FH and I have been brainstorming trying to figure out an appropriate way to include his father, who has passed away, in our wedding. FH wanted to leave an empty chair at his mother's table, but I think this will be too sad for her since im sure she will be asked a million times who is sitting there. I suggested the memory table with his picture and a candle, but it doesnt seem to satisfy FH. Anyone have any suggestions??
xBrunette
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i posted this on BHB:
i want to honor FH mother who passed away but a few months ago.. and i was thinkin about setting up a candle table... have everyone light up a candle in her memory.. but i was going to personalized it... and if people wanted to take the candle home they could...
i think that having an empty chair is leading towards so many bad memories and too many tears that need not be shed that day... it's soo sad...
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I am trying to convince him that the empty chair will be a bad idea, but its his father and I want him to honor his memory in his way. I told him I would toss out the idea on here and see what other people say.
xBrunette
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yea no i would let him think i would do the empty chair.. but not do it.. lol.. it's not cool at all... it's too sad just looking at that chair and knowing it's not going to be filled...
IrishBrideASmiling
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Im gonna tell him the girls on LI weddings disapprove so it cant be done!! LOL he hates me and this site!!
bluegreen08
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maybe leave an empty chair at the ceremony, with a rose on it? then have a candle at the reception?
kabo0831
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Posted by bluegreen08
maybe leave an empty chair at the ceremony, with a rose on it? Then have a candle at the reception?
second that
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Im def going to honor my dad in some way at my wedding. he passed away a few years ago. i am most likely going to make a table with some pictures of us and a memory candle and a bunch of othe candles probably. My grandpa ( his dad) passed away this year, so I will probably have a memory candle for each of them. But I dont like that idea of an empty chair, people would be asking tons of questions and its kinda creepy
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What about a second mother/son song in honor of his father? A song that has meaning for the both of them?
The empty chair is WAY too sad.
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Okay, my MOH has had this in her head her entire life so hopefully this doesnt get back to her... but she is having a locket on her boquet with her grandfathers picture in it to symbolize him with her walking. Maybe your FH could wear something similar? They make like pins with peoples pictures in them, and perhaps put it on his tie, or his jacket?
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awww its nice that Pete wants to do something like this.
Some suggestions.
You can make a donation to the american heart society (I think that is the name of it) and have cards made up for each table that say that in leu of a gift you made a donation to... in honor of (petes dad's name)
a memory table near place cards, pictures of his dad
You can have his name mentioned in church
I bought a Bo-k charm to put on my bo-k with a picture of my grandma (you could put one on yours, or Pete could where something inside his jacket similar to that)
I'll keep thinking of some things you 2 could do
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For my father that has passed I am doing a memory candle, putting up a photo, deadicating a song for him, doing progams with his name in the part for In Loving Memory, may do a chair with a daisy on it for my dad as well. Also having the picture charm put on my bouquet. I am making cd favors for the wedding and having a song on there for him as well.
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Posted by CNC4eva3402
What about a second mother/son song in honor of his father? A song that has meaning for the both of them?
The empty chair is WAY too sad.
The second song is a great idea! I just hope FMIL goes for it. Ive seen on here cuff links where you can put pics in, so maybe I could get those for FH and put his dads pic in it. Thanks for all your help girls!!
