Goood morning! I hope you're all enjoying your long weekends. I'm having trouble with my knee & wrist, so I get to visit the Dr. today :/ Not thrilled about that.
Anyway, today's question:
Have you or FH ever cheated/been cheated on? (not necessarily on each other, just in general) Has that in any way made either of you suspect of the other? Or do you think in a way that's made your relationshp with FH stronger?
FH has been cheated on in the past, and I think that made trust an even bigger part of our relationship than usual. We had been best friends for about 6 months before we started dating, and we knew about eachother; we shared secrets with eachother that we told no one else, so Eric knew that he could trust me. We started off our relationship based on a really strong trust. Plus, I knew he'd been hurt in the past, and so therefore I trusted him even more because I knew he'd never want someone else to experience that hurt.
So in sum: We trust eachother A LOT.
depoc1011
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Both FH and I have been cheated on ....Neither one of us were suspicious about the other cheating on them. We also talked ALOT before we met in person (we met online) and I felt very comfotable with him. I also did not let my gaurd down right away with him (bec of past relationships). Of course being cheated on plays a big role in relationships, well, at least in ours. We absolutley trust each other!
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FH has been, and I think I have been (no evidence though). These were both history and ex's.
I think it's only made our relationship with one another stronger.
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FH is my 1st bf so I've never was cheated on obviously, but I did have a huge issue with trusting anyone, but FH made it very easy and from the beginning I felt very comfortable with him in every way.
FH, I dont know if he was cheated on, but he definitely was hurt before in a very profound way. twice so he for sure has trust issues. it doesn't hurt our relationship that much, but it is always in the back of his mind. I know that he trusts me more than anybody in the world, and one of the biggest reason he loves me so much.
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I've cheated on my exes and i'm pretty sure on ex cheated on me, but i didn't care because i was cheating on him at the same time. FH has never cheated or been cheated on.
My relationship with FH i knew that I didn't want to hurt him like that and if i felt the need to be with someone else i would just end things.
With my exes i had cheated, because our relationships were pretty much over but both of us just didn't want to admit and we were just still keeping it going for no reason
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Let's see. I had cheated on many ex's. But in 7 years with FH, never cheated. I think this is one reason how I knew he was the one. No desire to cheat. He knows I had been unfaithful to past bf's and that was a trust issue for us in the beginning. FH has never cheated on anyone, he is adamant about fidelity. I have no idea if he had ever been cheated on in the past.
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I know he never cheated on anyone. just tests when we were younger..in Italian class lol. I have cheated just not on him. When I was with someone I did..I hate that I did it..Karma really bit me because when we broke up, he ended up with a friend of mine and they are getting married. It really is sooooo gross to think I did that bc if it were me, I would be devasted.
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When i was with my ex, I cheated on him with several people and he had cheated on me with one of his coworkers...Our relationship lasted 3 years and i can honestly say the last 1 1/2 years i was with him I had already mentally checked out of the relationship...FH was cheated on BIG TIME by his most serious ex girl friend before me, then the girl immediately before me left him for someone else (but she didnt cheat), so in the beginning it took him a long time to trust me that I wouldnt hurt him like his ex did. He also knew that I cheated on someone and that i was cheated on, so I think that made it even harder for him to trust. It took him a long time to accept that when i go out with my friends, i am not looking to get with any other guy (partially bc when i go out and drink, I can get really flirty with people but it is all in good fun and i would never act on it). I also had a hard time trusting him for the first two years of our relationship bc of the way something were done/things that were said, but now I trust him. I actually had a mini trust freak out not too long ago when him and I were talking about bachelor parties, but i am ok now lol
I would never cheat on him, i wouldnt want to hurt him like that. he is too good of a person to have to feel that pain ever again.
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FH cheated on his last ex. IN vegas ..... at a Bachelor Party. Some girl he met at some bar or club or whatever. She also had a BF. We were friends before we ever dated so this is why I know. it really casued me to think twice for several weeks before actually taking our friendship into the relationship zone. It still makes me sick to my stomach.
Hence the reason I hate Bachelor Parties and Vegas! So glad he's going next week for another one. I just have to trust that he's a more mature happier person now.
::sigh::
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FH was by his first major gf...she is now married to that guy. I have never cheater and as far as i know never been cheated on.
deanna225
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i have cheated on my ex boyfriend and another one cheated on me.,and fh was cheated on by his brat of and ex.i know with my fh i will never cheat on him cuz we get along so much better then i did with my exes. and he knows what it felt like when his ex did it to him. so we will not but eachother through that.
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I haven't, but FH has been by his ex...shes a skank... she cheated on him with a frend of his...well ex friend
MrsCM
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I've been cheated on, FH has not. I've never ever suspected him and if he has suspected me he's never said anything. In some relationships it's made me a little more paranoid but not in this one, I know what I mean to him :)
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both my FH and I have been cheated on.. think that is what made us move so slow in the beginning of our relationship.. sooo glad that we did because now i know he truly is the one for me!
I was engaged to someone else (who was in the army) when I met my FH. I didn't cheat on the man - I broke up with him once I realized I had feelings for my FH. This result in my ex-fiancee telling me that he cheated on me and never planned to tell me about it (without using protection ) Then my ex proceeded to badger and harass my FH so bad that he dumped me FH stopped talking to me so I tried to work things out with the ex-fiancee (out of loneliness I'm not sure) but then got a IM one night on the computer from the FH who came by my house and the result is at that point I cheated on the ex fiancee with current FH and continued to do so for some time (we were having one night stand booty calls all the time - but no relationship) Things got a little hairy at that point The ex fiancee didn't contact me for months then all of a sudden showed up back in town after he got back from afghanistan acting all weird and I said u have got to be kidding me. Then I went on about a 2 yr streak dating other fellows and finally was dating a guy who stole my identity and stole money and the FH said 'I want you to be my girl so you never have to go through this again wih these guys' and the rest is history...
I don't think FH has cheated on past girlfriends but he hadn't had many long term g/fs before me. Don't think he cheated on any
And I know this is off tangent but I just want to add that I am so glad I met the FH while I was engaged because I would have married this other man an never knew that he cheated on me. My heart dropped out of my chest when he told me that. He told me he was never going to tell me that even if we got married
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Both FH and I had releationships when we were very young and stupid...and cheated. To this day I feel bad about it.
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FH and i have both been cheated on in the past. and because of that there have been trust issues but we talk about it through and now trust each other completely. we've both learned from our past relationships and have much better communication.
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I have been cheated on; FH hasn't. My ex before FH cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend. But when I look back at the situation; I'm glad he cheated because then I would have never met my FH. So thanks for being an a-hole.
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I have been cheated on, my High School boyfriend who I was on again off again with for 5 years. I think because of this I am always a little suspicious of things... He has never been cheated on by someone but suspects one of his exes had...
