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I have really bad baby fever, FH has it too, just not as bad as I do. But we both decided that we won't try until we buy a house, and we hope to have a house a year from now. It's scary when you realize just how quickly time passes by.
I have my momnets...I love kids and can't wait until the day comes that i'll have kids but i think i want to wait until that day comes...I want to enjoy being a newlywed for a little while, not too long though but just a little time. I also won't be disappointed if it happens in the beginning of our marriage
I want one, and now that my niece is talking like crazy and has a great personality--I want one, but I know that I want to be married first and be financially ready and have a house as well
Posted by kimNanthony
I definitely want kids when the time is right but that is not now! I have been in school my whole life and I am just starting my career and I have certain goals I would like to accomplish before I start trying. FH, on the other hand, has wanted to have one for a long time but I always tell him no.
ETA: We can't even get a dog right now because we both work all day and don't get home until 8 or 9 at night after the gym so I don't think it's a good idea to have a baby![]()
I do not have baby fever. I have more house fever lol. FMIL has had baby fever for us for a long time. She's just going to have to wait longer.
Posted by failurebydsign
waiting is not an option..with my condition..if i dont get pregnant by 25..chances are it will cause infertility and wont be able to have my own child
NOT AN OPTION
plus i dont want to bee old..FH will be 26 if we have a baby next year and i think thats WAY TOO OLD..its jmo..not for everyone..but for us only..i want to be a great grandmother and see my family grow..i dont have time to waste
i didnt know my own grandfather and my dad because they died when i was 1 and im not willing to sacrifice time with FH..( big deal) and have my unborn child miss out on knowing important people
JMO..please dont get mad..lol
I've always had that maternal call to be a mom. When i was in high school and they'd ask 'where do you see yourself in x years' the first thing that came to mind was 'a mom' and then came 'owning my own boutique' but the mom part always came first. It's hard because I'm young, but I see so many bad parents out there and I know I can be a better parent than that. I do want to wait until after the wedding though...if we can just get through this wedding without me getting pregnant.
Posted by Espo22
Posted by kimNanthony
I definitely want kids when the time is right but that is not now! I have been in school my whole life and I am just starting my career and I have certain goals I would like to accomplish before I start trying. FH, on the other hand, has wanted to have one for a long time but I always tell him no.
ETA: We can't even get a dog right now because we both work all day and don't get home until 8 or 9 at night after the gym so I don't think it's a good idea to have a baby![]()
LOL well its great that you are actually realizing that.
I fight through my urges to have a baby because i figure we have a long road ahead of us of taking care of the kids, taking them to their games, school, teenage years and all that...plus a time when its all revolved around everything BUT us...so i want to have this time for ourselves...also were not one of those couples who have been together for 6, 7, 8 years before getting married
Posted by failurebydsign
waiting is not an option..with my condition..if i dont get pregnant by 25..chances are it will cause infertility and wont be able to have my own child
NOT AN OPTION
plus i dont want to bee old..FH will be 26 if we have a baby next year and i think thats WAY TOO OLD..its jmo..not for everyone..but for us only..i want to be a great grandmother and see my family grow..i dont have time to waste
i didnt know my own grandfather and my dad because they died when i was 1 and im not willing to sacrifice time with FH..( big deal) and have my unborn child miss out on knowing important people
JMO..please dont get mad..lol
Posted by kimNanthony
Posted by Espo22
Posted by kimNanthony
I definitely want kids when the time is right but that is not now! I have been in school my whole life and I am just starting my career and I have certain goals I would like to accomplish before I start trying. FH, on the other hand, has wanted to have one for a long time but I always tell him no.
ETA: We can't even get a dog right now because we both work all day and don't get home until 8 or 9 at night after the gym so I don't think it's a good idea to have a baby![]()
LOL well its great that you are actually realizing that.
I fight through my urges to have a baby because i figure we have a long road ahead of us of taking care of the kids, taking them to their games, school, teenage years and all that...plus a time when its all revolved around everything BUT us...so i want to have this time for ourselves...also were not one of those couples who have been together for 6, 7, 8 years before getting married
So true. Once you have kids it is going to be all about them. Not that that is a bad thing but I want some time to be selfish with FH and enjoy being a married couple without that responsibility.
Sometimes I feel this way when I'm around other people's little kids...then I remember that they don't stay cute little kids forever. Plus I am not a morning person and I need my sleep, so the all hours of the night being on alert doesn't sound too appealing yet. Then I think about having teenagers filled with all their teen angst and attitude and I think to myself, I definitely need a few more years until I start popping out the bambinos.
I definitely have that maternal feeling....if you ask me what my life goals are they are to be a great mother...i'd be a stay home mom today if i could! FH is in no rush at all to have kids and we have talked about waiting 1 year after we've been married. After we get married I'm going to stop taking BCP ( cause i think they are very bad for you not because I want to get pregnant) and I guess that will leave it up to fate until we start to try.....I'd be ready I think....but I wouldn't say i have the fever...
Posted by catsgirl
no, no, not me i love children but dont want any. our society is to sad and crazy, i will not bring a life into the mix, plus i'm to old.
Posted by Espo22
Posted by failurebydsign
waiting is not an option..with my condition..if i dont get pregnant by 25..chances are it will cause infertility and wont be able to have my own child
NOT AN OPTION
plus i dont want to bee old..FH will be 26 if we have a baby next year and i think thats WAY TOO OLD..its jmo..not for everyone..but for us only..i want to be a great grandmother and see my family grow..i dont have time to waste
i didnt know my own grandfather and my dad because they died when i was 1 and im not willing to sacrifice time with FH..( big deal) and have my unborn child miss out on knowing important people
JMO..please dont get mad..lol
well honestly that doesn't guarantee anything. There are some who die in their 50's, 60's and then some who live until their 90's. FH's father is the youngest of 7 so his mom(fh's grandmother) had him at a later age, infact she was in her late 30's and shes still around, she is 93 and fh is gonna be 29 soon. Meanwhile my grandfather who is over 20 years younger died last year, and my grandparents were fairly young when they had my dad.
if youre doing it bc you really want to then thats different.
Wait if 26 is waaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy too old to have a kid then what am i, ill be 28 at my wedding![]()
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... but at 26 all i could think is NO im too young for this lol or maybe more like no not ready for this.
