Question of the day (Wednesday)

---

Posted by blu6385

i would 100% cancel the wedding and probably kill him and the girl and end up in jail ... seriulsy i would never be able to be with him again even if i could forigve him i would never in my life trust him again and i alwasy say if you dont ahve trust then your realstioship will never be good ... and if i cheated on him i would call of the wedding myself ( i am sure he would too)... cause that means if i was able to actually be with someone else than i must not really love my FH has much as i thought i would ....

---

i have to agree with you...i dont believe if you can actually be with someone else you fully completely love your FH/BF/DH. I mean I know FH and I would never ever and we have so much trust. But if it did happen by me or him i would call off the wedding. I would talk to him about it or explain why I did it but I dont think we would be together after that.I have dealt with cheaters int he past and always said i would never deal with it again. Plus I dont think I could ever forgive cheating even if it was only a drunken cheating one time thing- you still did no matter how much alcohol you have in your body you know better I dont care I think you obviously dont love me as much as you think then if you are willing to let yourself sleep with someone else and use alcohol as an excuse.

---

Posted by cbcf

---

Posted by ChristineAaron08

I would Cancel the wedding and cut off his peepee

---

i like your thinking....ditto for me

---

ditto for me too. And if I cheated, I think he would call of the wedding too and would sew up my va-jay-jay

---

Posted by snwb08

---

Posted by MPAS

I would throw up too, I would throw up all over him, lol. Drunken or not that is not an excuse, neither for the guy or girl. I would be sooo devastated and would feel sooo guilty if I ever did that to him. If he did it then I wouldnt feel soo guilty, revenge is sweet and what goes around comes around.

---

I know you're right. My problem is since I got engaged I'm SURROUNDED by people that have cheated on each other and I hate it. It's like marriage or even a serious relationship - no one takes it seriously anymore and it totally bothers me.

---

I know alot of married people that cheated on their wifes. Horrible!!!

if he cheated on me - we would definitely work it out either with or without couples therapy
maybe i would delay the wedding if it was close but never call it off
we worked too hard on this relationship to throw it all away on a mistake

if i cheated on HIM - well, he has forgiven me too many times for stuff in the past ( just poor judgement calls ) so i dont know if he would forgive me again

Cancel the wedding then cut off his pee pee.

---

Posted by snwb08

---

Posted by MPAS

I would throw up too, I would throw up all over him, lol. Drunken or not that is not an excuse, neither for the guy or girl. I would be sooo devastated and would feel sooo guilty if I ever did that to him. If he did it then I wouldnt feel soo guilty, revenge is sweet and what goes around comes around.

---

I know you're right. My problem is since I got engaged I'm SURROUNDED by people that have cheated on each other and I hate it. It's like marriage or even a serious relationship - no one takes it seriously anymore and it totally bothers me.

---

I completely agree with this. It sickens me! Seems everyone is cheating on everyone now a days. My FH actually had some chick he hung out with a few months before we met trying to get him to hang out knowing we were living together AND while she was planning her own wedding. God it makes me SICK!!

---

Posted by ant n tilde

if he cheated on me - we would definitely work it out either with or without couples therapy
maybe i would delay the wedding if it was close but never call it off
we worked too hard on this relationship to throw it all away on a mistake

if i cheated on HIM - well, he has forgiven me too many times for stuff in the past ( just poor judgement calls ) so i dont know if he would forgive me again

---

I posted my answer before, but I just gotta say a nice big ditto to yours. You wrote it out better than I could!

When it comes to this subject there is NO second chances for either of us. We both feel the same way about this. And very strongly about it.

I am not a naive person but I also know it would never happen neither of us could live with ourselves if we did and the other one would never be able to forgive.

We have seen it happen to friends and one divorce because of it and for what....

---

Posted by KitWisdom

---

Posted by ant n tilde

if he cheated on me - we would definitely work it out either with or without couples therapy
maybe i would delay the wedding if it was close but never call it off
we worked too hard on this relationship to throw it all away on a mistake

if i cheated on HIM - well, he has forgiven me too many times for stuff in the past ( just poor judgement calls ) so i dont know if he would forgive me again

---

I posted my answer before, but I just gotta say a nice big ditto to yours. You wrote it out better than I could!

