Role for female friend

FI has a good friend that he'd like to incorporate somehow into the wedding. She's always been sort of 'one of the boys' and all those boys are his groomsmen.

I'm not totally opposed to her being a bridesmaid, but it's a bit late in the planning I think to add her and I'm not that close to her. Also considered making her a reader, but FI doesn't think she'll do it because she's self-conscious about a speech impediment.

Besides bridesmaid & reader ... what else could she do to be part of the wedding?

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Maybe have her hand out programs and the things to toss after the ceremony?

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I thought of this too - I've always thought those jobs were more for younger people like teenagers -- do you think a 31-year old woman would be ok being asked to hand out programs? I wasn't sure....

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maybe instead of giving her a 'role' you can have a corsage or small bok for her as a suprise and just take some nice photos with her in them? ( ex. you, the groom and herself)

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Maybe you could put her in charge of a few important things and include her with a special thanks in the program

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Good ideas. Maybe I could list her in the program as 'honorary groomsman' or something like that.

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If you are having a Catholic mass you can have her bring the gifts up.

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Posted by dita531

If you are having a Catholic mass you can have her bring the gifts up.

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Ditto

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I have a cousin in-law who is not in my bridal party and we are somewhat close. Her role for my wedding will be to make sure everything is okay with the set-up of the ceremony and reception, you know be my eyes and ears and just make sure everything will be laid out the way I planned.

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I don't think you're too late to add her as a bridesmaid if that's something you're still willing to consider. One of my girls got added in last minute due to special circumstance.

Just something to think about.

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Give her a special corsage and ask her to be of assistance on small things like guest book and such...

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I'm having several male honor attendants on my side in addition to my bridesmaids. If this person is that important to your FI, I don't see why she can't be an honor attendant on his side. She would enter with the groomsmen, either wearing a dress like the bridesmaids, or an elegant suit that complements the tuxes. That way she could stand up for him, which is really the whole point. Don't worry about even numbers on both sides. Having the people closest to you involved is what's really important.

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Seven years ago when my MOH called to let me know that she got engaged I was shocked because we had lost touch for a while. She told me that she considered me a special friend and while she couldnt have me as a BM she wanted me to do something special at the wedding. She had me hand out the programs at her ceromony. I believe she also got me a corsage. I was honored and accepted.