rude rsvps

Jflow Posted: Jun 25, 2011 03:28 PM

rude rsvps

My great uncle sent back the RSVP card with just a x marked that they will not be attending. I was NOT expecting money, but a simple 'congratulations, I'm so sorry we cant make it' would have been nice? I havent seen him in 10 years, and we were close throughout my childhood.

Am I being to sensitive?

lindseynaggle Posted: Jun 25, 2011 03:44 PM

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It would have been nice to at least throw in a congratulations or something, but guys can be like that, no matter what their age!

Jflow Posted: Jun 25, 2011 03:49 PM

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I suppose, but I suspect it was his wife that sent it back. I'm just being super sensitive I guess.

chliekm Posted: Jun 25, 2011 04:11 PM

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When I send back the RSVP card I usually don't write a message if I'm not attending, but I will send a small gift later on. Maybe he will send the well wishes later on.

i know it sucks, but don't sweat it!

Irishbride16 Posted: Jun 25, 2011 04:28 PM

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Awww im sorry about that ..that is wrong and you have every right to be upset

lindseynaggle Posted: Jun 25, 2011 04:32 PM

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Posted by Jflow

I suppose, but I suspect it was his wife that sent it back. I'm just being super sensitive I guess.

I don't think you are being super sensitive. You have a right to feel hurt.

I have an uncle that told my mother he would be 'like a dad' after my dad died. I have seen him twice since (15+ years). I'm not even inviting him.

I think it really sucks when family isn't there for you when you think they should. But its their loss, you can spend your day with people that really matter.

rdhbride Posted: Jun 25, 2011 04:43 PM

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I agree with a previous poster who said that perhaps he will send a card/gift closer to the wedding!

PeaceLoveWedding Posted: Jun 25, 2011 08:22 PM

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Maybe he will send a Congratulations down the line. My cousin got an RSVP back from her uncle for her wedding where they checked no and wrote, does NOT regret. People.

Jflow Posted: Jun 25, 2011 10:47 PM

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Wow, that is so mean! I guess I am over reacting a bit, I hope I hear something from him soon. Thanks Ladies!

HurricaneGirl Posted: Jun 26, 2011 09:07 AM

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I know how you feel. I felt the same way when one of my old college buddies RSVP'd no and didn't say anything.

pixietina Posted: Jun 26, 2011 10:49 PM

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That is rude. I find guys to be insensitive and idiots no matter what the age.

SummerBeauty Posted: Jun 26, 2011 10:56 PM

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I have to be honest. Maybe I'm naive--but I sent back an RSVP with a simple no but put a card in the mail the next week. I never thought it to be rude.

When you make things a simple yes or no most people aren't going to go out of the box to write you a message--at least that's how I feel..

Maybe a card will come soon.

DreamyD Posted: Jun 27, 2011 08:41 AM

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My best friend got one back that said 'hell no'

She found out months after the wedding that it was a joke but she was devastated.

Andrea12785 Posted: Jun 27, 2011 01:39 PM

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I don't think it's rude. There's only a line for an X, not a line for an explanation or congratulations.

DANAnPATRICK Posted: Jun 27, 2011 02:10 PM

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Posted by lindseynaggle

Posted by Jflow

I suppose, but I suspect it was his wife that sent it back. I'm just being super sensitive I guess.

I don't think you are being super sensitive. You have a right to feel hurt.

I have an uncle that told my mother he would be 'like a dad' after my dad died. I have seen him twice since (15+ years). I'm not even inviting him.

I think it really sucks when family isn't there for you when you think they should. But its their loss, you can spend your day with people that really matter.

I have that same uncle word for word

fdnybride163 Posted: Jun 27, 2011 02:13 PM

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maybe its just me, but i dont think its rude... you have a space for yes or no, its not required to leave a special message.

I mean some people are just clueless... you have a lot more things to worry about

Jflow Posted: Jun 27, 2011 02:25 PM

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Pretty much every card we have gotten back, someone has written something small on the bottom. But yeah, in the big picture its not something to sweat.

redrose0605 Posted: Jun 27, 2011 03:48 PM

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Posted by rdhbride

I agree with a previous poster who said that perhaps he will send a card/gift closer to the wedding!

Me too. I wouldn't expect anything with the RSVP, but something close to the wedding date.

itbroi805 Posted: Jun 27, 2011 06:23 PM

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Posted by PeaceLoveWedding

Maybe he will send a Congratulations down the line. My cousin got an RSVP back from her uncle for her wedding where they checked no and wrote, does NOT regret. People.

yikes