question bout fmil

ajudgeinthecourt Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:25 PM

question bout fmil

jettahot Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:27 PM

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I havent had my shower yet!

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:28 PM

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FMIL offered to contribute but my mom said she'd handle it so FMIL and FFIL gave us a very nice check at the shower

Nrauch8191 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:29 PM

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My shower is on Sunday but she did not ask to help or contribute at all.

chilly313 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:30 PM

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Posted by jettahot

I havent had my shower yet!

Do you know when yours is? I know mine is a month before the wedding, (had to be that late for a few reasons) so I'm not freaking out about it.

And I don't have a FMIL - so no issues to deal with, but I can't help with your question

toniann921 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:34 PM

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My BM's did the shower, but my FMIL purchased all of the remaining dishware on our registry- which came out to be about 8 settings and the remaining serving dishes.

anszusterman Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:38 PM

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my shower is on Sunday. FMIL is throwing it, and it has been a headache ever since!

I would like to say I am grateful for her throwing one, and I know there are brides out there that are not getting a shower- but it is added stress I think I could have probably lived without.

I doubt FMIL will give me a present because she is hosting, and its at a restaurant (that cost her $3000- she makes sure to tell me when I ask her any questions about the venue). This party is more for her than I- I am just a puppet on her strings for the day

They are supposed to be helping us out for the wedding, but we have not seen much on the monetary front yet- allegedly it will show up.

Angel120905 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:39 PM

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haven't had my shower yet but FMIL has already told us she doesn't like anything on our registry. FMIL and FFIL told us that they would contribute money to the wedding or the hm but we have yet to see anything materialize.

My future inlaws have good intentions but the follow through doesn't always happen. We are still waiting for the dishes they were going to buy us when we moved in our apartment 1 1/2 years ago lol

rosatemp Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:41 PM

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my fmil did help my mom with my shower and shes paying for our rd and the favors for our wedding and she is buying us our livingroom and made a basket for each room of the house and she did the centerpieces for my shower as well

ETA: help with the shower i meant another favor, centerpieces and customized menu's my mom paid for my shower and hosted it

meghan13 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:42 PM

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Two sets of my china. She is paying the church donation and $1000 of the photographer.

ETA - and the food for the RD

SoonToBeMrsFox Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:48 PM

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my mom is hosting my shower

leesah85 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 03:48 PM

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FMIL bought us a BBQ and some accessories - about a $700 purchase

she wanted to get something for both me and her son and she thought that was a good gift - i totally agree!

she did not contribute monetarily to the shower

ETA: FILs also paid for 1/2 of the eparty and are giving us $1000 for the RD

Yankeeelove Posted: Aug 02, 2011 04:06 PM

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She actually gave us a very generous gift. She bought us our King size mattress and box spring which were about 2K. I'm very grateful for it.She's not contributing anything towards the wedding, but she is giving us a very nice rehearsal dinner and paying for the whole thing.

ajudgeinthecourt Posted: Aug 02, 2011 04:14 PM

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jovigirl414 Posted: Aug 02, 2011 04:19 PM

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FMIL got me a $25 gift card to Bed Bath and Beyond.

VCanizalez Posted: Aug 02, 2011 04:25 PM

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Mmmmm....
She didnt contribute any $$$....
nor offer to help...

she purchased me one white lingirie outfit & dining set (the plates set:?)...

rosatemp Posted: Aug 02, 2011 04:26 PM

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Posted by ajudgeinthecourt

thanks ladies! so now i dont think i am out of line.

My mother is hosting the shower

fils are only paying for the rabbi because they want him there

i went snooping and i found out that she got us 100 dollar candlesticks for the shower. i know the that is really a nice gift, but from the woman who all she talks about is taking her around the world cruises, and who has offered to pay for nothing for the wedding , meanwhile my mother took on a 2nd job to pay for this shower, and they can not even go on one vacation.

and my fmil payed for everything for her daughters 3 years ago

Now should i talk with fh about this or wait until the shower? she is going to look like a dumbass when i open my aunts 400 aid and my mothers 350 every day dishes.

am i just being a brat?

To be honest i am kinda hurt by this, Does she think this little of our relationship? i think this is her way of telling me that she does not like us together.

i would wait you never know she may be giving you cash or something...my fmil didnt buy us off our registry she gave us money towards a livingroom...i would hold off as hard as it may be trust me i know and see if it doesnt change after the shower id talk to fh regarding her gift...HTH