My FSIL is being a real see you next tuesday...please tell me if i am being selfish...i know its only april and im not getting married til october but i have been asked about what i want to do for my bachelorette party. So I said I want to do a weekend upstate at my brothers vacation home..like a spa then party at the house with strippers thing. She apparently doesnt care for that idea and keeps bringing up Atlantic city...Then I want to do it first weekend of october cause of the leaves changing and stuff its nice up there and those that dont want to go to the spa can go apple picking or something. Anyways..she tells me she planned a vacation in October and the first two weekends are no good for her and her husband (so FHs party has be pushed back to September too) What the F? So I should have my bachelorette party two months before the wedding???Why would she plan a vacation 2 weeks before the wedding? Theres a lot more to this story..i just feel like shes trying to control every thing..like evrry thing i mention or say i plan on doing she has to say the opposite.
Shelly9697
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That is terrible!! I would be upset too!! Maybe try talking to her about it.
TrueLoveIn2008
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Sorry to hear this. You should go where you want to though - its YOUR b. party!!
Mrs. V 2008
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Wow im sorry...imo its your b party!! you have the right to have it where you want and when you want!! i hope it works out! did you try talking to her about it?
LCnAC
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its like there is no talking to her...her and FH are really close so i kind of have to watch what i say to her...but i told him that i was pissed about this and he is going to talk to her.
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its like there is no talking to her...her and FH are really close so i kind of have to watch what i say to her...but i told him that i was pissed about this and he is going to talk to her.
ok thats good! i really hope it works out
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I'm glad he's going to talk to her. It's your b-party!
ArmyOfBabies
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Tell her it's too bad for her and you're sorry she's going to miss your bachelorette party. Your idea sounds more fun than AC.
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Dude, i swear, there's always ONE person who has to ruin it. I am in the same boat. I have this insane bridesmaid who wants me to have my shower and my bachelorette the same weekend. WHich is THREE months before my wedding. She also thinks 'wine tasting is too hot in August.' Ummm, i don't expect you girls to harvest grapes in the sun.
People are wackos and self centered....
big hugs to you and i hope someone talks some sense into her.
snwb08
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no way, F her. she should be working around your schedule. If she seriously plans a vacation, I'd be like that's cool have fun, too bad you can't make it.
Fancyme220
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i know this might sound a bit cheesy but I would love to go to applefest in sugar loaf NY .... I am getting married in Oct too... i know what you mean with the leafs changing and everything....
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sorry she is being a royal pain- glad that your fh is going to talk to her- if he cant get through to her, the hell with her- its your party, go where you want
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im probably (well 99.9%) positive that my shower and BP will be the same weekend b/c my mom and sis have to come up from florida - i was hearing all different times of when my shower might be and July was mentioned - i am getting married in december and i didnt really want my shower and especially my BP in July its supposed to be a surprise so i dont know too many details but i was hearing things because the planning isnt easy with mom not here - but anyway i was assured that it will be closer to the wedding so i am guessing sept/oct - i wish that my BP could be closer to the wedding but there isnt much i can do b/c of the situation with my family living OOT - im actually going to have 2 bach parties - the big one the weekend of my shower with my bridal party, our aunts, moms and friends - probably a night with strippers and lots of of booze and then a few weeks before the wedding when FH has his BP i am going to go out again with my friends again.....so worst case scenario you can do something like that?
LCnAC
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Thanks girls..i wasnt sure if i was being a bioootch. But FH spoke to her and told her she was being inconsiderate and that its my party and i should be able to what i want to do..and if they cant make it to our parties so be it. She already had her party when it was her wedding. She also wanted to invite her cousins but I put the keibash on that too..i just want my BP and close friends there.
LCnAC
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i know this might sound a bit cheesy but I would love to go to applefest in sugar loaf NY .... I am getting married in Oct too... i know what you mean with the leafs changing and everything....
You know..just working in Manhattan everyday and going to school and running around..i just want to relax and chill!
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Ohhhh Noooo!!! I would def. let her know somewhat of how you feel - this is not something that you are going to want to deal with forever! Just let her know in a nice way (to avoid a blow-out) that you'll be doing whatever it is that YOU want...Not her! She can plan her own wedding!
