Random really selfish vent
With all of the other horrible crap that my dad is doing, and all of the hurt he's causing us, which I cant even deal with right now, I just have to take a minute nad be selfish and vent about my wedding..
He left us with no money and lots of bills, which me and FH have to take on some of, which means we can't save ANY money for the wedding, which means we can't afford it!
We booked a really large hall because I have a large family but now we're not inviting my dad's family and I won't even come CLOSE to minimum. If they even LET me change the day, Friday night and Saturday afternoon are out because FH is Jewish, that leaves Sunday morning (SO no the feel I was going for) or Sunday evening (no one's going to come!)...
And I'm just so attached to my date. I absolutely love it. You know how you get attached to your wedding date, and it'll be yur anniversary for the rest of your life. I have it embroidered on my tote bag for corn's sake.
My whole wedding is completely up in the air. He encouraged me to book this huge expensive place in November..everyone loved it, and now he left..and it's not even that we were counting on $$ from my parents for the wedding, but it's the fact that they were paying for my car and car insurance for me b/c I'm still in college, etc, and now there's no way my mom can afford it, so my FH has to take it on, and it's a LOT of money. There goes the wedding savings and our vacation, and everything else. Also, now FH has to help me pay for college. Everyone wants me to finish full time so I can get financial aid and get it over with, and he's working full time, I can't do that with school and my back problems right now, so everything falls on FH.
In college I've always worked 2-3 jobs, but it's basically just kept me in books, gas, lunch and tampons. I was enver able to save anything, and that was with my parents helping me by paying for my car and taking out loans beyond my loans to help me pay..now with no help from my parents, Fh has to pay for everything..I'm so ANGRY that my dad is doing this to me...
Among other things he's taking away my dream wedding
He left us with no money and lots of bills, which me and FH have to take on some of, which means we can't save ANY money for the wedding, which means we can't afford it!
We booked a really large hall because I have a large family but now we're not inviting my dad's family and I won't even come CLOSE to minimum. If they even LET me change the day, Friday night and Saturday afternoon are out because FH is Jewish, that leaves Sunday morning (SO no the feel I was going for) or Sunday evening (no one's going to come!)...
And I'm just so attached to my date. I absolutely love it. You know how you get attached to your wedding date, and it'll be yur anniversary for the rest of your life. I have it embroidered on my tote bag for corn's sake.
My whole wedding is completely up in the air. He encouraged me to book this huge expensive place in November..everyone loved it, and now he left..and it's not even that we were counting on $$ from my parents for the wedding, but it's the fact that they were paying for my car and car insurance for me b/c I'm still in college, etc, and now there's no way my mom can afford it, so my FH has to take it on, and it's a LOT of money. There goes the wedding savings and our vacation, and everything else. Also, now FH has to help me pay for college. Everyone wants me to finish full time so I can get financial aid and get it over with, and he's working full time, I can't do that with school and my back problems right now, so everything falls on FH.
In college I've always worked 2-3 jobs, but it's basically just kept me in books, gas, lunch and tampons. I was enver able to save anything, and that was with my parents helping me by paying for my car and taking out loans beyond my loans to help me pay..now with no help from my parents, Fh has to pay for everything..I'm so ANGRY that my dad is doing this to me...
Among other things he's taking away my dream wedding
