RP '07: VENT: If you get info from a board, get it right!

Original post by MJDoc12

Jan 22, 2006 09:01 PM

Okay, so a new bride posted a Q on the '07 boards, about how to negotiate with a hall. I responded to this by stating halls love cash, and how you can sometimes get extras thrown in, etc. and I also commented about how paying all in cash can help sometimes with things like tax. (Yes I know it's illegal NOT to charge tax, as some brides stated, but let's be realistic...some smaller halls will magically reduce some of the tax when you pay cash...it DOES happen ocasionally.)

Well anyway--my problem is this: I don't know who did it, whether it was the original poster of this thread, or someone who read it--visited my hall, and proceeded to tell the BM there that I had stated that I got a break on tax there because I paid cash, and then proceeded to use my first name and wedding date from my profile--as if they know me personally or something--saying that they saw me post on a website that i got the tax comped or something!! If you read the post (i bumped it over there), i NEVER EVER said that MY HALL did this...i said in GENERAL it can happen.

On Saturday night, I get a phone call from my BM asking me if I was going around telling people this, and if I did it was not good information to be spreading. Of course I had to explain the situation...but it really ticked me off that someone used my info to try and get a deal like that.

So whoever did this--please get your facts straight before you start using other people's comments and information!!!!!!!!!!!!!

nygirl77 Posted: Jan 22, 2006 09:55 PM

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Wow - first of all, that is crazy that someone would actually give exact details about you & your wedding. And secondly, wow to the hall calling you. Yikes. I am so sorry that happened to you - guess this teaches us what not to say!

jnrrb Posted: Jan 22, 2006 09:57 PM

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You can not Name NAMES

shellnroc Posted: Jan 22, 2006 10:01 PM

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WOW!!!!!!!!!

I can't believe it!!!!!!

Sorry, that this happened to you. I think it's sad that this happens.

Dom n Nic Posted: Jan 22, 2006 10:01 PM

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i can believe that someone would do that ..people are shady .
thats why you never post things like that on here. if you are getting a good deal keep it to yourself .

even though u didnt say your hall did that . they tried to get it for themselves saying that someone posted they did . if that was the case the hall now has to give that person the same deal

beautyq115 Posted: Jan 22, 2006 10:13 PM

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Posted by Dom n Nic

i can believe that someone would do that ..people are shady .
thats why you never post things like that on here. if you are getting a good deal keep it to yourself .

even though u didnt say your hall did that . they tried to get it for themselves saying that someone posted they did . if that was the case the hall now has to give that person the same deal

I second this!

trnity44 Posted: Jan 22, 2006 10:14 PM

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thats terrible!

soontobemrsv Posted: Jan 22, 2006 10:39 PM

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omg...thats horrible

agentangel Posted: Jan 22, 2006 10:59 PM

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that's soooo awful! i hope this person FMs you and apologizes.

jenheartsrob Posted: Jan 22, 2006 11:05 PM

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UGH I'm sorry, I hope things are ok btwn you and your BM

yayi Posted: Jan 22, 2006 11:42 PM

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Sorry. That is terrible that someone would do that.

waterspout4 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 01:15 AM

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Ridiculous! I feel like posting some off-the-wall comments to see if someone takes the bait.

I heard some halls throw in hookers for all single guests if you decide to go with chair covers. Bring it on!

Sweets14 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 02:52 AM

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That's real sh*tty. Sorry that happened to you!!!!

Sweets14 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 02:53 AM

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Posted by waterspout4

Ridiculous! I feel like posting some off-the-wall comments to see if someone takes the bait.

I heard some halls throw in hookers for all single guests if you decide to go with chair covers. Bring it on!

AlliNMatt06 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 03:34 AM

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You really do have to be careful! Don't post anything you might regret later.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jan 23, 2006 07:10 AM

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That is awful! OMG, I am so sorry that someone would do this to you, I really hope the person fesses up and apologizes. I'm glad to hear that you got to explain the misunderstanding to your BM.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Jan 23, 2006 07:17 AM

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The EFFING BALLZ on some people! I'd be p.o'd as well!

Hamptonsbride06 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 07:19 AM

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Someone did the exact same thing to me!!! Omg I flipped out that day!

MrsP2Be Posted: Jan 23, 2006 07:53 AM

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I can't believe someone did that.

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 08:10 AM

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Posted by Goldi1021

It happens more than you think. My advice to all:

Do NOT post what you spend on ANYTHING.
Do NOT tell people what you pay per head.
Do NOT post your last name.
(the post on 06 about new last names makes me nuts - sorry but it cannot be safe on SO many levels)
Do NOT post where you or your FH works.

I am sure many people may think I am paranoid now but better safe than sorry.

I completely agree - I would never post on the last name site!!! I even removed our pics from the profile - although its in my avatar but so tiny... Just in case!!!

SunBride07 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 08:57 AM

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I can't believe that!!! People need to remember that this is an advice board - doesn't mean that they are at liberty to 'name drop.'
Also - please don't let people like this stop you from being honest and sharing advice...newbies like me really need it so please keep sharing