remember that bridesmaid that dropped out..

Jen2999 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:24 PM

remember that bridesmaid that dropped out..

Well she has made no attempt to talk to me or FH at ALL since she told me.

A mutual friend just called and said that he spoke to her about it and she is basically sacrificing being in my bridal party because she has two other 'better' friends that are going to be engaged soon and she doesnt want to have the extra monetary burden

I am so upset and I am just at the point where I dont think anyone gives a **** about my wedding.

kellwolfe Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:26 PM

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Oh honey I am so sorry thats horrible but if thats they way she is going to be then your better off with out her!

I feel terrible

SIBride06 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:28 PM

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Later for her... her loss not yours sweetie!!!

SweetCin704 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:31 PM

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Oh Jen....sorry you are going through this. At least you found out what kind of friend she is before she is in your bp (it would have been a lot of problems, I'm sure). It's her loss...not yours.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:31 PM

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What an ashat! You so don't need that...good riddance.

cindyandkevin Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:32 PM

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Aww, I'm so sorry Jen!! But if that's her attitude then you're better off without her!! Don't think no ones cares, I'm sure those close to you really do!!!

PIZZ2306 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:32 PM

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Some People!

Sorry.....

Tommylove Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:32 PM

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Wow, if that is what the problem is she should have told you that from the beginning. She could have said that she would love to be in your BP but can not afford it right now.

Since she hasn't spoken to either of you are you still going to invite her to the wedding?????

Jen2999 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 04:39 PM

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Posted by Tommylove

Wow, if that is what the problem is she should have told you that from the beginning. She could have said that she would love to be in your BP but can not afford it right now.

Since she hasn't spoken to either of you are you still going to invite her to the wedding?????

I dont know. The things she is is a twin and we would of course what to invite her brother. Our eparty is next month.. I am at a loss as to what to do

Kiddo115 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 05:01 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Posted by Tommylove

Wow, if that is what the problem is she should have told you that from the beginning. She could have said that she would love to be in your BP but can not afford it right now.

Since she hasn't spoken to either of you are you still going to invite her to the wedding?????

I dont know. The things she is is a twin and we would of course what to invite her brother. Our eparty is next month.. I am at a loss as to what to do

I wouldn't invite her.. I would her brother though. But thats just me. (and I'm writing this after I have had the worst day at work)...I don't think you should have to 'grin and bear it' all the time during the planning of a wedding. Too often we worry about everyone elses' feelings and it's just those people who turn on US and make us feel like garbage just because they can. Do what your gut tells you to do.. Invite her and be the bigger person.. or don't invite her and feel ok about it. Don't stress.. it's a party and you should have FUN

Tommylove Posted: Jun 29, 2005 05:07 PM

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If you think about you can invite her and she might not even come b/c she could be so embarrassed by the way she acted. So then you would be the bigger person and you wouldn't look bad.

JessicaM. Posted: Jun 29, 2005 05:12 PM

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i wouldn't invite her to anything and not give it a second thought...how rude and obnoxious of her to say she is holding out of being in your BP in case 'better' friends get engaged...they aren't even engaged yet...

pardon my french, but F*** her, and forget it! and she SHOULD feel snubbed by you invited her twin- GOOD for her...she is totally out of line.

Jen2999 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 05:13 PM

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aww you guys are making me feel so much better.

I feel like such a LOSER for even asking someone who treats me like this.

Ugh. Ya know when you were little and had a best friend that always had ten million other friends...thats what I feel like.

Tommylove Posted: Jun 29, 2005 05:19 PM

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AAWW that's still me now

Don't worry you still have us

cmastro25 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 06:22 PM

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That's just crappy! Forget her. You don't want someone like that to be a part of your wedding anyway.

AJsMommy122 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 07:39 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

aww you guys are making me feel so much better.

I feel like such a LOSER for even asking someone who treats me like this.

Ugh. Ya know when you were little and had a best friend that always had ten million other friends...thats what I feel like.

AWWWWWWWW
You don't need people like that in your life!!!!
I care about your wedding!

SuzBride Posted: Jun 29, 2005 09:05 PM

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Isn't it sad how when you expect people to stick by you and be a good friend, they show their true colors. I love my wedding planning, but the whole process has really helped me realize who my true friends are

Jen2999 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 10:19 PM

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Posted by SuzBride

Isn't it sad how when you expect people to stick by you and be a good friend, they show their true colors. I love my wedding planning, but the whole process has really helped me realize who my true friends are

Yea I dont think I have any anymore

No, seriosuly I just cant believe her. I would NEVER do that to ANYONE in a million years.

Do you think its ok to ask someone else?

Kiddo115 Posted: Jun 29, 2005 11:13 PM

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Absolutely! I think anyone would be honored to be a part of your special day. I wouldn't care when I was asked, as long as I was wanted!!! You deserve to have a BM who wants to be there and will share the joy with you!!!

As for good friends... friends just seem to come and go. And it sounds to me that she never was that great to you, especially if she left you hanging the way she did. She wasn't worthy of YOUR friendship... So good riddens to her!

DrBeLLaRoSe Posted: Jun 29, 2005 11:24 PM

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wow what a crappy friend

dont feel bad, she is the jerk.
good riddance to her.
you lose a friend, you make a friend, no biggie.
I recently had to cut out a bridesmaid, and although i felt really bad that i lost a friend, it is better to have real friends around who care about you.
Seriously dont even waste a minute of your precious time feeling bad about her.