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Don't assume they won't pop over. It's often a cultural/personality issue. My FFIL has just redesigned our kitchen and his cousin will be doing the work on it. Unfortunately, they need to have keys to our house right now but I laid down very specific ground rules and I will recollect the keys when the work is finished. FFIL likes to drop by.

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Some rules I wish she would follow:

Gifts are always apprieciated, but when it comes to choosing things for our future apt/house, I think FH & I should have final say. Decorate your own house not mine!

Don't put your son down in front of me and expect to a) for me to be your friend b) agree with you c) not be upset because it's not 'my' business. umm hello?? it's one thing to complain or disagree with something your child does, but another to call someone names and berate them in front of their future spouse.

and Last but not least.. Sorry but your way isn't the only way or the only RIGHT way to do something, we are ADULTS let us make our own choices and figure out how things work best for us!

75% of the time she is wonderful to me and she does love her son very much, but that other 25% of the time, I want to ring her neck

ETA: I fixed my typo's lol

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#15: if your son says no to your brilliant idea do not come after me to change his mind for your convenience. I will not go against his decision so do not put me in that spot.

#16: do not tell me all your regrets in life as I plan my wedding - you bum me out.

#17: if you have a problem with something that has been said or done then talk to ME about it - not the entire family.

#18: don't call when you know no one is home and get all upset that we weren't there to answer YOUR call.


And I agree with all of the rules listed above...

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Posted by pickles16

I love my FMIL but I would write...

Rule:
Its time to let your baby go, I will now be his wife and take care of him when he is sick, and not well....You will always be his mother, but its time to make room for a new woman in his life....

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Totally my favorite rule!!!

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Posted by pickles16

I love my FMIL but I would write...

Rule:
Its time to let your baby go, I will now be his wife and take care of him when he is sick, and not well....You will always be his mother, but its time to make room for a new woman in his life....

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Do they ALL do this one? It's time to cut the cord lady, just cut the cord!

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#19) learn to like someone or at least repect them beause your SON loves them....that isnt going to change no matter what you say to your son to try and get him to change his mind!!!

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I don't have a single thing to post...I am shocked. I love to complain...LOL!

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rule #20 (for divorced FMIL)

Please don't bad mouth your former husband and your former marriage to me and FH - please keep in mind that you are talking about his father.

#21

Please don't tell me that I should try and get pregnant as soon as i'm married because I'll be 32 and my clock will be ticking. I know exactly how old I am and if I don't want to try for children right away, please respect that decision.

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well thats ALOT better ladies...come on let it all out.

Rule # 22

Yes I invited you to go dress shopping with me. No that does not mean that Im buying the dress without showing my mom first

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To update yesterday's post about them just stopping by... guess what happened yesterday afternoon... FFIL just stopped by... grrrrr... to measure something else for the kitchen. I was getting changed and had the bedroom door wide open as FFIL is walking through the house! Hasn't he measured the window 20 times. He really is OCD... no really.

The problem is FH was married once before and and this was OK with his previous wife. I could be around the corner and I'd call before I droppped in on anyone including my own parents. We almost got into a fight about this.

I really do love them... oh. and picking things out for the house... yes, he picked out half of the things for the kitchen w/o running them by me. Hello, it's my kitchen.

Sorry, I'm better now

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#23 Do not answer everything I tell you about the wedding with 'Wow, we didn't do that when I got married. That must be new.'

#24 The world does not end because YOU are not married. That means no slutty dresses at the wedding, no b!tching that no one ever helps you, and no, I mean NO, demands involving the exclusion of your former spouse's current wife.

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I do NOT need to have the same opinion as you about EVERYTHING! When we have a difference in opinion please be fair and listen to my point of view. I know I always listen to yours as you SCREAM IT!

Please do not tell me the district we will be raising our kids in is insufficient and we should send them to private school. If you are will to fork the tuition I will send them ANYWHERE you'd like.

And I HAVE to agree with 'what do I call you, mom? mom-in-law? mrs. p?'

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Posted by Dooodles

#6 We both love you very much. But please realize I come first now in his life. It does not mean he loves you ANY less. He just loves another woman in a TOTALLY different way!

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I think this rule needs to show up at least 54 more times in this list!

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I don't know how I missed this thread yesterday! Here's my rule...

Please try to show a little enthusiasm-your first born son is getting married. It's not my fault you're divorced and you rely on your son for EVERYTHING.