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JennyAPH Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:17 AM

Really annoyed...

Jennmolloy Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:20 AM

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I am so sorry!!!! She should not worry about the $$ you spend. My sister MOH is telling me we CAN'T order dresses until she loses 30lbs...um hello I got engaged memorial day weekend and she hasn't lost a pound so I am supposed to wait for her. I think not.

flairforfashion Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:20 AM

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I am telling you- sometimes you see the worst of the BM's during this time. You think of them throughout the entire process, and they find something to whine about.

JennyAPH Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:24 AM

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flairforfashion Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:25 AM

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I am telling you- sometimes you see the worst of the BM's during this time. You think of them throughout the entire process, and they find something to whine about.

I couldn't agree more.. I almost want to just tell them all I decided to just have a MOH and thats it cause its been nothing but a headache from the start...

My best friend who I LOVE dearly was so b*tchy to me when I picked out this one dress. She kept whining and complaining. I snapped at her and said 'listen, if you don't like it, then don't be a part of it.' She was fine after that. LOL.

MrsGRod09 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:36 AM

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Posted by gporka23

Posted by flairforfashion

I am telling you- sometimes you see the worst of the BM's during this time. You think of them throughout the entire process, and they find something to whine about.

I couldn't agree more.. I almost want to just tell them all I decided to just have a MOH and thats it cause its been nothing but a headache from the start...

Trust me i am all too familiar with this..so thats why i decided no wedding party at all..

gina409 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:39 AM

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aww jen im sorry sometimes i feel bad for bm cause brides can be a bit demanding...but this is def not the case..u did everythign u r suppossed to do even betond by offering to make an appt at a local salon.i dont knw why but sometimes weddings can bring out the worst in bms and i have to say if i was u id just put ur foot down and say this is what it is so deal with it or go u have been suoer nice and i am shocked by how she treated u.and as for u not geting ur make up done yes its a personal choice but no reason to say its dumb for a bride wanting to look her best..good luck and please keep us posted on what happens

MirabellaNYC Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:41 AM

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If they're not responding to you on hair & makeup, you know what?? Let them be on their own for that one. You shouldn't have to worry about that, and your bm's are getting stressed over something so 'not major'....seriously their hair and makeup is not your problem (and don't let it be! They're supposed to help you during this time)

As for the dress ordering, tell the girls that if they are wanting to lose weight before the ordering, that its actually BETTER to order the dress when your a bit bigger, b/c you can just take the dress in. You have alot of time before your wedding, and everyone's weight is bound to fluctuate in the next 9 months.

And I would call them live about the order date.

JennyAPH Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:49 AM

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MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 10:59 AM

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I understand why you're frustrated but the economy is horrible and it's holiday season. Everyone is stressed and just seeing the words 'purchasing bridesmaids dress' and 'cost of hair and make-up' would make even me anxious. Granted it's several months away but I find people are on edge.

You meant well by giving them the option of using your person or going elsewhere. I think everyone is stressed over finances and that tends to bring out the worst. We're getting married during a tough economic cycle and it's going to be an inconvenience to lots of people.
In the end, it's not about us and it's not personal.

I'm refraining from sending an email to my BM's until February even though I bought their dresses and am paying for their make-up, however, I want to wait before burdening them with costs of bachelorette parties and bridal showers.

I guess my advice is don't take it personal.

coldasice217 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 11:37 AM

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I completely understand. I sent out basically the same email a few days ago, minus the hair and makeup part, and got the same response. Well, actually FSIL sent me her measurements, but I knew she had already gotten them done, just forgot to send to me. Of my 6 girls, 4 are still delinquent, and 3 are family! It's really frustrating. But my one friend just flat out ignores me. I have to IM her all the time and be like Dude, did you not check your email or did you just not answer? Then within minutes there's miraculously a response in my inbox

gina409 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 11:40 AM

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Posted by gporka23

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aww jen im sorry sometimes i feel bad for bm cause brides can be a bit demanding...but this is def not the case..u did everythign u r suppossed to do even betond by offering to make an appt at a local salon.i dont knw why but sometimes weddings can bring out the worst in bms and i have to say if i was u id just put ur foot down and say this is what it is so deal with it or go u have been suoer nice and i am shocked by how she treated u.and as for u not geting ur make up done yes its a personal choice but no reason to say its dumb for a bride wanting to look her best..good luck and please keep us posted on what happens

I am just going to put everything on the back burner for a while. I need a break from the drama anyhow. If they order the dress, great!! if not then whatever. As far as the hair and makeup.. I will spend as much as I want whether its 'dumb' or not. I am giving them 9 months notice on everything, I think thats fair enough... and dont get me wrong. I told them they dont have to get their hair and makeup done at all if they didnt want.. so its not like I am forcing them to spend money.

ugh. Ok im done whining. Vent officially over.!

hopefull in time they will just get a move on it because they realize what a important day this is i would just say u do what u gotta do for u and if they still dont respond they have a good old sit down..please keep us updated and goo dluck

Dani777 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 02:08 PM

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Oh My... I'm sorry you're going through this...
How long have you known these BMs..? Have they ever been in weddings before ..??

JennyAPH Posted: Dec 22, 2008 02:13 PM

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JennyAPH Posted: Dec 22, 2008 02:13 PM

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ugh my computer is a POS lately

JennyAPH Posted: Dec 22, 2008 02:19 PM

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lawoman11177 Posted: Dec 22, 2008 03:03 PM

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That's crazy, they definetly should at least respond to you, and they should know you know the expense that is involved in being in a bridal party and that you are willing to work with them. I have been in my share of Bridal parties, and done what was asked of me, it is your day. Besides you are giving them the option to get their hair done on there own. Maybe it's time for girls night out with some drinks and some communication to clear the air.. Ofcourse maybe do this after the holiday!!!1

sharivera Posted: Dec 22, 2008 03:05 PM

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I sent my BM's an email to give them an update on everything, which pretty much included when we are ordering their dress and hair and makeup. I told them how much hair and makeup would cost if they got it done with me but that they DEF. do not have to, I dont mind at all if they can not afford it.

well I get 0 replies... I hear thru someone else that one BM still doesnt feel 'skinny' enough to order the dress... so what she just doesnt reply?

then I get texts from another BM basically bitching me out that the hair and makeup are too expensive. I reminded her that she does NOT have to get it done and that I would make other arrangements for her (at a local salon) if she wanted me to....but she kept going on and on and got really nasty with me bc she asked if one of her friends could come do our hair and makeup for free.. I told her she could do HERS but I am going to find someone for me to which she told me how 'dumb' i was being for spending money when I dont have to.. ugh

I am about ready to go to city hall or vegas and be done with this

This is EXACTLY why I am not having a bridal party!! LOL!!!! I love my friends, but really don't need to deal with their b&tching! LOL

MrsKtoBe Posted: Dec 22, 2008 03:06 PM

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girls. u never see groomsman pulling this kind of c.r.a.p. just ignore them bc the ones who usually say 'dont waste your money' are just jealous that you have the money to spend.