So....not like I havent been thinking about it since the day we got engaged....but today it really it me, that my dad wont be with me on my wedding day...today would of been his 54 birthday and when I went to go visit him it made me realize that he wont be there, this month is also hard because he passed on the 24 of OCtober....I already have things that we will be doing....a donation in his name instead of favors and relaseing doves maybe at the church but just wanted to know if anyone else is out there in the same boat as me.....
iwannabmrsD
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i' in the same boat.. my dad passed on october 23rd..is birthday is november 11th.. so he also passed very close to his birthday.. this time of year is always hard for me.. i took off two days of work this week because i just couldn't get out of bed.. were gonna do a couple of things in remembrance of him at the weding also..
if u ever want to talk pm me.. i know exactly how u feel.
chrispar
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I'm not in the same boat as you but I just wanted to say that I am truly sorry for your loss and that your dad will be with you that day. He is with you everyday. Hang in there.
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i'm in the same boat with ya..
my dad was killed by a drunk driver when i was younger so this whole wedding planning thing isn't so fun after all.. there's always that thought of wishing he were here..
you're not alone!!
chrispar
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Posted by iwannabmrsD
i' in the same boat.. my dad passed on october 23rd..is birthday is november 11th.. so he also passed very close to his birthday.. this time of year is always hard for me.. i took off two days of work this week because i just couldn't get out of bed.. were gonna do a couple of things in remembrance of him at the weding also..
if u ever want to talk pm me.. i know exactly how u feel.
So sorry for your loss too
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i sort of understand where your coming from. i didnt lose my father but my grandfather who helped raise me. i cried the other day cuz it hit me that he wont be there and i know he wanted to. i just always envisioned him seeing me for the first time that day and being so happy but what can ya do. i made a unity candle in his honor and im having a single cally lilly on a chair at the ceremony where he would have sat.
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aww im so sorry i know that it must be really tough to go through!! but i think its soo great how u are incorporating him into your wedding and even know he wont actually be there, he'll be there in spirits thinking about how proud of u he is!
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awww sweetie i feel for you. i don't have the same problem myself but my FH does. his mom passed away 10 yrs ago. he was married before and she wasn't alive for that wedding either. so it's really hard to know that his mother won't be around for either time he's gotten married. we're doing a donation in her name in lieu of favors. but that whole part when i dance with my dad, we're not sure how to handle his part his step-mom could do it i guess
it's just hard, so i undertand your feelings
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i'm in the same boat with ya..
my dad was killed by a drunk driver when i was younger so this whole wedding planning thing isn't so fun after all.. there's always that thought of wishing he were here..
you're not alone!!
So sorry to here that. But once again all of your Dad's will be there with you when you walk down the aisle.
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sorry to everyone who is going through this tough time
lucamon
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I'm in the same boat. Both my dad and my FH's dad has past. I guess we won't be doing the father and daughter dance. I plan on wearing a picture of my dad either in a locket or something the day of the wedding.
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Im in the same boat too. He went in the hospital on my 24 th bday and passed 1 day before his 50th bday. So we waked him on what would have been his 51st bday, 10 days before Christmas. It has been hard but with time its gotten easier. As I read I know it doesnt matter the how it happened ,it just Stinks we cant have them with us. I know there are a bunch of us that are with you girlie. Hang in there.
LittlePup34
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i also am in the same boat, and yes sometimes during planning it hits me extremely hard that he will not be with me on my day
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I'm right there with you. I lost my dad on April 25th. He was so exciting for our wedding. I think about him not being there and I feel ill. It won't be easy. All of our special touches will help us through the day. Our dad's will be there.....
FM me if you ever need to talk!
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I'm in the same boat as you... My dad died in a car accident two years ago. And FH's dad was a police officer killed in the line of duty-when he was younger. I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I think it's normal to have these kind of days. I go through days where I'm so excited to be planning and then days where I don't even want to get married because I know my dad won't be there. It's not going to be easy and the holidays and birthdays really make it hard but you just have to try your absolute hardest to focus on the positive things. I 'try' to remind myself every day that he is with me-even if I can't see him. And I know he wouldn't want me to be so sad on my wedding day.
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FH is in the same boat. His mom passed away 4 yrs ago (before me). I told him to keep a picture of her in his tux pocket and we will have a memory candle. He is walking down the aisle with his aunt (his moms sister). I keep telling him she will be there watching but its still not the same.
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hey sweetie! I am in the same boat. My father died 6 years ago, a year before my older sisters wedding. It was so hard for her. I have always been strong about it until I got engaged. I have been a mess. I was at a wedding last night and the father of the bride gave a speech and then did the father/daughter dance. I was outside crying like a baby. It hurts so much because my father was my best friend. We did everything together. It stinks knowing he won't be there that day with me in physical form. But he will be in spirit.
I am doing tghe memory candle at the church and then setting up a little table at the recpetion with a picture of me and him dancing and placing that sam e candle lit on that table. I am releasing a dove in his honor. Jeff and I are going to dance together after his dances with his mom in memory of my father.
If you ever need to talk, please e-mail me. Its easier talking to someone who is going through the same thing!
Sabrina
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im sorry :( its got to be really hard. My dad is fighting cancer and we were told friday it would only be a couple weeks, so i know its hard to plan thinking he wont be there. but knowing has to be worse. im so sorry :( try to keep ur head up
