Really Upset

I just found out my Grandma isn't coming to my wedding.

She's 92 and lives in VA w/ my Aunt and Uncle.
My Aunt and Uncle sent their RSVP back w/ 2
Why can't they just fly up here w/ her? They usually drive. They have the money, that's not the issue. My brother even offered buddy passes through Continental.

I'm so upset. I hardly get to see her, and I'll probably be the last grandchild she see's to get married..

She went through a lot 2 years ago, had a massive heart attack and a triple bypass surgery. They didn't think she would be able to walk again. But my Gram is a VERY strong woman. She's still walking. She came up here in May for my E-Party, that's the last time I saw her.

I need hugs

so sorry try to convince them to fly her up....

omg im so sorry.. I know how you feel. So many relatives I thought would definatly come from Italy are not... It definatly hurts.

hang in there. maybe you can convince her to come anyway

I'm sorry sweetie..that is so disappointing

There is still some time so don't give up hope

aww hun i am sorry!! Keep trying to convince them. Talk to your gram and see what she says. I think she should be there as well it would be good for her to have some fun and see her grand daugther get married. Good luck. HUGS FOR YOU!!!

I can't even talk to her on the phone though! She's lost pretty much all hearing. My dad and her write letters to eachother.

I'm so sorry, that really stinks. Maybe you could make her a nice album to send her after the wedding so she can still feel included.

I'm sorry she can't come, but I feel I must supply the reality check.....

she's 92, and in not the best of health. Airports are stressful even when you're young and healthy. If you've ever had to fly when your sick, you know it's 10 times worse.

She likely doesn't have the stamina.... don't guilt trip them! It's wise not to stress your grandma's system. Besides, it will make your next visit to her even more special when your new husband comes along....

My grand aunts are in their 70's and 80's, and are sort of frail, and they can't come to my wedding... and they only live in queens!
Just video everything and send it to her, and make a toast to her at your reception....

dont worry she might change her mind and come still and surprise you!!!!hope that help to make you feel better. i dont have any grandparents that are alive and i too wish that they were there also but they are not.dont worry everything will work out fine. at least u have her love.

So sorry

sorry to hear that, maybe things will change

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Posted by portjeffbride

I'm sorry she can't come, but I feel I must supply the reality check.....

she's 92, and in not the best of health. Airports are stressful even when you're young and healthy. If you've ever had to fly when your sick, you know it's 10 times worse.

She likely doesn't have the stamina.... don't guilt trip them! It's wise not to stress your grandma's system. Besides, it will make your next visit to her even more special when your new husband comes along....

My grand aunts are in their 70's and 80's, and are sort of frail, and they can't come to my wedding... and they only live in queens!
Just video everything and send it to her, and make a toast to her at your reception....

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Thanks..yea I don't plan on giving her a guilt trip. I wouln't want to upset her. I'm just dissapointed.

it's totally sad though... I know... to see them become too frail to be able to participate in family events.... especially since the elders are usually the center of attention.... it makes it that much more obvious that they are no longer strong enough to celebrate....

awww! i'm so sorry

I'll be in the same boat in a few months..my grandpa is 92 and lives in Florida and I REALLY want him at our wedding. I hope he can make it.

Sorry to hear this

I'm sorry and I know it stinks that she can't make it, but be glad that she is still here for you to share in the excitement and to have made it to your e-party and met your FH...so try and look at the positive. My grandparents have been gone for years and i'd give anything to have them back

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Posted by portjeffbride

I'm sorry she can't come, but I feel I must supply the reality check.....

she's 92, and in not the best of health. Airports are stressful even when you're young and healthy. If you've ever had to fly when your sick, you know it's 10 times worse.

She likely doesn't have the stamina.... don't guilt trip them! It's wise not to stress your grandma's system. Besides, it will make your next visit to her even more special when your new husband comes along....

My grand aunts are in their 70's and 80's, and are sort of frail, and they can't come to my wedding... and they only live in queens!
Just video everything and send it to her, and make a toast to her at your reception....

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Well said!

I know it suucks to not have the people you love at the most important day in your life. I am so sorry that she can't be there. Make sure you plan a nice trip down to see her soon after the wedding.

Is anyone tech savvy in your family? Maybe she can get to a computer and you can web cast your ceremony so she can watch it live? How cool would that be?

I'm so sorry that you are upset....

Awww I am so sorry.