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It was been two weeks and I've gotten about half the responses back..

One annoying thing, and I know we have all commented on this before - I have a cousin who I didnt invite with a guest and he wrote down two people on the response card. To top it off, he wrote on the response card his name and guest. If you are going to invite someone to a wedding at least write in their name. Who is he inviting - someone off the street!!! So annoying...

So far it is only one person who has done this, so I won't say anything. But I hope they dont keep doing this! I dont want a bunch of strangers at my wedding

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That is odd. Can you call him and say 'are you dating anyone specifically or are you asking someone just to bring a date' and then explain that you would prefer if he isn't dating that he not invite anyone just for the sake of inviting someone because of cost.

However (and I might be going against the grain here) before I met my FH I swore I would not go to any more weddings if I could not bring a guest. Especially since almost all my friends are married - and their other guests are married - I hated being the token single girl. So maybe he feels that way too. But if he's a confirmed bachelor or you know he's not feeling that way I would talk to him. It could be he didn't even realize he wasn't invited w/o a guest?

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were not giving guests to a few cousins too( we know the dont have anyone serious) and they will be at a table of all family members...but i think they are going to write back and guest to try and make us spend more money which we wont get back from them

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Can I ask a silly question? I wont be sending my invites out for a while but we have already made a tentative list and cut off all children except nieces and nephews, and anyone not in a serious relationship or engaged is not invited with a guest. If any of these people respond with children or with a 'date' I know I wont have a problem calling and explaining nicely that although I would love for the children or date to come, I am keeping this to a certain number. Is this wrong? Why just not call these people and explain? If I am wrong, please let me know. Thank you.

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I think it is kind of rude to respond to an invitation and include another person if you are not invited with a guest. However, i probably wouldn't call the cousin to confront, i would just let it go. I know a lot of my single girlfriends don't like to get invited to a formal event such as wedding without a guest despite if they are in a relationship or not. They like the option of bringing someone. But ultimately you would like to think that people will understand that there is a limit to how many people can be invited.

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LIprincess00-

You are NOT wrong with calling and explaing if they try and include someone that is not invited. People have to understand! so don't worry.

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You think thats bad? My girlfriend had a reply sent back with 6 people on it. She only invited 2 on the invite. People have some nerve!!!

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My biggest problem is that I have 35 first cousins on my mothers side alone. And Ive invited about 28 of them. The cousins that are married or engaged I invited with guest, all others with out. It is just a matter of numbers - I have too many cousins. I let everyone know the deal, but I guess sometimes people hear and see what they want to hear and see. Just rude!! And if he does it, then I bet his siblings will do the same thing.

People think that they are the only ones invited to a wedding and that there wont be other guests.