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I am not having a traditional wedding--the civil ceremony will take place at the same place as the reception. My future in-laws would like to have a rehearsal dinner and as they are paying for it, that`s fine with me. My FH asked me last night what the point of having a rehearsal dinner was, if we are not going to rehearse. That got me thinking--how much rehearsal will I need to do? We`re not having any readings or a mass or any church stuff. It`s going to be walking down the aisle, saying the vows and walking away. Do we need to rehearse? I`d appreciate input from anyone who has done this already....the ceremony/reception will be at the Meadow Club in Port Jeff if that helps you give me advice... :-)

rehearsing

Well, my fiance and I will also be getting married at the same place as the reception. Our priest told us that we don't need a rehearsal. I really want one. I know it's an easy ceremony, but I still want to know, or at least have an idea, to what we're suppose to do. I haven't told him yet that I'd really like to do it, so I don't know if he will. I would like to have a rehearsal dinner too. It's tradition.

Have no fear!! (long)

We had a 'rehearsal' dinner w/ no rehearsal, too. We did it so we could have our immediate families and closest friends together the day before our wedding to share the excitement and give out presents!! We also got married at our reception site w/ both a Priest and Rabbi. We had alot of *stuff* in our ceremony(memorial candle, 2 readings, unity candle lighting, blessing over wine, breaking the glass, etc.) It was beautiful and perfect! I made a program that listed the order of the ceremony, faxed it to them both for approval and they followed it during the service. They didn't miss a beat! I'm sure your officiants have done this a million times! Ours told us not to worry about a thing and it would go smoothly!! It did!! :)

NOT rehearsing - a diffferent rehearsal dinner...

I too, am having my reception at the same place as my ceremony, and we also are not having a formal rehearsal (it's not Jewish tradition to have one). HOwever, I LOVE rehearsal dinners because they give you a chance to see those closest to you and thank them since it's likely you won't spend quality time with them all at the wedding! Last night we printed up our 'rehearsal dinner' invites - but instead of calling it a rehearsal dinner, we're callng it a 'Pre-wedding thank you dinner'. Here's what the invite says: 'In grateful appreciation of your taking part in our wedding, and the love and friendship we share, you are cordially invited to attend a pre-wedding thank-you dinner in YOUR honor... I'm actually really excited about this because it's one thing that's not centered around US and it gives the guests a warm feeling :-) Hope this helps!

Sara

Out of curiosity...Where are you having your rehearsal dinner? We are trying to figure out that now. By the way, I went to a wedding at Shelter Rock in December and it was fabulous!!

rehearsing

We also had a 'rehearsal' dinner, even though there was NO rehearsal. We called it a 'pre-wedding celebration dinner'. It was great! Also, with respect to an actual rehearsal, I never had one. The maitre d' ran us through it about half an hour before we did it. He just told us what to do, and we never even had to do it in order to know what to do. It was pretty self-explanatory. Don't worry. Your officiant and maitre d' are the only ones who really have to know the order, etc., and they will guide you.

Sara

We are having our 'Thank you' dinner at the Maine Maide Inn in Jericho. I LOVE it there! The only downfall is it will be VERY decorated for Christmas, which is of course beautiful... but a little weird for a Jewish party ;-) We had dinner there to check out the food and we loved it. THey are charging $25pp plus tax & gratuity. We have our own cute little room for 40 people. IT's a very cozy 17th century house with lots of character. I'm really excited! Good luck! BTW - what did you eat at SR? We're doing our menu now....