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Posted by princessSDG

Some Platinum wedding rings and its funny because not all of them spend 65k on a ring....lol
and they have $$$$

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Posted by JamDancer

ummm... $65000??? and the 'traditional 2 carat?' The person with the biggest ring that I know is my FSIL and hers is 1.6 and it's gigantic.

Who are these people??

mine cost about $3500 and I have a 1.2 ct flawless step- cut emerald, which is apparently one of the more expensive cuts. (my FH knows the jeweler and obviously got a VERY good deal, but still)

What the hell kind of rings are these ppl buying??

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I think they meant to say the average used to be 10K and now its 6500K

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Posted by cateydee

give me a lifesaver candy ring any day... i wouldn't wanna have to wait to marry my guy just cuz of a ring....

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These are pretty much the exact words I said to FH lol, we've wanted to get engaged for over 2 years and he had been saving up money for a ring. And I always & sincerely told him, 'Just give me a ring pop, I don't care.'

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i forget the exact # but a few weeks ago z100 was talking about rings and i think they said the average cost of an ering in NY is 12K - which i thought sounded about right considering some spend a lot more than 12K and some spend a lot less, so 12k seems like a good middle number - at least im pretty sure they were saying it was around 12

its ironic, now that i am married i dont wear my e-ring as often, i usually just stick to my wedding band which was WAY WAY WAY WAY WAY less expensive

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i may be alone with this but honestly i wouldn't want to get married until my fh could afford at least a small diamond for me.... wouldn't have to be extravagant but something.

here is why.... if he doesn't have a little money to spend on a ring then clearly there is no money for a wedding or a house or kids and i wouldn't want to get married until we are both financially stable enough to have the things we want from a marriage.

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Posted by Margarita

i may be alone with this but honestly i wouldn't want to get married until my fh could afford at least a small diamond for me.... wouldn't have to be extravagant but something.

here is why.... if he doesn't have a little money to spend on a ring then clearly there is no money for a wedding or a house or kids and i wouldn't want to get married until we are both financially stable enough to have the things we want from a marriage.

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ITA and feel the same exact way, i've said that previously on similair threads in the past

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Posted by tHEBRide2010

It's not all about the ring. If you can believe it, I didn't even pick out my ring- i left it up to FH and he did an excellent job. I didn't pick out anything not the setting, shape or size- b/c I really didnt care. If he didnt give me anything and we could get married tomorrow I would do it. I would take just being married to FH over a $25k ring any day..

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Same with me. I didn't pick anything out at all. He could have proposed without one, I would have said yes. I don't need an engagement ring. And you know something? I have no idea what the karat, clarity, etc is. Because it doesn't matter.

Same thing with the wedding. He was the one that wanted to do the big expensive wedding, not I. Our budget was $15K, and we didn't go over not one bit. And you know something....I truly enjoyed it!!!! This is not to insult any of you gals who like the small details; personally for me I didn't look at it that way. My husband and I have been together for TEN years before we finally got hitched. We were engaged for 8 of those years, But we had so many probleems; one after another, in our relationship, our families, our household, etc it took that long to work everything out, but we survived. We went to h*ll and back and were still standing; together. I was just THRILLED to put all of that behind us, and was HONERED that after all the BS we went through the ten years he still wanted to marry me. So I felt the wedding should be celebrating the marriage and new chapter of our lives, not the reception details. I don't see what doing my own designer wedding programs and menus have to do with our marriage.

So we went basic and simple. I organized everything to please US, and no one else. I didn't care if my guests were going to scrutize every last detail; let them. I don't care what their opinion was because it did not matter. The reception was a CELBRATION that would not now or ever have any affect on my marriage and future. I wanted to have fun and to celebrate, and that's exactly what we did. I was on the dance floor the entire night, and can honestly say I never enjoyed myself more. And you know what? My guests had a blast to because it was so low key!

So if a CZ was all that he could afor, fine with me. As long as it came from his heart is what all that matters.

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To say that it is an insult to propose with a CZ is ignorant. You dont know people's situations.

My DH proposed to me with a CZ and had every intention of replacing it with a real one, and a couple of months after he proposed to me, he did replace it.

It did not matter to me if it was a CZ and if it remained a CZ. We had spoken about getting engaged and he was struggling with money. I told him I didnt care if it was a ring that came out of a quarter machine. If it was a ring that meant we were going to be married, and that he would be my husband, that was enough for me.

I think its wrong for one to lie and not tell the bride that it is a CZ instead of a diamond because thats deceitful. But I had known from the beginning and it never bothered me.

I love my husband regardless of what he spent on my ring when he proposed.

ETA: Just because he didnt have the money at the time for a real diamond, doesnt mean we werent ready to be engaged. We were engaged for 3 years, and we had talked about us having a long engagement so we could finish school before we got married. We were just so anxious to be engaged to one another, that honestly, I just wanted a ring to symbolize that I was to be his wife one day. Just because he didnt spend money he didnt have, or go into debt for a 'real ring' doesnt mean he loves me any less that FH's or DH's who spent 8k+

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wow that is a lot of money to spend on an engagement ring but if you've got it, and that's what you want to spend that kind of money on, then go for it. as for me, i didn't even want a traditional diamond engagement ring and, thankfully, my fh heard me and kept that in mind. i have smaller good quality diamonds all around my ring but the main stone is actually a larger aquamarine. many vintage estate engagement rings were gemstones (aquamarine being a very popular choice) and me being a historian and all, i found that history beautiful. aquamarine is also my grandmothers birthstone so the stone is a little more sentimental to me. this type of ring was less expensive than a traditional diamond and if a man who cannot afford a diamond talked to his future wife and she agreed on this, then i think this would be a better idea than getting a cubic zirconia. to me, getting a cubic zirconia is not an omen or a negative reflection of his commitment but if there are other brides like me who really like the idea of the focal stone being a precious gemstone, then that's a less expensive and touching option as well.

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Wedding dress has 2,009 peacock feathers
Published: April 13, 2009 at 4:37 PM


NANJING, China, April 13 (UPI) -- A Chinese wedding dress factory said eight workers spent 40 days creating a $1.5 million dress from 2,009 peacock feathers.

The factory in Nanjing, Jiangsu province, said the dress also includes a bodice featuring brocade and Suzhou embroidery, the Daily Mail reported Monday.

Male peacocks each shed an average 200 feathers during an average year, meaning the makers of the dress would have needed to collect dropped feathers from more than 10 birds for a year to gather enough for the gown, the British newspaper said.




*but we're in a recession...

http://www.upi.com/Odd_News/2009/04/13/Wedding-dress-has-2009-peacock-feathers/UPI-23141239655079/

Re: Recession hits New York brides (peacock wedding dress?)

I think it's inappropriate for people to be calling CZs an insult AND inappropriate for people to be calling $65K rings insane. Everyone is different and everyone has different budgets. Too each his own. On a side note, if you live and/or work in Manhattan then I think you can definitely phathom someone buying a $65K e-ring. There are ridiculously wealthy people everywhere in NYC and if you make millions a year, you can afford to drop that much on a ring.