Just curious, how many of us think we would become stay at home moms once we have kids?
prettyprincess07
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All depends on the situation. If when we are married and we are finacially secure enough to do it. Why not? There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a stay-at-home parent for either mother or father, just like there is nothing wrong with going to work and supporting your family. Either way its a team effort.
If I can I'll try it out to see how it is.
clarity
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presume you have whatever career & salary is feasible at the moment (like not a pretend TomKat situation!)
btw, prettyprincess, are you gett married at the GreenTRee country club? all your info says green tea .
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while I definitely want to be able to have kids and spend time with them, this is also my life too, and I'm just not sure I could ever see myself being truly contented with my life if I don't have something for myself. I think if I ended up spending my life catering to the kids, I'd get very discontented, and that would not be good.
Some people may think that's selfish, but the way I see it, as long as any kids I may have are well taken care of, it's not really anybody else's business, and that's what I think I would need to feel fulfilled in my life, and that should definitely count for something.
charliesbride
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i will definately be a stay at home mom until they are in a full day of school...then who knows... i love working..but i want to be the one that raises my kids...not a daycare....JMO
clarity
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Posted by weddingbunny
while I definitely want to be able to have kids and spend time with them, this is also my life too, and I'm just not sure I could ever see myself being truly contented with my life if I don't have something for myself. I think if I ended up spending my life catering to the kids, I'd get very discontented, and that would not be good.
Some people may think that's selfish, but the way I see it, as long as any kids I may have are well taken care of, it's not really anybody else's business, and that's what I think I would need to feel fulfilled in my life, and that should definitely count for something.
I think all sides of the issue have good points. im just curious what the difference in responses is. i agree with you & charliesbride. i think I am going to try switching to part-time/lesser hrs.
prettyprincess07
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Thank you for that typo.
Nina
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Stay at home for me!
bride2b24
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ill work part time until they are in school.....then back to work!
JenNDan07
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If the situation allows I really want to switch to parttime at least until they start school
camerakrazie
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i would like to stay at home but it depends on our financial situation. I could just go part time...but i love work...most likely I will be working full time!!!
Meaghan729
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i will be working full time - i love my career - i spent too much time in school to quit! and FH is a teacher meaning he will have summers of to watch the kids. his parents are both retired, so they will probably watch our kids when we are at work.
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Both my parents worked full time and I don't feel slighted or any less loved in anyway in fact I was well taken care of and provided for. To me this helped me to be who I am today and I canot see it any other way than me working and providing the best for my kids. Wedding bunny has made a great point as well, I would be bored and discontented catering to kids all day...I would need some adult conversation in my life....JMO
lisaslove
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Posted by bride2b24
ill work part time until they are in school.....then back to work!
i feel the same way
bride2b24
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Posted by JazzyT
Both my parents worked full time and I don't feel slighted or any less loved in anyway in fact I was well taken care of and provided for. To me this helped me to be who I am today and I canot see it any other way than me working and providing the best for my kids. Wedding bunny has made a great point as well, I would be bored and discontented catering to kids all day...I would need some adult conversation in my life....JMO
i agree!!!!
enjft
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Posted by JazzyT
Both my parents worked full time and I don't feel slighted or any less loved in anyway in fact I was well taken care of and provided for. To me this helped me to be who I am today and I canot see it any other way than me working and providing the best for my kids. Wedding bunny has made a great point as well, I would be bored and discontented catering to kids all day...I would need some adult conversation in my life....JMO
Ditto
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Although i would love to stay home with the kids, I have invested way tooooo much time and money into becoming a doctor and there is no way i'm gonna give that up. Perhaps I'll do part time at some point (which for a doc means 45 - 40hrs).
afrodyt2000
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Will continue to work full-time. If I could work from home, I'd do that but chances are I'll work full-time. My mom worked full-time my whole life and believe me, I'm a far more productive person because of it. I have almost 100K debt from going to law school, I will be working for several years to pay that off. I have the biggest earning potential in our relationship right now so I will be the one working full-time. If D wanted to work part-time or go to school and stay home with the kids then more power to him.
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I really dont think that I couls stay at home. I would stay home for a ceratin amount of time afterwards, but I dont know if I could not be busy. I think it depends on where we are in life at that point as far as financially
ntunison
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I so want to be a SAHM!! I've told FH already that once we have kids I am not working and wont go back to work until they are in HS... I can't wait
