Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

So I know that for rehearsal dinner the bride & groom normally would invite their immediate families, bridal party & OOT guests.

Since I am not from NY and a lot of my fiance's friends from college don't live in NY, about 80% of our guest list will be coming from OOT with the exception of my fiance's family.

If I invite all of my OOT guests to the rehearsal dinner that's like having a reception before the reception. We really can't afford to have a rehearsal dinner for over 80 people and that just doesn't make sense to me.

What would you do? Should I not invite the OOT guests to rehearsal dinner & just gift them with a nice welcome bag when they come to the hotel? I'm so lost.

Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

In your case, I would stick with your immediate families and bridal party. There's gotta be a cutoff point.

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Posted by KroertGS

In your case, I would stick with your immediate families and bridal party. There's gotta be a cutoff point.

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ITA.

Just something to think about--we will probably have to schedule our rehearsal dinner several days before the wedding. It might not be convenient for you (it probably isn't for us either, but we might not have a choice ), but if it works, it may be a good way to ensure that not inviting OOT guests is a non-issue.

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I'm just doing immediate family and BP, no OOT guests.

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Posted by KroertGS

In your case, I would stick with your immediate families and bridal party. There's gotta be a cutoff point.

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Totally agree...you need to do what is best for you and your budget...don't feel bad!

Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

we are just doing BP, including parents. this basically takes care of our immediate family. it's not even going to be a big thing, just probably italian food maybe even pizza! at my moms house (which is right by larkfield)

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We aren't inviting OOT guests either. I actually didn't even know you were supposed to lol. Our immediate family, bridal party and church readers already come up to like 35 people as it is.

Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

We arent doing OOT guest either. First out RD is the saturday before our wedding and second we have the worlds largest bridal party so we are already up to about 50 guests lol.

Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

I'm not doing OOT guests. Just the bridal party and immediate family.

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Posted by KroertGS

In your case, I would stick with your immediate families and bridal party. There's gotta be a cutoff point.

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this!!

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Posted by mattandjess2013

I'm just doing immediate family and BP, no OOT guests.

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I am also doing this

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Posted by hedwards0524

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Posted by mattandjess2013

I'm just doing immediate family and BP, no OOT guests.

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I am also doing this

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Same here!

Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

I am in the same EXACT situation! FH and I decided to stick with the immediate families (including aunts and uncles), bridal party and church readers. We are going to invite the OOT guests to join us that evening for drinks at the hotel bar.

Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma

Thank you all very much. I feel much better about my decision!

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Posted by cupcake8503

So I know that for rehearsal dinner the bride & groom normally would invite their immediate families, bridal party & OOT guests.

Since I am not from NY and a lot of my fiance's friends from college don't live in NY, about 80% of our guest list will be coming from OOT with the exception of my fiance's family.

If I invite all of my OOT guests to the rehearsal dinner that's like having a reception before the reception. We really can't afford to have a rehearsal dinner for over 80 people and that just doesn't make sense to me.

What would you do? Should I not invite the OOT guests to rehearsal dinner & just gift them with a nice welcome bag when they come to the hotel? I'm so lost.

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We are in the same situation. We aren't even having a bridal party so we don't really need the rehearsal but we did want to welcome all of the out of towners. We are expecting about 80 people (almost half the size of our wedding) the night before. It will be expensive but it adds on a whole extra day and gives us time with people who traveled in. We also want to thank them for all their expenses by hosting a dinner. We decided it as a good place to spend our money and have cut out some other things like video, limos, favors....things that don't really affect our guests and weren't that important to us. We are sticking to more casual food and just beer/wine also.

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Posted by lauren1802

we are just doing BP, including parents. this basically takes care of our immediate family. it's not even going to be a big thing, just probably italian food maybe even pizza! at my moms house (which is right by larkfield)

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we thought of doing pizza also!! since we have all these people who aren't from NY- what better (cheaper) way to welcome them!!!

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Posted by Anna614

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Posted by KroertGS

In your case, I would stick with your immediate families and bridal party. There's gotta be a cutoff point.

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this!!

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so agree!

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We did immediate family and BP. We did not invite other OOT guests. It's nice if you can do it but for us we were out of money at that point and we were already providing the wedding reception and breakfast the bext day