---

lol we were bad bad girls at one point i guess

ETA: with good good guys!

---

Posted by ant n tilde

---

Posted by KitWisdom

---

Posted by ant n tilde

if he cheated on me - we would definitely work it out either with or without couples therapy
maybe i would delay the wedding if it was close but never call it off
we worked too hard on this relationship to throw it all away on a mistake

if i cheated on HIM - well, he has forgiven me too many times for stuff in the past ( just poor judgement calls ) so i dont know if he would forgive me again

---

I posted my answer before, but I just gotta say a nice big ditto to yours. You wrote it out better than I could!

---

lol we were bad bad girls at one point i guess

ETA: with good good guys!

---

Lol, seems like it! Can we say we’re reformed bad girls?

They always say that girls love the bad boys, but I’ve found a lot of good guys love the (former) bad girls too!

---

Posted by blu6385

---

Posted by MPAS

---

Posted by blu6385

i would 100% cancel the wedding and probably kill him and the girl and end up in jail ... seriulsy i would never be able to be with him again even if i could forigve him i would never in my life trust him again and i alwasy say if you dont ahve trust then your realstioship will never be good ... and if i cheated on him i would call of the wedding myself ( i am sure he would too)... cause that means if i was able to actually be with someone else than i must not really love my FH has much as i thought i would ....

---

---

thank you ... i am a very strong beliver in having to have trust ... and i strongly believe if you cheat on someone you really cant love that person as much as you think!

---

I'm with you! that's why I don't see the point in trying to work it out. Cheating is a symptom, not the only problem. If something led you to cheat once, it'll happen again, and why stay in a situation where you're obviously lacking something.
I told him, if you could do something, that you know will hurt me that badly, then you obviously don't love me the way you should, or the way I deserve to be loved...I told FH a LONG time ago, that cheating is a deal breaker, no questions asked. AND further, that cheating is any inappropriate activity with another girl, that causes you to have to lie to me...
He says that he feels the same if I were to cheat on him...he would be destroyed, I know that...and if I was capable of doing that to him, he deserves better.

I would want to know who it was with.
how he met her
why he did it
and take all the money we saved and run!
still have a big party...and make a toast...to the man who couldnt keep it in his pants.
Thank you for this GREAT party!
LOL

I'd call off the wedding and move out of state. I'd move to California and try to figure out what I wanted to do with my life.

I'd drive there too and see as much of the United States as I could.

---

Posted by LuvMyAlfonse



I'd drive there too and see as much of the United States as I could.

---

done that too, you not missing much, especially in the midwest, dull dull dull

(im from the midwest, dont bash me girls)

I give the girls alot of credit for having the stomach to 'stomach' cheating Once at least.

I have been cheated on in a long relationship that I thought would lead to marriage and theres was an automatic switch that turned me off to that person.

But if i was married or had kids with that person i would definatley TRY to move past it.

---

Posted by KitWisdom

---

Posted by ant n tilde

---

Posted by KitWisdom

---

Posted by ant n tilde

if he cheated on me - we would definitely work it out either with or without couples therapy
maybe i would delay the wedding if it was close but never call it off
we worked too hard on this relationship to throw it all away on a mistake

if i cheated on HIM - well, he has forgiven me too many times for stuff in the past ( just poor judgement calls ) so i dont know if he would forgive me again

---

I posted my answer before, but I just gotta say a nice big ditto to yours. You wrote it out better than I could!

---

lol we were bad bad girls at one point i guess

ETA: with good good guys!

---

Lol, seems like it! Can we say we’re reformed bad girls?

They always say that girls love the bad boys, but I’ve found a lot of good guys love the (former) bad girls too!

---

oh yeah totally 100% reformed now borderline boring girls

---

Posted by KitWisdom

I’ll probably be in a miniority here, but I think I would definitely try to work it out first, depending on the circumstances. There’s a big difference between a one time mistake and an on-going affair. I know that FH wouldn’t cut me any slack if I cheated on him though…I have a bit of a bad track record, lol

---

I agree. I would try to work it out. I can't imagine throwing out all our plans, our love, etc., for a mistake ... I mean, yes, I'd be really, really P*SSED, and it would be hard, but I love him so much and he means the world to me, so I would have to try.