RSVP Dates....HELP!!!!

Ok Ladies, I have such a confusing situation here its like one big mess!!!

Since we are having two weddings it gets a little confusing....
I am trying to figure out my RSVP by dates.

Minnesota wedding is April 21st.

New Yorks wedding is May 19th.

When do you guys think I should send out the invites for both weddings and what should the RSVP by dates??

Also, we have people that we are inviting from out of country, so we were thinking of sending them invites super early as we don't think must will come so we want them to RSVP before the other invites go out so we can send some invites from our B list. Do you think this will work???

TIA

I think your plan for OOC guests will work...
I'd send the OOC ones 3-4 months before and the others 2-3 months before each of the dates. The RSVP date should be about a month before each date. I wouldn't send them all out around the same time because you might get confused and mix things up when they start coming back. HTH

Are some of the same people getting both invitations?? How are you printing the invites??

If you are doing it then I see no problem with having an earlier date for the OOC folks.

Are you having different RSVP Cards for each wedding so you aren't confused or are they being sent to a different address --- wow!! Thats a headache I'm sure!!

I am sending my invites out 3 months prior and have a 7 week RSVP deadline because of the holidays. I think 6 weeks is good for the RSVPs from each date.