The Brides parents do the e party & grooms do the RD right ?
MY parents are divorced & are throwing us the e party .
His parents , well , lets just say they are divorced too, but are not that active in his life,.. sooo,
Is this still the norm? Just wondering so I can start passing the word on to my FMIL to start saving..
werock0709
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We didn't have an e-party, but we are doing a rehersal dinner. His parents are on a fixed income, so unfortunately I think is another thing we'll be paying for on our own
MNM7to7
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I think the norm is groom's parents pay for RD but when does anything go by the books.... We (FH & I) are paying for everything...we even paid for the engagement party. I know our families would love to help but financially can't and that's okay.
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Yea , I wasnt so crazy about a e party either , but my family pushed the idea, ,, Big huge giney family , Im the only girl, Was unavoidable,,
Anyways I was just trying to see what the popular thing i guess is now,,
Im sure it will fall in our laps being its suppsed to be fil's thing..
let me say this,, fil's arent broke, they live very comfortable, & FH is their only son,, They have always put thmeselves first b4 him,, This is why i started the thread, ,, Not because im a spolied brat & want them to pay,, Trust me the have, but will prob say no to it,,
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Posted by MNM7to7
I think the norm is groom's parents pay for RD but when does anything go by the books.... We (FH & I) are paying for everything...we even paid for the engagement party. I know our families would love to help but financially can't and that's okay.
Same here.. actually from what I understood the grooms family pays for the eparty!! His parents actually paid for most of the food and my parents just gave us a big check which we put for the deposit for the hall... so really both sets of parents did something for the eparty! We aren't going by the book at all... I don't think many people do anymore!
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We didn't have an e-party. I think a lot of the 30-something brides (myself included) aren't going/didn't go that route. We had a dinner with our immediate family and bridal party. FH paid for it.
I think my FIL's will pay for the RD. It hasn't been brought up yet. They are very big on tradition so I think they know about it.
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We didn't have an e-party. I think a lot of the 30-something brides (myself included) aren't going/didn't go that route. We had a dinner with our immediate family and bridal party. FH paid for it.
I think my FIL's will pay for the RD. It hasn't been brought up yet. They are very big on tradition so I think they know about it.
let me say , when I say party,, I dont mean PARTY, like 100 people,
Its the bp, immed family & thats it.. Its only like 50 people., My parents wanted to do it so the familys could meet, Thats our tradtition. Please Britt, Im 35 , Hello, those days are over ,, LOL
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Posted by brittny817
We didn't have an e-party. I think a lot of the 30-something brides (myself included) aren't going/didn't go that route. We had a dinner with our immediate family and bridal party. FH paid for it.
I think my FIL's will pay for the RD. It hasn't been brought up yet. They are very big on tradition so I think they know about it.
let me say , when I say party,, I dont mean PARTY, like 100 people,
Its the bp, immed family & thats it.. Its only like 50 people., My parents wanted to do it so the familys could meet, Thats our tradtition. Please Britt, Im 35 , Hello, those days are over ,, LOL
You know I'm with ya and right behind ya
Trust me, if my FIL's had their way they would have had a PARTY with all the people that are invited to the wedding. They didn't want to pay for it, nor did my parents. I love them but they are crazy. Mike and I come from super traditional Italian families so I totally get what your saying.
thumper9878
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my FH parents paid for our eparty and I think my parents will take care of the RD, if not we will take care of it. Nothing crazy though.
chellynyc
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We were planning on paying for our rehearsal dinner. My family threw us a small e-party and his parents just told us last week that they are paying for our rehearsal dinner so that was a very nice surprise.
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Posted by werock0709
We didn't have an e-party, but we are doing a rehersal dinner. His parents are on a fixed income, so unfortunately I think is another thing we'll be paying for on our own
same for us
Nina
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Pete's parents are divorced as well. I'm not really sure who is paying for what and we haven't addressed it. Pete's ma paid for his brothers and SIL's rehearsal dinner at Newcorner's in Brooklyn. The only thing I worry about is our bridal party is double the size of theirs and in my family we traditionally invite some of the out of towners....so it would be a bit more expensive. So we are thinking that maybe the mother and father will split it....or we'll split it with whoever. Just depends on what they want to do.
tonimike
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Yea, I think im gonna kinda sorta , drop some hints about it, I know its a while away , but if it ends up falling in our laps, its something that we need to allocate for,,
Which more than likey we will be doing it,, I dont care what it is , It could be cake & coffe for all I care, but I just dont want everyone going to the church for the rehresal & then looking at each other when its over & like ok, now what ya know,,
Especially given the fact that aside from 1 girl on my side & one guy on mikes , the bp consists of just family..
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Usually its the grooms parents but now a days you can do it so many ways. Orginally my in-laws weren't going to pay for our RD so we were planned to pay for it ourselves. That night they told us they would pay.
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we had an e-party and both parents gave the same amount of money and fh and i paid the rest, for the hall they are both spiltting the fee and for the rd we are splitting it three ways also, and for the shower i have a feeling that will be split also, but not sure since they wont give me details.
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i agree who goes by the books these days?! they do say grooms parents do RD. I wish that was the case for us...but his parents havent given us crapola! only thing they know how to give us is a list of who else they want us to invite! So its up to us or my parents to come up w/ the $$$...but it will most likely be us b/c my parents have done more than enough!
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My FMIL was nice enough to offer to pay for the RD. She knows we are paying for everything else and I think this is the last wedding in her family. I am very happy she offered
Lissy3077
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Tradition has it, that the parents of the groom pay for the RD
bride2b24
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im dealing with the same issue....my mom contributed alot to the Eparty so its expected that FIL pay for the RD .....but it hasnt been mentioned yet...i guess we're gonna have to ask
