Question Re: Gift Ettiquette

OK ladies, let's throw this at you and see what you make of it.

My mom's college roommate, J, was invited to our wedding but couldn't make it because of a combination of distance and health issues. Nevertheless, she sent us Tiffany flutes as a wedding present - which honestly was one of my favorite gifts.

J's daughter got married last weekend. Mom was not invited (they just did family and close friends) but she received an announcement in the mail today.

Does Mom need to send a gift? How big of a gift?

ETA: J's daughter got married to another guy like 4 or 5 years ago and Mom sent a check then too. I'm not sure if that changes anything.

no, Mom doesn't need to send a gift.

She wasn't invited to the wedding- probably because this is a 2nd marriage.

No gift!

I would send a gift if it were me- just because i would, not because I think it is necessary. I guess it depends how close your mom feels to her and etc.

If she does send a gift I don't think it needs to be anything extravagant

JMO

OMG! Then, definitely no gift! Twice she wasn't invited???

No SECOND gift! The first one was MORE than enough!

I think I would send one. I mean, J sent you something really nice so it would be nice to return the favor. JMO!

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I think I would send one. I mean, J sent you something really nice so it would be nice to return the favor. JMO!

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I agree. Although I wouldnt go crazy getting an expensive gift since your mom already sent a check for the first wedding and she wasnt even invited to either wedding.

Thanks, girls! Mom's the kind of person who will get a gift regardless. After all, this is the woman who bought me Chanukah presents from our DOG in order to get around the 'This is your *one* present' agreement!

But yeah, it's nothing extravagant. Mom talked to J, who said that her daughter really likes Lowe's, so Mom will get her a gift certificate there.

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Posted by buggiegirl

I would send a gift if it were me- just because i would, not because I think it is necessary. I guess it depends how close your mom feels to her and etc.

If she does send a gift I don't think it needs to be anything extravagant

JMO

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Ditto

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Posted by Bumsie

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Posted by buggiegirl

I would send a gift if it were me- just because i would, not because I think it is necessary. I guess it depends how close your mom feels to her and etc.

If she does send a gift I don't think it needs to be anything extravagant

JMO

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Ditto

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I agree too

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Posted by Soon2bMsZ

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I think I would send one. I mean, J sent you something really nice so it would be nice to return the favor. JMO!

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I agree. Although I wouldnt go crazy getting an expensive gift since your mom already sent a check for the first wedding and she wasnt even invited to either wedding.

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I am leading towards this way....my parents are way big about reciprocating with their friends' children on gifts.

I think it's totally up to your mom if she wants too.

remember is better to give than to receive.