scared

So me and my Dh have been talking about TTC...but i am SOOO NERVOUS!!

was anyone else really nervous before actually starting??

You are not alone in your fear! It is completly natural.

YES!!!! My DH was ready before I was.
Now that I'm prego - I feel and look at things a lot differently.
I think it's normal to be nervous about TTC - It's a big step.

i am glad it is normal...when i see a ttc board and all the people on it...i feel like the odd person
since i am sooo nervous about it and to see this board and all the people trying wows me

thanks girls

I am so scared that I cant even get the words out. I am afraid of EVERYTHING about the entire process!

I am scared of being pregnant..I hate doctors and needles...I am scared out of my mind about the labor and delivery...the recovery afterwards...I am scared of taking care of a baby...scared of the fact that my life will center around this child...scared that i wont be any less selfish than I am now..I am scared that we wont have enough money...wont find the right housing and right neighborhood..i am scared my dh is scared...

But...when I look at all the pics of the beautiful babies or see one in the street or in a store and when my heart skips a beat..I know that being scared doesnt compare to what having a baby must be like!

Good luck...and know that I am in the same exact boat as you!!!!

---

Posted by nycchic_24

I am so scared that I cant even get the words out. I am afraid of EVERYTHING about the entire process!

I am scared of being pregnant..I hate doctors and needles...I am scared out of my mind about the labor and delivery...the recovery afterwards...I am scared of taking care of a baby...scared of the fact that my life will center around this child...scared that i wont be any less selfish than I am now..I am scared that we wont have enough money...wont find the right housing and right neighborhood..i am scared my dh is scared...

But...when I look at all the pics of the beautiful babies or see one in the street or in a store and when my heart skips a beat..I know that being scared doesnt compare to what having a baby must be like!

Good luck...and know that I am in the same exact boat as you!!!!

---

Of course it's scary... it's a life-altering experience. Imagine, all your life, you've put yourself 1st, and the moment you find out that you're pg, BOOM! You leave that selfish phase behind and think about this addition to your life. A child changes everything.

Try not to think about the scary change, but think about all the positives... like when your lil one 1st says 'I love you', or when you're comparing stories with other mommies of funny kid stories, or when see your baby's happy face when they hadn't seen you all day and see you for the 1st time... a child is so precious.

jenn...i'm scared! i'm scared of not getting pg, that being a vegetarian will f*^& up everything (even though i know that isn't true), i'm scared that we'll never get a house or save any money...how can we provide if we don't have money? i'm scared that dh will have more pressure and won't be able to handle it. i'm scared of screwing up an innocent life...that i'll do it all wrong. i'm scared it will hurt. i'm scared i will lose my identity...that i'll become one of those women who doesn't have anything for themselves. i'm scared of the freaks out there who will try to hurt me or my baby...i'm scared of everything. but i'm so excited to give my heart and soul to somebody like i have iwth my husband. i can't wait for this little thing that is a piece of him and a piece of me...i can't wait to share everything beautiful that this world offers to someone so special.

eta: you are normal. it is the biggest decision two people can make.

---

Posted by lilmrs

You are not alone in your fear! It is completly natural.

---

I agree 100%!! I dont think anyone ever says 'I'm totally ready for this!' I think its more of a process that you take one day at a time.

Good luck to you and much baby dust!

Kathy

---

Posted by cocoa

jenn...i'm scared! i'm scared of not getting pg, that being a vegetarian will f*^& up everything (even though i know that isn't true), i'm scared that we'll never get a house or save any money...how can we provide if we don't have money? i'm scared that dh will have more pressure and won't be able to handle it. i'm scared of screwing up an innocent life...that i'll do it all wrong. i'm scared it will hurt. i'm scared i will lose my identity...that i'll become one of those women who doesn't have anything for themselves. i'm scared of the freaks out there who will try to hurt me or my baby...i'm scared of everything. but i'm so excited to give my heart and soul to somebody like i have iwth my husband. i can't wait for this little thing that is a piece of him and a piece of me...i can't wait to share everything beautiful that this world offers to someone so special.

eta: you are normal. it is the biggest decision two people can make.

---

OMG YES!!!!! THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I AM FEELING TOO!

---

Posted by RedHead

---

Posted by cocoa

jenn...i'm scared! i'm scared of not getting pg, that being a vegetarian will f*^& up everything (even though i know that isn't true), i'm scared that we'll never get a house or save any money...how can we provide if we don't have money? i'm scared that dh will have more pressure and won't be able to handle it. i'm scared of screwing up an innocent life...that i'll do it all wrong. i'm scared it will hurt. i'm scared i will lose my identity...that i'll become one of those women who doesn't have anything for themselves. i'm scared of the freaks out there who will try to hurt me or my baby...i'm scared of everything. but i'm so excited to give my heart and soul to somebody like i have iwth my husband. i can't wait for this little thing that is a piece of him and a piece of me...i can't wait to share everything beautiful that this world offers to someone so special.

eta: you are normal. it is the biggest decision two people can make.

---

OMG YES!!!!! THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I AM FEELING TOO!

---

WE ARE ALL SCARED....if anyone says they arent, they are lying. Its got to be the most scary thing ever ....

I would think something was wrong with you if you weren't scared. This is the biggest undertaking of your life. You're not a Mom for a short duration of time, it's a lifelong committment. Nothing about it should be taken lightly. You will be fine!! And you will have a beautiful baby/babies to boot

I was scared about TTC and I'm still scared now that I'm preggo. The whole process and everything about this scares me.

It's definitely ok to feel this way...and normal to at least be a little bit afraid.

---

Posted by ambersmom

I would think something was wrong with you if you weren't scared. This is the biggest undertaking of your life. You're not a Mom for a short duration of time, it's a lifelong committment. Nothing about it should be taken lightly. You will be fine!! And you will have a beautiful baby/babies to boot

---

thanks sharon

It is very scary!

Actually, one of the first things I said to dh after we found out was 'omg- what did we get ourselves into?'

I used to think I would never be ready- I don;t think anyone ever feels like they totally are.

I am scared, because of medical history. Dr. says its ok within time, DH cant wait, I am still hesitating.
You are not alone!