Repost from 08 - Guest List for shower

Is anyone involved in the guest list for their shower? I am trying to help out my MOH and Mom by giving them a list -- but should i consult with FMIL with whom she wants invited.

Personally i would like for it to be kept small and i would not include guests that have never met me. But i wonder if i give a list without consulting FMIL that might be bad if there was someone she wanted that was left out?

What exactly is the etiquette here? If the brides side is throwing it do they have to consult with the grooms family?

If every woman on the guest list is ivited thats over 100 people. I think thats crazy - especially since i have a very very small bridal party.

I think out of courtesy you should consult with FMIL but explain that the invitees should be kept to a minimum...maybe just aunts and first cousins or something like that. Thay may not be people you've see before, but they're probably people your FH and FMIL have seen often, and you are likely to see in the future.

I'm in a similar situation in that I don't want to invite my future sisters-in-law because they live out of state and don't want them to feel obligated that they must come or send a gift. I, too, need to discuss this with my FMIL, but she's pretty chill about these things...we'll see how it works out.

I made my list from women who live locally and then I consulted with my FMIL to see if I left anyone off.

She had wanted an invitation to go to her cousin in Florida because her cousin apparently asked to have one so she could send a gift. We sent her one, never received a gift.