Rough day (long)

So I rarely post about my personal life, but I feel like I have to share this with someone and there is no one around!

I got a phone call during work today where my mom was telling me how my Uncle decided to 'give up' his fight with cancer and that he wanted to die. My Uncle is the Great man ever, and in order to keep this post short I won't tell the the million reasons i feel this way. He never smoked a day in his life. It was sooooooooooooooooooooooo depressing.

Luckily on my way home from work my dad called saying Uncle pete changed his mind and is having the surgery he needs. This means he will never be able to speak again and will have a tube sticking out of his throat forever. I am so gald he decided this though and hope tomorrows surgery goes well.

And all day long i felt soo selfish since I kept thinking about how it would stink that he wouldn't be at my wedding, and how i so want him to be there. I DID NOT voice this concern to anybody. I felt so bad that i was turning this into something about me.

thanks for listening

for you and some for your uncle.

Keep us posted! (and don't feel guilty for feeling that way!)

I don't think you were being selfish at all. You just want someone you care about to be with you on an important day. DH's dad is in a similar situation. He's struggling with cancer and its frustrating when it sounds like he's giving up. I'm happy to hear that your uncle is getting the surgery he needs. He will learn to communicate in other ways and i'm sure he'll be so happy to see you get married.

My prayers go out to you, your family and your uncle!
I can understand you being upset...your uncle is an important person in your life so you would want him to be part of your special day!

I hope everything goes well with his surgery!

Good luck to him!!!

Don't feel that way. It's normal. We just found out 4 weeks ago my aunt (mom sister) has breast cancer- stage 3. She knew about this since last yr and never told anyone. In a matter of 2 weeks she started chemo, lost all her hair, and sn't doing well. Last night she slipped out and told my mom they cancer is spreadin to her bones. I'm in pain while writing this because the first thing I asked my mom when I found out is if she would be able to make it to the wedding or not. This is the first I am sharing this with anyone also. I didnt even tell FH.

It's normal. Like me you just want your uncle to be there with you to celebrate.

But understand it's hard for them to be going through this and they probaly feel terrible to that they can't make it to your wedding.

Just be there with him as much as you can before the wedding, do something nice in his honor during the ceremony or something os he will know you appreciate him.

Dont feel guilty....you want him there and think how great it will be to have him there!!

Thank you all for listening

for your uncle, you and your family...Don't feel selfish, wanting him at your wedding just shows that you love him. Let us know how he is doing after his surgery.

Prayers for you and your uncle

Praying for your uncle. Don't feel that way you are concerned about his attendance at your wedding because you love him and want him there not hugs for you

I can only offer these because it's a difficult situation all around.
Just lost my Uncle a year ago to cancer so I totally understand you wanted to hold on to him.
I hope his surgery goes well. We will be thinking of you.

I am so sorry to hear about your Uncle. You know you can always call me I am always here for you I am glad that he has decided to have the surgery and you are not being selfish! I have thought that too about people not coming to the wedding or just about certain things! I love you so much and dont ever feel you cant call any time I will always be here for you!!!!!!!!!

I wish your uncle the best of luck with his surgery...he is in my prayers

for your family and your uncle.