ok. so the more i think about being married, i an unreasonably scared. i dont know why but im actually scared of getting married. we already live together and it goes amazingly.
i am a self-made spoiled brat. i like things the way i like them and thats that. i pout when i dont get my way even. it's in a cute way and FH gets a kick out of it, but i do it nonetheless.
i have a wicked routine to getting ready and when its thrown off course, i'm pissy. in the mornings i hate being talked to for 20 mins at least and just dont wanna interact with people when i first get up.
i over tip. i am a wicked-over gifter. im anal about where things go. im beyond organized. i sleep as much as i can and i hate washing utensils.
sure, he knows all of this right now but what if in 30 years it's not as cute and he doesnt want to deal.
im so scared he's just going to get tired of me.
sorry just needed to vent
is anyone else a little frightened about the marriage, not the wedding?
Mrs.D08
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Are you my long lost twin I'm also terrified....people keep telling me it's not that bad and I'll be ok.
angl2001
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i have had moments here and there........like when i am sitting in MY room on the computer BLASTING my music and i think i wont be able to do this anymore! i move my funitaure around alot......i like change......prob wont be anle to do that as much once im married lol so your not alone i think more pople feel the way you do than you think! wether they say they do or not is another story..........it will be fine!!!
Wifeynella
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lol. I asked FH if he was scared or nervous and he laughed at me he said he's ready for it and doesnt see anything to be nervous about.
i was like 'seriously'
missliss
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If you already live together and he's ok with all these things, then I wouldn't worry. He obviously isn't bothered enough by any of it to not want to marry you .
None of us are perfect to live with...that's what makes it interesting. And just think...you'll have all the living-together 'kinks' smoothed out by the time the wedding rolls around. After that it's all gravy.
Christine N Ralph
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I am getting married in '10 and I know that I have a long time...but I am still scared...I think you should take a deep breath and realize that maybe some of your tendencies need to be changed in order for your marriage to work. You realize that you can be difficult at times (as is everyone) but when you see that your behavior might start to hurt the relationship then take a step back and try to change a little bit. Marriage is going to be a huge adjustment and both of you need to work together in order for it to work...HTH
deb08
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Scary that a little piece of paper makes such a difference in one life---- we have been living together for years and this came up the other nite over dinner too- just part of the whole pitcure of life I guess
ItalianMcBride09
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I'm not scared, to me if it takes him 30 years to realize I am insane then he is just as insane!! lol He knows all my flaws, even down to my knickers hahahaha....I told him when we were dating...this is how I am i want to be a house wife, I never want to work and Im slightly insane, he loved it and was sold lol
LuvMyAlfonse
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Yes, yes, and yes.
Take your fear and multiply it by 10. We don't live together. I just live with my mom (dad died, sis is in college) - so it's very easy living.
I am petrified of marriage. When we fight we sometimes give each other the silent treatment and get over it. It will be hard to do that when living together.
I worry too about working at it. We always say we're not going to be a statistic. It's going to be hard, hard work - it's always easier to give up.
I am truly petrified.
Wifeynella
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lmaoooo my FH thinks I am adorable and its funny b/c I am soooooooooooo much like his mom and brother. so i guess if he's ok with it i guess i shouldnt be scared, but alas.. lmaoooo
DNS91308
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Everyone is crazy and has little things like that. In 30 years i doubt you will be pouting maybe you will be complaining about arthritis... i dont know... either way, everyone will always have 'things'. He knows those things and he loves those things.
ItalianMcBride09
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thats exactly what it is, Im his mom 30 years ago, so he knows what he'll have in 30 years!!
Espo22
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WOW you sound ALOT like my FH hahahaha. But you know what i love him for who he is and that means every little thing about him, the good and the bad. Same way i deal with his stuff, he has to deal with mine too
Kerin2804
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Take some deep breaths...it will all be alright. You love each other and can work through anything that life throws your way together
autumnbride10
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I definitely get scared at times. I think it's natural. You are about to make a HUGE change in your life, and now you also have someone besides yourself to worry about. That is what scares me the most. I am so independent, have lived on my own for 10 years. I just moved in with FH last summer, and it definitely takes adjusting. I just keep telling myself, that he knew what I was like before he proposed, so he knew what he was getting into...LOL
mRm2008
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I think the same things from time to time. I am such a creature of habbit and after almost 30 years of it, I worry what it will be like when married.
I'm sure we all will be fine we just need to keep open communication between us and our FH's and try to be tolerant of each other. Hope they can be tolerant of all our quirks as well
failurebydsign
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i was scared sometimes because i ddnt want a piece of paper to make things go bad
but its only been 2 months and its not a big deal..we lived together before hand as well..so its really not going to be different
