Me and FH are going to his friends wedding on Saturday. They have a registry but most of the stuff are gone already and the only things left are inexpensive things and I don't ant to buy a whole bunch of stuff to add up to a certain amount. Is it okay to just give them cash even though they gave us the cards to all three of their registries?..If yes how much money should we give?
SummerBride10
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cash is ususally best for a wedding. depending how close you are, id give anywhere from $300-500 for the two of you
mzmahagony
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thx, i should add that I only met the friend once and him and FH are not that close.
Junebride2010
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I think $150-$200 is a good amount. Basically whatever you can afford.
SummerBride10
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where is the wedding? since its a sat. night in june is prob. ALOT per plate..so you wanna make sure you cover the cost of both of your plates and give a little extra.
grkbarbie
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wedding = cash.
regardless if u are close or not, ur close enough that they invited u
and their cost per plate doesnt vary based on their relationship with each guest. 150-200 per person is safe.
jme78
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JMO, but I don't think its necessary to cover your plate. That's one trend I see around here that I completely disagree with.
Give what you feel comfortable giving - a gift card to their registry is also acceptable- you don't have any say over when and where people hold their weddings - people are having you there because they want you to celebrate with them - not to make money.
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Posted by grkbarbie
wedding = cash.
regardless if u are close or not, ur close enough that they invited u
and their cost per plate doesnt vary based on their relationship with each guest. 150-200 per person is safe.
ITA
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Posted by jme78
JMO, but I don't think its necessary to cover your plate. That's one trend I see around here that I completely disagree with.
Give what you feel comfortable giving - a gift card to their registry is also acceptable- you don't have any say over when and where people hold their weddings - people are having you there because they want you to celebrate with them - not to make money.
ita i say this too
Lsorrent
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Cash is definitely acceptable.
Where is the wedding, maybe someone can help you out. Generally you want to try to cover your plate, but if not, you do what you can.
mzmahagony
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Thanks ladies, the wedding is in Florida. He is actually a co-worker of FH. I was planning on giving $200 but i wasn't sure if that was too little. If he was a good friend of ours I would have given much more but I felt comfortable giving $200 because they are a nice couple.
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i understand what you are syaing about the couple not having a wedding to make money and to give what you want to give.
if some1 was to have a wedding at oheka and spend 400k on a wedding, thats their business. 150-200 per plate is playing it safe for the 'normal' rhs.
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always try to cover your plate. I would suggest 150 - 200 in the envelope.
grkbarbie
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you are safe with 200 in florida. ny = $$$ and i heard in the south they give gifts not cash.. but of course ppl reffer cash over gifts.
SummerBride10
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if its in FLA im changin my answer...200 is perfect.
Lsorrent
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I think $200 is fine for a FL wedding. Especially since you also have to travel.
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Posted by grkbarbie
i understand what you are syaing about the couple not having a wedding to make money and to give what you want to give.
if some1 was to have a wedding at oheka and spend 400k on a wedding, thats their business. 150-200 per plate is playing it safe for the 'normal' rhs.
I usually give that amount myself - I just don't like to view it in terms of 'cover your plate'. I prefer to think of it as a nice gift for starting a life together.
I know I am silly, I have just been taken aback by friends b*tching about the amounts people gave at their weddings.
But I think $200 for a wedding in Florida is very thoughtful and generous. I went to a wedding in OH and we gave about 250 for the 2 of us and the couple was a bit stunned that we gave that. Around here is NOT the norm!!
T E R I
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$200 is perfect for a FL wedding, especially with your travel expenses being taken into consideration
lori7570
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ITA with $200...
jayepyt
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Posted by grkbarbie
i understand what you are syaing about the couple not having a wedding to make money and to give what you want to give.
if some1 was to have a wedding at oheka and spend 400k on a wedding, thats their business. 150-200 per plate is playing it safe for the 'normal' rhs.
I usually give that amount myself - I just don't like to view it in terms of 'cover your plate'. I prefer to think of it as a nice gift for starting a life together.
I know I am silly, I have just been taken aback by friends b*tching about the amounts people gave at their weddings.
But I think $200 for a wedding in Florida is very thoughtful and generous. I went to a wedding in OH and we gave about 250 for the 2 of us and the couple was a bit stunned that we gave that. Around here is NOT the norm!!
ita i also would like to say i am not expecting anyone to give me money for my wedding and i really dont care bc i just want htem to come out and have fun with me and fh
