Question for those getting married in a Catholic Church

Charly Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:30 PM

Question for those getting married in a Catholic Church

The church is requiring a $600 donation for the ceremony. Do I have to tip on top of that? Also, do you invite the priest to the reception?

Thanks!

nylisa Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:31 PM

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I am paying $500 for the church (which includes organist) and $75 for a cantor. I am not tipping on top of that.

I invited my priest to the reception and he responded no.

mrsmeri1104 Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:32 PM

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I was told that you do have to tip the priest if I remember correctly I think it was $100 and yes you do invite him to the reception. If hear different please let us know.

hbradio Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:33 PM

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IMO $550 is enough for a 20 minute ceremony - I am not tipping on top of that. Not sure if I am inviting the priest to the reception. He wouldnt know anyone there!

kel2004 Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:33 PM

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I do not plan on tipping my priest, and I did not invite him to the reception.

pbandtim Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:36 PM

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Our church is $250 for the church, $250 for music and $60 for pre-cana. I think that is plenty. We are not inviting the priest to the reception either.

Niecey Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:37 PM

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I did. I tipped priest, alter boys and singer/organist on top of the existing church fees. I have always read that it was customary so that is what I did. The organist did a special favor to us so he was necessary in my eyes - even though he said he wanted no money for his services.

CaCRmr Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:54 PM

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My priest can't accept monotary gifts. We are paying $550 for EVERYTHING. We're not tipping anymore than that. WE are inviting the priest to the reception as well.

Johnny&Maur Posted: Aug 09, 2004 01:57 PM

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I wasn't sure how it worked either but I thought that you were supposed to invite the priest to the reception regardless of anything? Maybe I'm wrong! I know that when my relatives were married, the priest always showed up to the reception, even if for just a little while...

TracyInQueens Posted: Aug 09, 2004 03:22 PM

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The priest who's marrying us is a former professor of FH's, and FH also helped him with research, etc., so we are going to invite him. Though I am not sure how tipping works out, since he's not affiliated with the parish we're getting married in. But I know we have to give a donation to the church.

HearzBellz Posted: Aug 09, 2004 03:23 PM

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I did not tip.

Snowboardgirl Posted: Aug 09, 2004 03:25 PM

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I don't understand why it is necessary to tip a priest.

Karen62794 Posted: Aug 09, 2004 05:05 PM

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I think my church charged $300. We gave the priest a $100 tip and sent him an invitation to the wedding (he declined).

The organist was $75 or $100 and the cantor was $35. I don't remember tipping them, but since I tipped just about everyone that day, I might have given them something.