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Posted by oct.2004bride

I just feel like the people who you thought were your friends, really weren't...

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I have been feeling really down lately about this too. I am here if you need to talk!

Jenn....you have FM

I hear ya, loud and clear!!! It is funny, people always told me when planning a wedding you are going to find out who your friends really are. I am sorry this is happening, but don't feel completely alone!!! Many

I REFUSE to be a part of ANY drama so that I may be friends with anyone and everyone..... Can I be your friend????

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Posted by sandj100304

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I just feel like the people who you thought were your friends, really weren't...

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I have been feeling really down lately about this too. I am here if you need to talk!

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thanks sandj and Kathleen i apprecitate the support

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Posted by btrflygrl

I REFUSE to be a part of ANY drama so that I may be friends
with anyone and everyone..... Can I be your friend????

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Yes friends

I'm sorry you are feeling sad... If there was ONE thing I learned during my entire wedding planning is who my friends ARE and who AREN'T... I was in a slump too. But those who stood by me I knew would make me stronger and it worked! Now I have select friends and I don't regret it one bit!

I hope you don't feel lonely for too long.

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Posted by OctBride03

I'm sorry you are feeling sad... If there was ONE thing I learned during my entire wedding planning is who my friends ARE and who AREN'T... I was in a slump too. But those who stood by me I knew would make me stronger and it worked! Now I have select friends and I don't regret it one bit!

I hope you don't feel lonely for too long.

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I agree and thanks

I don't know why you are sad, but know that you are not alone...

I have been really depressed about 2 'friendships' for a couple years now, and in the end I needed to cut them off because it was hurting me too much. It involves a best friend dating a childhood 'friend' of mine. I felt betrayed by the childhood 'friend' and my best friend couldn't see that I had been taking crap for a while just to keep the peace. Once I spoke my mind and told people how I felt, they just ignored me and pretended that there was nothing wrong...

I had to cut off communication with my best friend. I was the one who introduced him to his girlfriend who wouldn't even acknowledge my existence because we had differences of opinions on certain issues. I told her I was hurt, and her actions told me she didn’t care...

Life goes on...friends change and I know just like I found my FH, I will find more wonderful people to spend time with...

Chin up!

Jennifer, hope you are feeling better today. I'm here if you need to talk


Also going through a bad BM experience here, I wish I could get married WITHOUT the BMs at this point!

It truly is sad when you give yourself in friendship only to find out that the other person has NO CONCEPT of what being a friend is!!! BELIEVE ME I know how you feel.

But better to know the truth now then when a crisis comes up and they leave you hanging!!!

thats why im not friends with any of my old friends anymore. I was constantly taken advantage of, and i kept forgiving them. Eventually i got tired of all the catty BS and i realized why have friends if you can't trust them??? So I just cut all communication.

I've met some friends through FH, but none of my own. Its so hard for me to make friends and open up to people. It takes a lot for me to trust someone after being hurt so many times.

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Posted by OctBride03

I'm sorry you are feeling sad... If there was ONE thing I learned during my entire wedding planning is who my friends ARE and who AREN'T... I was in a slump too. But those who stood by me I knew would make me stronger and it worked! Now I have select friends and I don't regret it one bit!

I hope you don't feel lonely for too long.

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This is so true!! I'm dealing with a very close 'friend' who so far has missed my shower, will miss my bachelorette party this weekend and finally sent back her RSVP about 3 days after the due date. It's time for some spring cleaning in the friends dept.

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Posted by swags1016

It truly is sad when you give yourself in friendship only to find out that the other person has NO CONCEPT of what being a friend is!!! BELIEVE ME I know how you feel.

But better to know the truth now then when a crisis comes up and they leave you hanging!!!

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I agree

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Posted by tracyg

thats why im not friends with any of my old friends anymore. I was constantly taken advantage of, and i kept forgiving them. Eventually i got tired of all the catty BS and i realized why have friends if you can't trust them??? So I just cut all communication.

I've met some friends through FH, but none of my own. Its so hard for me to make friends and open up to people. It takes a lot for me to trust someone after being hurt so many times.

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I have went through this same exact thing.

I had a pain in the a$$ BM, too. Really, she is just a high maintenance, pain in the a$$ friend to begin with. It was just much more pronounced during the wedding planning. She continues to be a pain in the a$$, but I deal with it because sometimes you just have to take people as they are and accept that there are good and bad things about them and that their bad behavior is not necessarily aimed to hurt you, even if that is the effect at times.

If you can't accept the bad things about a friend then you should reevaluate why you are friends with that person.

hope you cheer up!

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Posted by Becky

If you can't accept the bad things about a friend then you should reevaluate why you are friends with that person.

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I agree 10000000000% This is exactly what I did after my wedding. All of my friends went through a 'reevaluation process' lol

I hope you're feeling better today!

Ugh, I hung out with one of FH's friend's girlfriends a couple weeks ago who everyone thinks is a little nutty, but she knows no one in NY really, and I had become somewhat friends with her. She ended up talking a little bad about me to FH when we were both at bar and me and FH were pissed at each other, and he told her that he may be mad at me now, but don't ever talk bad about me. It's like you can't trust anyone! Even if you're not close friends with someone, you think they're nice, and you find out they're trying to make you look bad. He didn't believe anything she said about me.