Question for the ladies TTC right after their wedding

btrflygrl Posted: Apr 16, 2004 10:24 AM

Question for the ladies TTC right after their wedding

WHy are you trying so soon? Is it age, desire for children, mutual agreement???

Just wondering everyones' thinking on the issue

2003fallwedding Posted: Apr 16, 2004 10:29 AM

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For me, it is my age (will be 33 in December) and our desire for kids.

AliKing Posted: Apr 16, 2004 11:56 AM

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When I tell people I am going to TTC this august, they tell me its too early. Realistically we've been married for 6 months and by the time we TTC it will be almost a year. If all goes well, by the time I actually have a child we will be married over a year.
DH and I also lived together before we were married. I feel like I've been in the honeymoon/ newlywed stage for about 2 years now We've also worked out all of our financial issues before we were married... ie merging our accounts and working to pay off our debits together.
I think the fact that we have lived together for so long has a lot to do with it. It feels right and its like the next stage in our relationship.
As for age I think DH has more of an issue with it than I do. He is 30 and would like to have kids now.

princess99 Posted: Apr 16, 2004 02:16 PM

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We have been together for over 4 years . We have been living together for 2 years, we have our accounts together, I am almost 33 yrs. old , and he has a secure job, and we have a house. And we r emotionally as well as financially ready to have a baby. Hey, send some baby dust this way!!!

lilmrs Posted: Apr 16, 2004 03:38 PM

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We started trying on our honeymoon and most of our reasoning has already been listed. We dated for 7 years lived together for four years already own a home, we are ready financially and emotionally. We both would really like a child and we couldn't think of a single reason to not start trying.

DaniRN Posted: Apr 16, 2004 05:05 PM

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We got married in September, went off the pill in November and got pregnant in December, our reasonings were also similar-we have been together for almost 7 years, lived together for 4, own a home and are both in financially stable jobs. A child seemed like the next step we both wanted to take-plus most of our friends are pregnant or have children so it's not like we are still out partying on the weekends, etc...
It has to be a mutual desire between you and your husband though because I remember you once posting about how your husband got freaked out when you mentioned kids. You should really discuss with him the right time before jumping in to anything,imo.

juju Posted: Apr 17, 2004 09:44 PM

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In a nut shell, My Dh and I dated 6 years before we got married and have lived together for 4 years. I am 33 and I have fibroids. Although many women conceive and have babies with fibroids, I am also aware that there are women out there who have difficulty conceiving and carrying a baby to full term with Fibroids. So we want to play it safe and start trying. We will be happy if it happens now or later. And if by the fall or winter, if we are having difficulty, then I will check in with my doctor again. My doctor said I shouldn't worry about it now. She also assured me that my clock is not ticking yet. hee hee.

wc0143 Posted: Apr 19, 2004 10:49 AM

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We've been together for almost eight years and in our late 30's.

Xelindrya Posted: Apr 19, 2004 06:08 PM

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For us it's because our Wedding is actually our 1 year anniversary and he'll be 31 and I'll be 29. We want to be pregnant by the time I'm 30.

He wants two kids.

Im open to the idea depending on the results of the first pregnancy. I admit it. Im a wuss when it comes to THAT womanly privilage. Child bearing? no problem. Child care? No problem. Child Birth? See.. now there I gotta admit Im not so sure.

aliciahelene Posted: Apr 21, 2004 02:17 PM

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We are trying for several reasons. One because we have been together for three years and we have travled and done all we wanted to do as couple, now we are ready to commit to raising children, we are ready to be parents, also our age, I am 33 and Dex is 37. We watched my sister go through 4 miscarriages and finanlly get pregnant, we are ready to try and anticipate problems. We actually kind of werent excatly safe a few months before the wedding. We want to be parents. We will pay attn to ovulation days until the end of summer and then we will seek help. so we'll wing it until then. I wanna be a mommy!

jennjohn17 Posted: Apr 21, 2004 02:57 PM

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We got pregnant 3 months after our wedding. We started trying after 2 months. I guess it mostly had to do with age. DH is going to be 35 this year I am 28 and I have just heard so many stories of people having a hard time we just figured no time like the present. We had lived together for 2 years before we got married so it just seemed like the thing to do.