RANT

I am SO tired of this stupid wedding.
I am getting declines from people I THOUGHT I am very close to.
People who's weddings I attended very recently and gave generous gifts at.
People who I work with DAY AFTER DAY all day.
People who are FAMILY.

Besides that- I never heard from FH's Best Men on the bachelor party- so I contacted him... got FH off from work- which wasn't easy because he's a dr and another dr had to be in to cover TODAY and TOMORROW.
I bought plane tickets to surprise my boy and tell him he's going to FL for this weekend for a surprise bachelor party in Miami with his friends.

So on Wednesday night we had our tasting at Russo's and it went SO late- (it was also FH's birthday) we didn't get home until nearly two in the morning. The food just kept coming and coming.

Anyway FH was supposed to leave last night at 9- but he was exhausted and pushed the flight until this morning.

His best man Kevin- went NUTS. Told him to stay home. Told him that he's not in our wedding and more and that he won't even attend.
Told him that he doesn't believe in our love (I've met this man twice) and so he won't stand up with him. And basically said until FH becomes less selfish they are no longer friends.

THIS IS ALL on TOP of the fact that my groomsman sammy just had to pull out of our bridal party because he's locked in the hospital until he gets a new heart! (He is the only person I'm not mad at.)


My sister in law still won't give me my nephew's tux measurement- I only have 63 yesses (minus two now from best man) and I'm feeling like we're spending THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of dollars to throw this party- that no one's going to come to and it's just a big slap in the face after another.

I'm sick. I can't even HOLD food in my stomach it comes right out.

My poor FH is sitting home by himself because he's off from work today (again losing thousands of dollars ON TOP of the plane tickets I bought)
and I'm sitting at work so sick, filled with anxiety and MISERABLE.

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PICTURED.

Oh my goodness

I'm sorry.

omgosh you poor girl! I can't believe these people! I'm so sorry

I'm sooo sorry you're going through all this. Please hang in there, and just say f*ck everyone else. Do what will make you guys happy. If that means it's only you two standing at the alter and no BM's or GM's, then let it be that way. I wish I could tell you what to do, but try to keep your head up high, and realize that in a month, you'll be married, and things hopefully calm down for you. People are so insensitive and selfish --- just take this time to realize who's really there for you and who's not, cut people out if you need to, and just stand by your fiances' side. That's all that matters.

Sending you many many hugs.

Wow. I am SO SORRY! I can't even believe the ridiculousness you are going through.

Your way!

People are just insane.....

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Posted by DreamyD

I am SO tired of this stupid wedding.
I am getting declines from people I THOUGHT I am very close to.
People who's weddings I attended very recently and gave generous gifts at.
People who I work with DAY AFTER DAY all day.
People who are FAMILY.

Besides that- I never heard from FH's Best Men on the bachelor party- so I contacted him... got FH off from work- which wasn't easy because he's a dr and another dr had to be in to cover TODAY and TOMORROW.
I bought plane tickets to surprise my boy and tell him he's going to FL for this weekend for a surprise bachelor party in Miami with his friends.

So on Wednesday night we had our tasting at Russo's and it went SO late- (it was also FH's birthday) we didn't get home until nearly two in the morning. The food just kept coming and coming.

Anyway FH was supposed to leave last night at 9- but he was exhausted and pushed the flight until this morning.

His best man Kevin- went NUTS. Told him to stay home. Told him that he's not in our wedding and more and that he won't even attend.
Told him that he doesn't believe in our love (I've met this man twice) and so he won't stand up with him. And basically said until FH becomes less selfish they are no longer friends.

THIS IS ALL on TOP of the fact that my groomsman sammy just had to pull out of our bridal party because he's locked in the hospital until he gets a new heart! (He is the only person I'm not mad at.)


My sister in law still won't give me my nephew's tux measurement- I only have 63 yesses (minus two now from best man) and I'm feeling like we're spending THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of dollars to throw this party- that no one's going to come to and it's just a big slap in the face after another.

I'm sick. I can't even HOLD food in my stomach it comes right out.

