Saw this on MSN.com
Dear Prudence,
I'd like your advice on how to handle a delicate situation. On my wedding day, the maid of honor appeared at the wedding nearly two and a half hours AFTER the ceremony was to have started, claiming to have been 'lost.' I saw this woman the night before, quite inebriated and barely able to stand. I find it hard to believe she was 'lost.' The trouble is that my wife wishes to continue being friendly with this person and insists that I do the same, holding back my annoyance at what I consider to be a wholly unacceptable gaffe. I suppose I have two questions. First, am I reasonable in refusing to be friendly with this woman? And second, if I must be in her company, how shall this faux pas be addressed? The wedding was three months ago.
—Annoyed Groom
Dear An,
The maid of honor sounds lost, all right ... most likely in a drunken reverie. If this person has been stone-cold sober on all other occasions, then you should accommodate your wife and chalk it up to one unfortunate episode and let it go. If she is habitually 'lost,' then your avoidance of her indeed seems reasonable. And either way, your displeasure need not be addressed at all. Given the particulars, it is your wife who should be put out—and she isn't. Go figure.
I'd like your advice on how to handle a delicate situation. On my wedding day, the maid of honor appeared at the wedding nearly two and a half hours AFTER the ceremony was to have started, claiming to have been 'lost.' I saw this woman the night before, quite inebriated and barely able to stand. I find it hard to believe she was 'lost.' The trouble is that my wife wishes to continue being friendly with this person and insists that I do the same, holding back my annoyance at what I consider to be a wholly unacceptable gaffe. I suppose I have two questions. First, am I reasonable in refusing to be friendly with this woman? And second, if I must be in her company, how shall this faux pas be addressed? The wedding was three months ago.
—Annoyed Groom
Dear An,
The maid of honor sounds lost, all right ... most likely in a drunken reverie. If this person has been stone-cold sober on all other occasions, then you should accommodate your wife and chalk it up to one unfortunate episode and let it go. If she is habitually 'lost,' then your avoidance of her indeed seems reasonable. And either way, your displeasure need not be addressed at all. Given the particulars, it is your wife who should be put out—and she isn't. Go figure.
