Anybody ever concerned about raising children on LI? I grew up in LI and always thought I would never raise my children here. I just think there are alot of very materialistic people and it seems alot to do with keeping up with the Joneses. Also, there's alot of opportunity to get into trouble. My FI grew up in Michigan and has never done a drug in his life. I don't think I know anyone who has never done a drug, hehe. It was so prominent in my HS.
I know I will probably still move to LI when we have kids (I'm in queens now) because it does have a lot to offer and my family is here. I know that outside influences can have a big effect and if I turned out ok because of the way my mother raised me, then I think I can do the same for my kids. I just don't want my kids to be exposed to so much at such a young age, ya know?
what do you think?
CLMon7906
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Posted by Chelle
IMO... I think we have to stop blaming the 'location' for how kids behave.
What happened to a thing called 'parenting'?
well, the parents who can afford to buy a house here are working 70 hours a week so to make up for not spending time with their kids, they have the nanny go buy them whatever they want to curb their own guilt. so the kids learn that new things pacify emptiness as well and voila, greedy kids...no matter how sweetly they are raised, they can still be greedy and mean.
I have to disagree with you...DH & I do not work 70 hours a week & have purchased a gorgeous home on LI!!!! When kids come around (next 2 years) I will be home & there will not be a nanny!!! So you can't say that just bc that is what you 'preceive'
haha...obviously i didn't mean any LIW ladies. i meant more exclusively the ones that chelle brought up from her store....the ones who hire a nanny to do it all...not normal people!
and the 70 hours a week....workaholic high up executives who spend countless hours in the office. who works 70 hours a week to make ends meet and hires a nanny?
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Shiv
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yes, I shouldn't segregate LI as the problem. It is primarily to do with our society today and what we are made to believe is the most valuable.
I just wish everyone on LI was like you ladies!
CLMon7906
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I just wish everyone on LI was like you ladies!
awwwwwwww.
Chelle
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yes, I shouldn't segregate LI as the problem. It is primarily to do with our society today and what we are made to believe is the most valuable.
I just wish everyone on LI was like you ladies!
Awe, thanks.... I just know how hard it is to live here YEAR round, EVERY day and it makes me sad when these people come here and treat us like they do and to see how they treat their own children. It's sad
It is society. It is parenting. It is happening everywhere, not just LI.
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In my opinion, if you and your husband are responsible adults who feel that you are ready to have children, you can do it anywhere! If this is what you want to do, put the effort in and your kids are likely to turn out fine...just DON'T SPOIL THEM!
I grew up in Brooklyn, saw lots of craziness around me but had parents who kept me grounded. Of course there is only so much you can do as a parent and you won't have control over everything but the location in my opinion doesn't make much of a difference.
Be there for your child, support them and shower them with love... at least you're aware and concerned and will make the extra effort.
