who gets them and who doesnt? I plan to send them to my family and my 'a' list...do the b & c list get them? My concern is that we have a lot of friends we want to invite and some that are on the b & c list...but they are all friends with each other. should i be concerned that they see the std while hanging out and wonder why they didnt get one? should i not care? should i only send to family & bridal party? what did you do?
DaniandKen2010
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Only send them to people you are 110% inviting. We sent to family, family friends and close friends ie those in the bridal party. DO NOT send to co-workers or the B and C list because you have to remember if you leave your job or you stop talking to someone according to STD ettiquette you must invite EVERYONE who got an STD.
Jna2010
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send to everyone you plan on inviting, in other words not your b or c lists, and maybe skip friends all together since some are on your A list you dont want them talking and then starting drama
mariedsgn
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Everyone you are inviting to the wedding But make 100% sure that you want them at your wedding. . . we have a few that when it came time to send the invitations out, we were unsure if we wanted to invite them - but we sent them a save the date so we had to.
FutureJOC
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we will only be sending STD's to everyone we know for sure is going to be invited to the wedding (which is pretty much our whole list). We don't even really have an B, let alone a C list. There are an handful of people that if we need to, will be cut at the last minute so we don't want to send them a STD because then we HAVE to send them an invite.
Lovebug2016
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Either send to EVERYONE or only send to your immediate fam and BP. If you send an STD to A& B list and not your C list - if your B & C list talk it may create awkwardness and stuff bc then the C listers know their place.
Thats my only regret when we sent out our save the dates, I shoulda either just sent to just fam or sent to everyone i was thinking of inviting.
consulgirl
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People definitely talk when the STD's arrive. I would definitely send them to everyone I intend to invite, or just family and BP.
LindyBride22
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Do they live close by? I would say if they are all friends with each other and live locally but some are on the B and C lists you should not send them save the dates, since as it was already said you will then have to invite them and then whats the point of having a B and C list? If they will have to travel though and get hotels and maybe take a vacation day or two you might want to think a little more about how sure you are that you want to invite them and send them save the dates since it will make their planning easier.