My poor FH is sitting home by himself because he's off from work today (again losing thousands of dollars ON TOP of the plane tickets I bought)
and I'm sitting at work so sick, filled with anxiety and MISERABLE.

THIS
IS
NOT
WHAT
I PICTURED.

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That is rough. To be honest, if the best man could not understand why he changed his flight, he is not a very good friend.

If she doesn't give you the tux size in time, then he can't be in the wedding. People need to be responsible and accountable. Maybe you can go to the tux rental place and have them call her from there!

Did you send out save the dates?

I'm sure your close family and friends will be there and really, that's all that matters. The less people that come, the less you have to pay for in the end. It's all about you and him and having this celebration with a beautiful gown, flowers, and great food is really a celebration of your love... not anyone else's. People will let you down, ones you never thought would. You just have to keep going and remember who the wedding is about.

DO NOT LET IT MAKE YOU SICK!!

I'm so sorry!!! Why are people so MEAN!!!!

your way.

Thanks girls. I really regret this whole wedding and I really hate that I feel this way. How can I mean so little to people- when I go out of my way to do and be there for them?
Why is our wedding so unimportant to people and how could a grown man who my FH spoke SO highly of be so effin mean.
I wrote him a letter last night on FB telling him what I think of him and where he can go.
He then blocked me. These aren't children either- my FH is 36 years old so this guy, Kevin has to be around the same age.

Im sorry girl. Weddings really bring out the worst in people

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Posted by DreamyD

Thanks girls. I really regret this whole wedding and I really hate that I feel this way. How can I mean so little to people- when I go out of my way to do and be there for them?
Why is our wedding so unimportant to people and how could a grown man who my FH spoke SO highly of be so effin mean.
I wrote him a letter last night on FB telling him what I think of him and where he can go.
He then blocked me. These aren't children either- my FH is 36 years old so this guy, Kevin has to be around the same age.

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I can't believe this guy, especially. ***...was his comment completely out of left field or has he made remarks like this before?

Somebody's jealous that he's no longer FH's number 1!

im sorry hun :( dont let this stuff get you down! I totally know you how you feel. one of my best friend's pulled out of my wedding (she was a bridesmaid by the way) via email and then declined to come via twitter. I had people declining up to the day of (one of my DH's friends got sick the day of and didnt come), it was a very crazy time. But at the end of the day, you will get through it all and when you look up, you will be married to your best friend. Just let out your frustrations and we will be here to listen.

I don't know what his problem is- nor do I know if comments were said about me before.
I don't want this man standing up with or for us.

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Posted by DreamyD

I don't know what his problem is- nor do I know if comments were said about me before.
I don't want this man standing up with or for us.

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I also just thought of how he didn't agree with your love... that is silly because why did he agree to be the best man? I understand people have opinions but if you don't agree with a couple's relationship why would you agree to be a best man?!?!?

Hopefully he has another close friend or relative that he can ask to fill the spot.

I know. I said what kind of a man opts out of Best Man and the wedding as well as ruins the bachelor party with only 36 days to go until our wedding?
I basically told him that he's a piece of garbage and has no heart nor does he give the slightest **** about Marc.
I said that if he was feeling this way- SHOULDN'T HE HAVE SAID SOMETHING SOONER?

Why did he agree to have Marc come down to him and work out the details with me?

I have NO clue what is wrong with this man- how he made it through medical school or why he is so terribly mean.

Sending lots of your way. I myself have had a very interesting bridal party to say the least so I totally understand how you are feeling. I won't get too much into it but just trust that it will get better. Lean on people who are really excited for you and your wedding. Sometimes that support comes from people we least expect.

i'm so sorry you have to go through with this!!!!!
how is your poor FH dealing with this?

Wow Hun. I am so sorry. This is uncalled for and mean and ridiculous.

I am realizing how lucky we were to not have anyone bail and also to have cider against a bridal party in the first place.

You just have to let the nonsense roll off your back and relax. People are going to suck- now, at your wedding, when you have kids, when you take a vacation....people will always suck. The only thing you have control over is how you react to crappy situations. I know you are hurt, but buck up. It'll be ok. And if you need seat fillers, all the ladies here would love to celebrate your love!