question because this is turning into a major issue...

Original post by LouMar2010

Apr 03, 2010 06:35 PM

Who is planning your shower?
If it is your MOH, how involved are the other BM?
If you were ever a MOH or BM how were you involved in all the shower planning??
Sorry for all the questions, but I can see this being an issue soon and wanted to see how everyone eles is doing it!
TIA

halfbaked Posted: Apr 04, 2010 09:25 AM

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My mom planned and paid. The b-party gave her nothing but a headache, even when they tried to help. I am SO glad my shower is behind me!

MongieToBe Posted: Apr 04, 2010 10:00 AM

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My mom is planning & paying for it. I've heard my BMs tell my mom numerous times 'Call me if you need help with anything' but I think my mom has it under control...she lives for this stuff lol. My BMs will probably go there early to help my mom set up but they are not contributing financially...my mom won't take $ from them.

eta: Every time I've been a BM, it's been the same. MOB pays, bridal party just helps set up & gets a nice gift.

Panamasweet Posted: Apr 04, 2010 10:02 AM

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My mom and FMIL are planning and paying. From what i understand neither of them want any monetary help from the bridal party. They will help with ideas and setting up

Fruitloop Posted: Apr 04, 2010 11:03 AM

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They won't really tell me anything (it's supposed to be a surprise), but I'm pretty sure my mom is planning everything and my parents are paying for it. I'm sure my aunts, and my cousin (MOH), and 1 of the BMs are helping w/ the planning (I know my MOH is in charge of the games lol).

I don't want it to be a surprise but my mom is INSISTING... I told her to at least tell me the day (so I can wear something nice) but she can keep the place a surpise (and FH can just drive me there blindfolded lol). Plus I will probably figure it out that day... FH's daughter will be going (she's 8 and is the pickiest eater ever).. if FH says he's taking us out but then doesn't bring us to Applebees, the diner or Wendy's I will know somethings up lol.

marinai7 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 11:18 AM

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My MOH's, BM's and my FMIL are planning and paying as far as I know. It's a surprise so I'm not really involved in the details, but that's what I think it is.

SummerBride10 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 11:20 AM

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My mom, FMIL, MOH, and BMs ALL planned it together and all chipped in for it

JAAMS Posted: Apr 04, 2010 01:01 PM

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My parents are paying...the BP is helping to plan/set up. I'm contributing some ideas. I was only a JR BM, so I don't remember if I really had any responsibilities lol

bubberflys Posted: Apr 04, 2010 01:18 PM

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MY BM's were emailing each other back and forth to find out what was going on. My FMIL wanted to throw mine as my parents haven't talked to me since FH and I purchased a house...(dec)

My MOH asked my Mother what her plans were 'just in case' and my mother supposedly was going to plan it, but no one has heard anything...

my feeling is i'm not going to get one...

springsandra Posted: Apr 04, 2010 01:24 PM

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I planned and paid for the whole thing, including flying my SIL up from NC to come to it. We had a very small shower (only 14 people) and my mom just showed up. My Mom, MOH and BM didn't pay for it at all. But it didn't matter to me. It was the only way it was going to happen so that's how we worked it out.

I hope your issue goes away. Good luck with planning and all.

slyman1101 Posted: Apr 04, 2010 08:14 PM

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my moh, mom, bridesmaids and sister-in-law all planned one together. it was a surprise. that was kinda easy bc they did all the planning together, they all get along, they are all nice and normal, and it was at my moh's house.
my 2nd shower was planned by my beast-like mil and sil's in ct. i just showed up. they actually told me one day, then sent out invitations for another day. that was cool.
i was a moh for my best friends wedding and her mom picked the place and planned it, i sent out the invitations and coordinated mostly everything with a little help from her bm's.
it all depends on how well everyone can communicate and get their acts together and get along i think...