Brides Helping Brides ™ - question because this is turning into a major issue...

LouMar2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:35 PM

question because this is turning into a major issue...

Who is planning your shower?
If it is your MOH, how involved are the other BM?
If you were ever a MOH or BM how were you involved in all the shower planning??
Sorry for all the questions, but I can see this being an issue soon and wanted to see how everyone eles is doing it!
TIA

grkbarbie Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:36 PM

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i planned my mom paid. the bridal party didnt do anything.. literally. they just showed up and handed me the gifts to open.

haroula had to come in an hour early to set up.

yep...........

MikesBride2B Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:38 PM

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My MOH and my mom are planning it together...my other two BMs are not really involved.

When I was a BM for my MOH I had nothing to do with her shower other than buying a gift and showing up.

SoontobeGallagher Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:44 PM

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From what I am gathering my MOH is putting everything together. She lives she Syracuse and she will just tell my mom.

Lucky2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:47 PM

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My mom and MOH are planning and my mom is paying for it. I think my MOH has spoken to the other BMs but I don't know their level of involvement in the planning process.

Jna2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:51 PM

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my mom is doing most of it... im trying to help give her ideas and like 2 or 3 girls arealso helping out as much as they can

Rosie0613 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:51 PM

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My mom planned and paid for the shower and my MOH and her mom helped my mom with everything. My other BM helped setup the day of the shower.

When I was a BM for my best friends shower, there were 4 of us and we planned everything together. We split the entire cost of the restaurant equally and her sister (the MOH) paid for everything else.

DaniandKen2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 06:57 PM

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My MOH's and BMs are paying for everything and planning everything together.

All of the weddings I have been in the mom has paid for the shower and all of the BMs and MOH helped and all chipped in for the most expensive or most wanted item on the registry.

FallBride2010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:11 PM

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I've been a MOH for two weddings...one being my sister. In both cases the mother paid for the shower and the BMs paid for extras...like favors, candy buffet etc.

For my sister's...the BMs didnt do anything. My Mom and I handled it all...they just contributed some money for the extra stuff.

For my best friend, the bms got together and made the favors, put together the candy buffet etc.

gravemiss Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:18 PM

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My MOH and my SIL(who is alo a BM) and my mom are planning it!

regy_k Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:44 PM

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not having a shower and when I was planning on having one my FH and cousin were planning it

when I was a BM for my cousin, her MOH, her mom and another BM planned the big things. I planned mostly her bparty. all the BMs paid for decorations, a big present from all the BMs and her mom paid for the place, entertainment and videographer

Diana508 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:48 PM

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My MOH and BM all planned together. My mom did the invitations after being told where it was and also the centerpieces. My mom and FMIL paid for half and the 6 BM paid the rest.

They were extremely involved. Every bp I've been in has been the same - the BM's plan and pay with some help from m (financial)

Diana508 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 07:48 PM

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My MOH and BM all planned together. My mom did the invitations after being told where it was and also the centerpieces. My mom and FMIL paid for half and the 6 BM paid the rest.

They were extremely involved. Every bp I've been in has been the same - the BM's plan and pay with some help from m (financial)

irisheyes23 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 08:15 PM

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Don't even get me started on this one. 2 of my 4 BM's would only agree to be in the wedding party if they were sure THEY didn't have to throw my shower. Nice huh??

My mom is planning and paying for everything re: the shower.

Nina1010 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 08:31 PM

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My whole BP planned my shower... my sister was clueless and never even attended wedding events before.

As for me...having been in six BPs and was MOH, we all contributed. Three of which the Bride's Mom paid and didn't want us to do anything except give a BP gift... like a very nice gift (All china or luggage or bedroom set).

If your MOH is running the show, make sure she keeps the other BMs in the know at least. If she is expecting the BMs to contribute, they should also have some input... all in your best interest of course.

bluj786 Posted: Apr 03, 2010 08:31 PM

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from what i have gatthered so far, its my mom and FMIL.

NYYankeeGirl72 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 07:51 AM

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My MOH is planning it. Since I don't have any other adults in my BP except for my MOH, my mom and SIL have decided to chip in on the cost.

GR2010 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 08:58 AM

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My mom is paying, my sister/moh is planning everyone else just has to show up.

JennandAnthony Posted: Apr 04, 2010 09:03 AM

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from what i understand (I know nothing) .....my bm's are doing EVERYTHING my moh is somewhat involved? And my mom just knows the details shes not involved at all (I dont think......she may be paying for my sisters part who is the moh)