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I'm a very indecisive person.....I second guess everything thing I.do...partly bc I have reallybad anxiety. Between penning this wedding and try to buy a house I'm so stressed out! I have second guessed every decision we have made already. I mesh EVERYTHING!!
Venue, photographer, doing the all inclusive, honeymoon location, where I registered, favors, bm dress, my dress, my jewelry, my veil, now my shoes......doesn't my brain understand I don't have time for this ish! Lol
The only thing I haven't second guessed is marrying my best friend!
I literally am going to have to give up spending time with him bc of work and all that is left to do!!

Anyone else go through this??

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Yes! I have very bad anxiety too, and it's gotten the best of me since we started planning. I have a heart attack pretty much every time we leave an appointment with a vendor because they instill the fear of not being available on my date if I wait too long to book them, but then I know if I just jump into it I'll think 'what if we liked ___ better' and things like that. I'm super indecisive. Luckily spending time with him let's me shut all that off and reminds me the real significance behind the wedding and I'm able to calm down...until the next morning.lol

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All the time. If it helps, I've been told it's much better to be an overthinker than a spur-of-the-moment decision maker because you've weighed all possibilities and still come to a decisions. Our intuition is keener than most because we think about what happens if it blows up in our face.

I posted this in another thread, but there's a book called 'the conscious bride' that addresses all the forms wedding anxiety takes, and one of them certainly manifests itself in planning all the details.

I promise I don't work for the company, author or benefit at all from recommending the book, I just find it extremely helpful when I need to come back to center.

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I have horrible anxiety like you about everything in my life and know I will be the same with this wedding. The thing that I try to remember is that when I make a decision, I make it for a reason and my gut is usually right. Whenever I've gone back and changed things, I've usually regretted it in the end.

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Posted by gonnabefrank

I have horrible anxiety like you about everything in my life and know I will be the same with this wedding. The thing that I try to remember is that when I make a decision, I make it for a reason and my gut is usually right. Whenever I've gone back and changed things, I've usually regretted it in the end.

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This exactly

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Completely understand the anxiety thing. It is not easy to live with and not easy when big decisions need to get made. It's been hard bc fh is only vocal about a few things so I've really been on my own making a lot of these wedding decisions. It's hard, but it does get easier the closer to the wedding because you have less time to think you just have to do it!

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Posted by ndc923

Yes! I have very bad anxiety too, and it's gotten the best of me since we started planning. I have a heart attack pretty much every time we leave an appointment with a vendor because they instill the fear of not being available on my date if I wait too long to book them, but then I know if I just jump into it I'll think 'what if we liked ___ better' and things like that. I'm super indecisive. Luckily spending time with him let's me shut all that off and reminds me the real significance behind the wedding and I'm able to calm down...until the next morning.lol

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YES. I hate when vendors do this! And I'm two years away still! Thank god FH can snap me out of it before I book on the spot. He talked me out of it with a venue I thougt I loved, thank God because the next weekend we saw our place :)

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Posted by haw4

Completely understand the anxiety thing. It is not easy to live with and not easy when big decisions need to get made. It's been hard bc fh is only vocal about a few things so I've really been on my own making a lot of these wedding decisions. It's hard, but it does get easier the closer to the wedding because you have less time to think you just have to do it!

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I this is why my anxiety is through the roof. I sat back and did nothing for too long! I now have way too much to do with only 5 months left!!

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Posted by kaselyn

All the time. If it helps, I've been told it's much better to be an overthinker than a spur-of-the-moment decision maker because you've weighed all possibilities and still come to a decisions. Our intuition is keener than most because we think about what happens if it blows up in our face.

I posted this in another thread, but there's a book called 'the conscious bride' that addresses all the forms wedding anxiety takes, and one of them certainly manifests itself in planning all the details.

I promise I don't work for the company, author or benefit at all from recommending the book, I just find it extremely helpful when I need to come back to center.

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If I knew I had time to read it I would get it lol but I'm afraid I'll put off doing more thing to read that lol

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Thanks girls!! I'm so glad I'm not the only one with anxiety! It mashes it do hard to move past one thing and start the next!

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http://www.brides.com/blogs/aisle-say/2014/09/how-to-make-wedding-planning-decisions.html

saw this on my Facebook Newsfeed and thought of you!

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Vendors are giving me panic attacks doing this, but now anytime a vendor tells me I pretty much have to book on the spot or trash talk another vendor I say no thank you if you're that booked then you won't have enough time to dedicate to my wedding anyways! And then I pretty much book with my gut and how I feel my chemistry is with the vendor so whenever I second guess my choice I remember how nice they were and how they seemed like they were going to give my wedding so much special attention! I booked with a lot of small vendors. ..

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Totally understand the anxiety! Everyone says, 'Wedding planning should be fun!' but it is not. I stress about the budget all the time. I also had a very hard time when we first booked our venue and date because I felt like people were trying to talk us out of it, when we both knew in our hearts this was what we wanted. It's gotten better now because I am trying to have a thick skin. I also have a few close friends who I can vent to, and coming on here helps a lot too! Its easier when people are going through the same thing, at least I know I am not the only one.