I was wondering, for the ceremony, ihave heard different things! Can you get married in your actual wedding ring, or does it have to be a plain band?! Please help!
kgicrls
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I'm not sure if I understand the question? Why does it have to be a plain band?
elysemichelle
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I was told u r not supposed to get married in your real band...and that in the jewish religion there cantbe any holes in the ring? (like no holes behind the diamonds?) i was also told ur supposed to wear someone elses wedding band, like a family members for the cremony. Is this true?
meara
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I have never heard that but don't know all the different customs. . I'm getting married in mine for sure. .
Just Cindy
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I found this and my friend confirmed:
In Jewish law, a marriage becomes official when the chatan gives an object of value to the kallah. This is traditionally done with a ring. The ring should be made of plain gold, without blemishes or ornamentation (e.g. stones) -- just as it is hoped that the marriage will be one of simple beauty.
The chatan now takes the wedding ring in his hand, and in clear view of two witnesses, declares to the kallah, 'Behold, you are betrothed unto me with this ring, according to the law of Moses and Israel.' He then places the ring on the forefinger of the bride's right hand. According to Jewish law, this is the central moment of the wedding ceremony, and at this point the couple is fully married.
If the kallah also wants to give a ring to the chatan, this is only done afterwards, not under the chuppah. This is to prevent confusion as to what constitutes the actual marriage, as prescribed by the Torah.
I never heard of the family one.
debzy
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In the Jewish religion, you must have a plain gold band (yellow or white gold) without any decoration. This is so the ring is circular and unblemished - the way your lives together should be.
As for borrowing someone's ring for the ceremony, this is more a personal tradition or convenience. For instance, if a bride has any diamonds on her band, she cannot use it for the ceremony. Therefore, she may borrow a close relative's band.
For me, I am going to use my grandmother's gold band for the ceremony. She passed away last year so this is a way I will still have a part of her at our wedding. Plus, she and my grandfather had been married for over 56 years - something I hope to be able to achieve. So to me, I hope her wedding band brings me that same 'luck.' Then, when my sister gets married, I hope she will choose to use my grandmother's ring as well. So it will be our personal tradition.
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I have never heard that but don't know all the different customs. . I'm getting married in mine for sure. .
me too
elysemichelle
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thanx ladies!
ANT-N-BON-09
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good luck with finding that all out. Ive never heard anything like that. Then again, i dont get out that much!
FutureMrsG
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I know in the jewish faith it is suppose to be a solid ring with out stones. FH and I are using our actual rings- The priest did not say anything about rinds.
Almostawife
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If you are getting married by a rabbi you should have a solid gold ring. I am having an interfaith ceremony and will be married in my eternity band.
coldasice217
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If I ever told FH that there were situations where stones couldn't be used in wedding bands, he might consider converting
In all seriousness though, I think I have heard of this before in passing. I am not Jewish though, so I don't know for certain if it's tradition or decree about borrowing the ring though.
