state. once that goes through I have to file for an annulment through the church, so if I ever decide to remarry in a church, I can. I will find out all of the procedures and let you know. Imnot sure about the children part and I never thought about question of will the annulment mean that both of us can remarry or just the one filing?
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I do believe it's not truly an annullment if it's for religious purposes.
My stepmom is a Catholic and had she wanted to be married in a catholic church (she never was in the first place in her country) she would have had to fill out some sort of application and send it to the Vatican in Rome for APPROVAL.
She and my dad married in a Methodist Church that did not forwn upon either of their first marriages nor the interfaith (Catholic-Jewish)
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Posted by btrflygrl
My stepmom is a Catholic and had she wanted to be married in a catholic church (she never was in the first place in her country) she would have had to fill out some sort of application and send it to the Vatican in Rome for APPROVAL.
This is EXACTLY the process my Mom is trying to go through. It is for a religious annulment.
janwinterbridejoy
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i know it can cost alot and its a long process you have to go to the catholic wedding tribunal. my uncle got his marriage annulled and my cousin hasnt spoken to him since an that was like 16 years ago. he felt betrayed and said the he and his sister were now illegimate. i fel so bad for him to feel that much pain you havent seen or spoken to your father for almost 20 years
suven
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My father got an annullment from his first wife so that he could marry his 3rd wife in the Catholic Church. He and my mom (2nd wife) were married in a Lutheran church, so he didn't have to annul that. (My mom had been married previously in the Catholic church, but never had it annuled because her cousin was the officiant- and also my officiant)
But, as I understand it, my father made a HUGE 'donation' to the church were he had his 1st wedding. And, the residing priest had been a classmate of his when they were growing up. So, that helped and he got his annulment. I don't even think my sister knows or cares about it. (She's the daughter of his 1st wife)
dm24angel
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Posted by janwinterbridejoy
i know it can cost alot and its a long process you have to go to the catholic wedding tribunal. my uncle got his marriage annulled and my cousin hasnt spoken to him since an that was like 16 years ago. he felt betrayed and said the he and his sister were now illegimate. i fel so bad for him to feel that much pain you havent seen or spoken to your father for almost 20 years
See my post above, and a religious annulment does not cost ..... Relgious anulment is nothing at all like a regular anulment.
kdelace
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I heard an annulment through the church costs some $$.
I was told after my annulment through the state is legal, I then can go to the Diocese of RVC to start the paperwork for a religious annulment..which I heard is a pain in the arse. I need tesitimony and documents etc, I have to go on an interview. Anyway, that religious annulment will enable to me to get married in the Catholic Church should I ever choose to again. But that is all it does. They wont even talk to me unless I get an annulment or divorce through the state first.
LIJuneBride
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First you get an annulment or divorce through the state. Then you can apply for an annulment through the church. It does cost some $$$ and takes some time.
My understanding is it does not make the children illegitimate.
The annulment is granted for the marriage itself, not for a particular party in the marriage. Therefore, whether or not both parties participate, they will both be granted the annulment and both be able to be married in the church again.
Terrier412
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A Catholic annulment cost my friend $800 dollars for (Canon) lawyer fees, paperwork, etc. I don't think that's a lot. You won't be denied an annullment if you can't pay.
kdelace
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Posted by Terrier412
A Catholic annulment cost my friend $800 dollars for (Canon) lawyer fees, paperwork, etc. I don't think that's a lot. You won't be denied an annullment if you can't pay.
I heard it can run over $1000, which is $$$ considering you have to pay all the legal fees for a state annulment or divorce. I mean it cost me $500 to get married in the church!!!!
SweetCin704
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Hi, I'm going through this right now. In the paperwork it clearly states that the process does NOT make children illegitimate.
Also, it would clearly make both parties eligible for the annulment, not just the party going through/starting the process.
The process in Brooklyn diocese (Queens/Brooklyn) is costing me $1100.
You need to have 2 witnesses fill out paperwork, in addition to yours very detailed information about the 2 parties.
